The best books to read if you want to learn how to love yourself

Who am I?

I embarked on my very first healing journey at the age of 4, after I lost my mother. Through the years, I wanted nothing more than to live a happy life. It wasn’t until the age of 21 that I understood the reason for my pain and discomfort –the lack of love that I had for myself. I started writing about my emotions and sharing these pieces on an online blog. Within a few months, my page grew tremendously. I realised then that we’re all on various healing journeys, and most of us struggle with self-love, even if we look like we’ve got it ‘figured out’ – we still struggle. 

I wrote...

Dear Self

By Ruby Dhal,

Book cover of Dear Self

What is my book about?

A self-published book that sold over 20,000 copies in its first year alone, Dear Self is a book for anyone who is on a difficult healing journey and wants to love themselves better. This bite-sized self-help book, sprinkled with pieces of prose that have been loved on her social media pages by millions around the world, uncovers various themes that millennial and Gen Z readers can relate to. From heartbreak, loss, grief, attachment and one-sided love, to self-love, healing and mental health, there is something for everyone in this book.

The words within this book will encourage readers to mend their hearts, understand themselves better, engage in self-care, and love themselves and those around them without fear. 
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The books I picked & why

Mind Platter

By Najwa Zebian,

Book cover of Mind Platter

Why did I love this book?

The key to loving yourself is knowing yourself and accepting that person entirely. That is, not just the polished, perfect parts of you but the inner layers. The insecurities. The vulnerabilities. The pain. The mistakes. Written as a bite-sized self-help book of prose that can be easily digested in one or two sittings, Mind Platter is brimming with pieces that changed my perspective of my healing journey for the better. 

If you’re learning to love yourself better, Mind Platter is a great book to dive into for many reasons. It’s a book that unveiled many truths for me, such as the cause of my discomfort and pain (often hidden in my unrealistic expectations of myself and me ‘making a home’ in other people), how to be more forgiving, and the importance of growth and moving on. This book taught me how to be kinder to myself through its discussion of human imperfection, failure, and emotions. It’s a book that paves the way out of the darkness that so many of us believe lies at the end of the tunnel for us. 

By Najwa Zebian,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Mind Platter as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Mind Platter is a compilation of reflections on life through the eyes of an educator, student and human who experienced most of life in silence. It is written in the words of a person who came from Lebanon to Canada at the age of sixteen and experienced what it was like to have fate push you to a place where you don't belong. It is written in the voice of every person who ever felt unheard, mistreated, misjudged or unseen. Mind Platter contains around 200 one-page entries as reflections on different topics that we encounter in our everyday lives; love,…

Book cover of Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

Why did I love this book?

This is one of the first self-help books I read that didn’t feel like too much ‘hard work’ and was still incredibly helpful. What I mean by that is that often self-help books can get a little too theoretical, or hard to digest, and this makes it difficult to uncover the tools that we need without getting lost in all the words. Vex’s book wasn’t like that at all. Vex King breaks down self-love into positive vibes, emphasising that the way to become your greatest self is to welcome and experience these good vibes in various areas of your life. Vex’s approach to self-love is to unpack concepts such as lifestyle, mindset, acceptance, manifestation, and good habits and what they can do to promote your best life. 

To love yourself, then, would be to ensure that you’ve adopted a healthy way of practising all, or most of the above. The book is highly intuitive and loved by millions around the world, finding a place for itself even with those who aren’t avid readers because of how accessible the writing is, making it easy to comprehend and practice in our day-to-day life. 

By Vex King,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Good Vibes, Good Life as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The #1 Sunday Times bestselling non-fiction book of 2021 - over one million copies sold worldwide.

Join the self-love revolution with visionary writer Vex King and discover inspirational messages and universal wisdom to help you manifest positive vibes.

Vex overcame adversity to become a source of hope for thousands of young people, and now draws from his personal experience and his intuitive wisdom to inspire you to:

- practise self-care, overcome toxic energy and prioritize your wellbeing
- cultivate positive lifestyle habits, including mindfulness and meditation
- change your beliefs to invite great opportunities into your life
- manifest your…

Book cover of Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy: Transform your mindset, strengthen your self-worth and manifest the life you desire.

Why did I love this book?

This book was such a great read. One of the main goals of this book is for readers to understand what, and how much, they deserve and how this contributes to an increase in self-love. Just like Vex, Dani emphasises the importance of the Law of Attraction and manifestation. She uses examples from her experiences to shed light on the various tools she adopted over the years to build her confidence and create the life she deserves. I love a good self-help book filled with personal examples and what worked/didn’t work in the author’s life, and Watson does that really well. Maybe, I’m nosey, or maybe it's because that’s the way I write my own books and I enjoy diving into other people’s experiences to see how similar we can all be in our healing. 

This book is for anyone spiritual, or readers who believe in the law of attraction, vibes, and the universe making things happen for us, but it also presses on individual responsibility and taking action to make a positive change in your life. Self-love isn’t just theoretical, it’s not just about affirmations and the way that you speak to/about yourself. Self-love is about taking control. Making changes. Acting in a way that betters your life. If you’re looking for a book that’s not ‘all talk’ and provides you with daily practices to incorporate in your life, then this book is for you.

By Dani Watson,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Self Love and Spiritual Alchemy takes you on a journey to transform your mindset and master The Law of Attraction so that you can create a life that sets your soul on fire.

Dani Watson, a Self Love and Law of Attraction coach, walks you through a process that will help you get clear on what you really want, ditch the limiting beliefs and negative thoughts that are holding your back and teach you how to raise your vibration so that you can to be, do and have anything you desire.

Within the book, Dani shares her story of how…

Book cover of You Can Heal Your Life

Why did I love this book?

Louise Hay is a phenomenal author, having proven her skill through the incredible success of her book You Can Heal Your Body. For those who are familiar with Louise’s personal journey will be aware that all the concepts that she discusses in her books are incorporated as practices in her life that have healed her mentally, emotionally, and even physically. This book was a great read for me because it delved into themes that I haven’t come across before, and how important they can be in healing us. For instance, this book talks about states of mind, causes of disease, and the importance of manifestation, making the mind-body relation not only literal, but also vital in practicing self-love. 

Self-love takes many facets, and two of them are self-acceptance and forgiveness, and Louise discusses this at length in her book. I really enjoyed this book because it approached self-love from a health/scientific perspective – which was incredibly unique – and its relation to our thoughts, affirmations, and mindset. It was truly a life-changing book.

By Louise Hay,

Why should I read it?

6 authors picked You Can Heal Your Life as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Over 50 million lives transformed worldwide! This seminal classic explores how positive thought and affirmations can inspire your own healing, wellbeing and happiness.

Full of ideas and strategies that have worked for millions of people worldwide. You Can Heal Your Life, the definitive bestselling book on self-healing, has transformed the lives of millions of people. This is a book that people credit with profoundly altering their awareness of the impact that the mind has on our health and wellbeing.

In this inspirational work, world renowned teacher Louise L. Hay offers profound insight into the relationship between the mind and the…

Book cover of The Self-Love Experiment: Fifteen Principles for Becoming More Kind, Compassionate, and Accepting of Yourself

Why did I love this book?

I really enjoyed reading Shannon’s book! There were some really useful tools in this one and although Shannon’s self-love journey stemmed from her insecurity in relation to her weight, it is still very applicable to other self-love journeys. The principles that Shannon mentions at the start of her book are life savers, and she is a true beacon of light for those who are struggling with their self-worth. Shannon demonstrates, through her book and her own experiences that changing the way you think about yourself is the key to journeying towards true joy and contentment. 

By Shannon Kaiser,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Self-Love Experiment as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Put a stop to self-sabotage and overcome your fears so that you can gain the confidence you need to reach your goals and become your own best friend.

Too many people seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves first or go after their own dreams out of fear of being selfish or sacrificing others' needs. The Self-Love Experiment rectifies this problem. Whether you want to achieve weight loss, land your dream job, find your soul mate, or get out of debt, it all comes back to self-love and accepting yourself first. Shannon Kaiser learned the secrets…

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