The best self-love books

4 authors have picked their favorite books about self-love and why they recommend each book.

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I Think I Need Speech Therapy

By Nina M. Southern,

Book cover of I Think I Need Speech Therapy

This book is about her daughter's personal experience with her speech, and this was a way to help other parents with children how to help their children feel confident about their condition and let other children know that they are beautiful just the way they are. It shows them that nothing is wrong with them, even though they are a little different from the other children, they are still perfect in every way.


Who am I?

I have always been passionate about Black authors and Black children being writers and writing about their experiences or their children’s experiences since I was a young adult. Ever since the Trayvon Martin incident years ago, these Black history stories and books have been so meaningful to the Black community. I used to read just Urban fiction AA books back in high school, but ever since I became a writer/author I have taken a liking to reading children's books about self-love, fear, and going to college, especially for young black children. I read these books to remind me that we are strong-minded people. That no one can take our light from us.


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Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

By Cynthia Sanders,

Book cover of Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

What is my book about?

Mia, the Monster of Fear, and the Fairy of Courage is about a young girl who is afraid and has doubts about going to a new environment. She fears she won’t make any new friends at her new school. Mia feels she won’t be as smart as the other kids. This monster named Fear dwells on her insecurities every day. Fear tells her she is not smart like the others.

Mia starts to believe in him, until the Fairy of Courage came into her dream and showed her a more positive side of things. The Fairy of Courage showed her a more magical side, that Mia never knew she had. So, Mia got rid of the Monster, dumping him down the toilet, and becoming friends with the Fairy.

The Rules of a Little Boss

By Haelee P Moone, Arsalan Khan (illustrator),

Book cover of The Rules of a Little Boss: A book of self-love

This book is such a powerful book for all young boys and girls to read. It's about how to truly love yourself because if you don't love yourself no one else will. It shows that you can be your true self and that self-love is the best love. It's about the author's personal experience as to what she endured growing up as a kid, but this book can also relate to what most teens or young kids go through with bullying, abuse, and more.


Who am I?

I have always been passionate about Black authors and Black children being writers and writing about their experiences or their children’s experiences since I was a young adult. Ever since the Trayvon Martin incident years ago, these Black history stories and books have been so meaningful to the Black community. I used to read just Urban fiction AA books back in high school, but ever since I became a writer/author I have taken a liking to reading children's books about self-love, fear, and going to college, especially for young black children. I read these books to remind me that we are strong-minded people. That no one can take our light from us.


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Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

By Cynthia Sanders,

Book cover of Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

What is my book about?

Mia, the Monster of Fear, and the Fairy of Courage is about a young girl who is afraid and has doubts about going to a new environment. She fears she won’t make any new friends at her new school. Mia feels she won’t be as smart as the other kids. This monster named Fear dwells on her insecurities every day. Fear tells her she is not smart like the others.

Mia starts to believe in him, until the Fairy of Courage came into her dream and showed her a more positive side of things. The Fairy of Courage showed her a more magical side, that Mia never knew she had. So, Mia got rid of the Monster, dumping him down the toilet, and becoming friends with the Fairy.

Dandelion

By Don Freeman,

Book cover of Dandelion

I loved this book as a child and shared it with my own kids when they were little. It really hit home when my youngest daughter was a pre-schooler. Dandelion’s friends do not recognize him when he dresses up and has his hair done. When my daughter was in pre-school, I went to the hairdresser and she dried my curly hair, straight. When I went to pick up my daughter, she started crying and was quite distressed about my new look. I had to put on a hat in order to get her to stop. Reading Dandelion helped her get over that! I also, of course, love the message about not needing to change anything about yourself for your friends because they love you just as you are.


Who am I?

As a mom of three girls, I taught my daughters to celebrate the differences in themselves and others. My older two girls were diagnosed with Celiac Disease prior to the trend of gluten-free foods being widely available. They had to bring their own food to birthday parties and food-based school events, and it was harder to be spontaneous and stay at a friends’ house for dinner or sleepover. Needless to say - they felt different. One of the things that helped them begin to appreciate their difference, was reading picture books that demonstrated that it is differences that make people special and keep life interesting. I am hopeful that my story will do the same for the kids who read it.


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The Worm Family Has Its Picture Taken

By Jennifer Frank, David Ezra Stein (illustrator),

Book cover of The Worm Family Has Its Picture Taken

What is my book about?

Emma Worm is excited for her worm family to have their portrait taken. But when she sees her other friends' portraits, she gets discouraged. "We had the most beautiful smiles," Ellie the Chipmunk squeals. Abigail the Cat meows, "I looked gorgeous with my big poufy hair." The worm family doesn't have teeth...how will they show their beautiful smiles? They don't have hair either...how can it look big and poufy?! So Emma gathers wigs, giant fake teeth, and colorful clothing for her parents and sisters.

But it's only after taking off their costumes that the worm family is able to wriggle and squiggle and squeeze into a delightful pose that only a worm family can make. And Emma? She thinks it's perfectly perfect.

Good Vibes, Good Life

By Vex King,

Book cover of Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

This is one of the first self-help books I read that didn’t feel like too much ‘hard work’ and was still incredibly helpful. What I mean by that is that often self-help books can get a little too theoretical, or hard to digest, and this makes it difficult to uncover the tools that we need without getting lost in all the words. Vex’s book wasn’t like that at all. Vex King breaks down self-love into positive vibes, emphasising that the way to become your greatest self is to welcome and experience these good vibes in various areas of your life. Vex’s approach to self-love is to unpack concepts such as lifestyle, mindset, acceptance, manifestation, and good habits and what they can do to promote your best life. 

To love yourself, then, would be to ensure that you’ve adopted a healthy way of practising all, or most of the above. The…


Who am I?

I embarked on my very first healing journey at the age of 4, after I lost my mother. Through the years, I wanted nothing more than to live a happy life. It wasn’t until the age of 21 that I understood the reason for my pain and discomfort –the lack of love that I had for myself. I started writing about my emotions and sharing these pieces on an online blog. Within a few months, my page grew tremendously. I realised then that we’re all on various healing journeys, and most of us struggle with self-love, even if we look like we’ve got it ‘figured out’ – we still struggle. 


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Dear Self

By Ruby Dhal,

Book cover of Dear Self

What is my book about?

A self-published book that sold over 20,000 copies in its first year alone, Dear Self is a book for anyone who is on a difficult healing journey and wants to love themselves better. This bite-sized self-help book, sprinkled with pieces of prose that have been loved on her social media pages by millions around the world, uncovers various themes that millennial and Gen Z readers can relate to. From heartbreak, loss, grief, attachment and one-sided love, to self-love, healing and mental health, there is something for everyone in this book.

The words within this book will encourage readers to mend their hearts, understand themselves better, engage in self-care, and love themselves and those around them without fear. 

Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy

By Dani Watson,

Book cover of Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy: Transform your mindset, strengthen your self-worth and manifest the life you desire.

This book was such a great read. One of the main goals of this book is for readers to understand what, and how much, they deserve and how this contributes to an increase in self-love. Just like Vex, Dani emphasises the importance of the Law of Attraction and manifestation. She uses examples from her experiences to shed light on the various tools she adopted over the years to build her confidence and create the life she deserves. I love a good self-help book filled with personal examples and what worked/didn’t work in the author’s life, and Watson does that really well. Maybe, I’m nosey, or maybe it's because that’s the way I write my own books and I enjoy diving into other people’s experiences to see how similar we can all be in our healing. 

This book is for anyone spiritual, or readers who believe in the law of attraction,…


Who am I?

I embarked on my very first healing journey at the age of 4, after I lost my mother. Through the years, I wanted nothing more than to live a happy life. It wasn’t until the age of 21 that I understood the reason for my pain and discomfort –the lack of love that I had for myself. I started writing about my emotions and sharing these pieces on an online blog. Within a few months, my page grew tremendously. I realised then that we’re all on various healing journeys, and most of us struggle with self-love, even if we look like we’ve got it ‘figured out’ – we still struggle. 


I wrote...

Dear Self

By Ruby Dhal,

Book cover of Dear Self

What is my book about?

A self-published book that sold over 20,000 copies in its first year alone, Dear Self is a book for anyone who is on a difficult healing journey and wants to love themselves better. This bite-sized self-help book, sprinkled with pieces of prose that have been loved on her social media pages by millions around the world, uncovers various themes that millennial and Gen Z readers can relate to. From heartbreak, loss, grief, attachment and one-sided love, to self-love, healing and mental health, there is something for everyone in this book.

The words within this book will encourage readers to mend their hearts, understand themselves better, engage in self-care, and love themselves and those around them without fear. 

A Is for Ancestors

By Erica White, Cami Vollmer (illustrator),

Book cover of A Is for Ancestors: My Black College ABCs

It shows Black graduates graduating from an HBCU and inspiring younger Black children to follow their dreams. This is to educate young Black children to attend college. I feel this can help a parent get their kids into a Black college to be great and well educated. I personally loved this book because it showed encouragement and empowerment. It taught me to never give up.


Who am I?

I have always been passionate about Black authors and Black children being writers and writing about their experiences or their children’s experiences since I was a young adult. Ever since the Trayvon Martin incident years ago, these Black history stories and books have been so meaningful to the Black community. I used to read just Urban fiction AA books back in high school, but ever since I became a writer/author I have taken a liking to reading children's books about self-love, fear, and going to college, especially for young black children. I read these books to remind me that we are strong-minded people. That no one can take our light from us.


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Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

By Cynthia Sanders,

Book cover of Mia, the Monster of Fear and the Fairy of Courage

What is my book about?

Mia, the Monster of Fear, and the Fairy of Courage is about a young girl who is afraid and has doubts about going to a new environment. She fears she won’t make any new friends at her new school. Mia feels she won’t be as smart as the other kids. This monster named Fear dwells on her insecurities every day. Fear tells her she is not smart like the others.

Mia starts to believe in him, until the Fairy of Courage came into her dream and showed her a more positive side of things. The Fairy of Courage showed her a more magical side, that Mia never knew she had. So, Mia got rid of the Monster, dumping him down the toilet, and becoming friends with the Fairy.

Claire Blair's Unruly Hair

By Tara Cavosie, Shereen Said (illustrator),

Book cover of Claire Blair's Unruly Hair: A Curly-Girl Tale (Brown Hair)

I have always believed that in a perfect children’s book, young readers are able to identify with the characters, perhaps even visualizing themselves in the story. This book goes above and beyond this belief. The main character has curly hair but, like most girls, thinks the grass is greener (or the hair is straighter) on all of the other girls. As Claire struggles to accept her big, unruly, curly hair, she embarks on a journey to find ways to change it. With the story’s charming illustrations and delightful rhyming text, this is a sweet story of acceptance and inclusion. But what really sets this book apart from other books is that it is available in 4 different versions! Readers can choose from African American Claire, Brunette Claire, Blonde Claire, or Redhead Claire! Wow!


Who am I?

As a former teacher, and grandmother of 13 now-grownup kids, I can’t begin to count the total number of children’s books I’ve read. A gazillion maybe? I have published 5 children’s books of my own and have read them to hundreds of classes all over the U.S. I have been an editor of children’s books for about 10 years and feel honored every time an author hands their precious manuscript over to me for assistance. I’ve read so, so many amazing books. It was difficult to name just a handful, but these books spoke to me, evoking emotions that stayed with me long after the last i was dotted and t was crossed. I hope you will feel that as well.


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The Knot Fairy: Winner of 7 Children's Picture Book Awards

By Bobbie Hinman, Kristi Bridgeman (illustrator),

Book cover of The Knot Fairy: Winner of 7 Children's Picture Book Awards

What is my book about?

The Knot Fairy was my first picture book. It blossomed out of love for my grandchildren (and their messy hair) and was a story that had to be told. You see, everyone knows her. She visits children everywhere…And she just likes to tangle their hair! Aha! So she’s the one! Soon my ideas morphed into a series of fairy books, each featuring the pranks of a different mischievous fairy. My mantra became, “Who better to blame it on than a fairy?”

As my first book remains near and dear to my heart, I have had the pleasure of meeting many other first-time authors, each with a story that is near and dear to their heart. The following books are among the best.

Black Girl in Love (with Herself)

By Trey Anthony,

Book cover of Black Girl in Love (with Herself): A Guide to Self-Love, Healing, and Creating the Life You Truly Deserve

If you’re looking for the guidance of an older sister, Black Girl in Love (with Herself) is exactly what you’re looking for. Trey wrote the book she needed to read but didn’t have as a young woman. She writes from the perspective of a young woman who is raised to be strong but unfortunately learned to sacrifice her own needs to please others. She teaches her audience how to be strong without sacrificing herself and without sacrificing her relationships as a young Black woman. 


Who am I?

I am all about support, and support is a big part of Black Girl Magic. I believe that every woman should have a support system and community that values each and every person in it. Many of these authors have been featured on my podcast Support is Sexy, an interview-based podcast that introduces dynamic women professionals and the stories of their journeys to my audiences around the world. I recommended the books of these women because I love their message of self-care, self-love, support, and nurturing a healthy community. 


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Get Over "I Got It"

By Elayne Fluker,

Book cover of Get Over "I Got It"

What is my book about?

If you’re an unapologetically ambitious woman, Elayne is cheering you on—but she’s also encouraging you to recognize how imperative it is that you stop struggling to do it all alone. Too many women suffer from “I Got It!” Syndrome as they strive to accomplish their goals. This mindset can lead to major stress and anxiety. Elayne offers a better approach.

In this book, you’ll learn how establishing a solid support network and enrolling others in your vision are crucial to achieving success and how these healthy strategies have helped billionaire entrepreneurs such as media mogul Oprah Winfrey and Spanx founder Sara Blakely—and ambitious women just like you—reach their next level. It’s time for you to get some support. Get Over “I Got It” tells you how.

Malignant Self-love

By Sam Vaknin,

Book cover of Malignant Self-love: Narcissism Revisited

This is one of the first books I ever read on narcissism, and the most eye-opening. This book is written by Sam Vaknin, a recovering narcissist who takes you deep into the mind and motivations of the narcissist. It is comprehensive, in-depth, and helps one understand how destructive and dangerous narcissists can be. It helped me identify and move on from a horrible relationship I was in with a narcissist.


Who am I?

I am a licensed psychotherapist in private practice and an author. My clinical interests and published books are about narcissism. After being in an emotionally abusive relationship with a narcissist (which I suspect may have turned physical if I had stayed), I decided to make it my mission to not only never experience having a cold and calculating narcissist in my life again, but to also help other people avoid or leave any type of relationship with a narcissist. To this day, I am passionate about researching, writing, and educating others on the dangers of narcissism.


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The Facebook Narcissist: How to Identify and Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones from Social Media Narcissism

By Lena Derhally,

Book cover of The Facebook Narcissist: How to Identify and Protect Yourself and Your Loved Ones from Social Media Narcissism

What is my book about?

A comprehensive guide for understanding how narcissism on social media impacts our mental health, how to protect ourselves and our children from those affected as well as from narcissists, and how to use social media more mindfully. 

The Facebook Narcissist is the first book dedicated to exploring the relationship between narcissism and social media. Lena Derhally, a licensed psychotherapist certified in Imago therapy, delves into how social media enhances individual and cultural narcissism and how it may create or exacerbate toxic narcissistic tendencies in people who use it. Using her clinical expertise, along with scientific research and interviews with other experts in the field, she thoroughly examines: how narcissism on social media contributes to false narratives and ruptures relationships; narcissism and cyberbullying, cyberstalking, trolling, and victim-blaming on social media; and more. 

Her

By Pierre Alex Jeanty, TreManda Pewett (illustrator),

Book cover of Her

If there is a manual for men on how to treat women with love, care, and most importantly, respect, then this is it. 

Of course, it takes great courage for a man to read every page carefully and then generously give a woman what she deserves without selfishness. 

I love that Pierre Alex Jeanty shares his wisdom from a man's perspective, and I wish a substantial male audience would read Her.


Who am I?

I have created art from an early age. Years later, my studies in civil engineering allowed me to combine my love for the arts with my belief in an orderly world. Meanwhile, reading and writing have always been my favorite pursuits. While collaborating as an editor with other authors, assisting them in their writing endeavors, in 2014, I wrote and published my first book. Sharing my writing on Instagram gave birth to the idea of my first poetry book, something like, published in 2018. Since then, two more poetry collections have been published: A TriAngle in 2019 and something like in reverse in 2020.


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something like

By Maria Tzoutzopoulou,

Book cover of something like

What is my book about?

something like is my endeavor to spin the words, like the threads of a delicate fabric, to weave something like poetry, something like silk.

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