The best books on divorce

8 authors have picked their favorite books about divorce and why they recommend each book.

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The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart

By Daphne Rose Kingma,

Book cover of The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

Psychotherapist Daphne Rose Kingma offers ten coping strategies to heal your heart when struggling with life’s devastations, including divorce. This is a soothing read if one is still raw with grief as it offers both hope and practical suggestions for moving through loss. Divorce can be a chance to heal old wounds and grow and this book offers a terrific start to that process.


Who am I?

As a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, I work with clients during one of the most difficult stages of their lives. Clients often feel regretful about the past and fearful for the future, and the right book recommendation can really help them move forward. I often give clients reading assignments between coaching sessions that help them process their grief, figure out their goals, educate themselves about finances, feel less alone in the divorce process, and become more confident in making major decisions. I’m never not reading on this subject.


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The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

By Jen Lawrence,

Book cover of The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

What is my book about?

In The Designed Divorce, Jen Lawrence shares the secrets she's gleaned from her private coaching and concierge practice and her training as a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, CDC Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.

This book will help you: deal with your emotions so you can focus on the business of divorce, get clear on your goals so your settlement supports your dreams, hire a divorce team that can help you maximize your options, avoid the biggest divorce mistakes that threaten your wealth and peace of mind, implement radical self-care techniques that go far deeper than a spa day, understand your money and how to build financial security, and start down the path to a future that excites you. Filled with practical tips, exercises, and memorable stories injected with Lawrence's trademark humor, The Designed Divorce will make you feel like you are never alone in this process.

Home Will Never Be the Same Again

By Carol R. Hughes, Bruce R. Fredenburg,

Book cover of Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce

With the rise in so-called “gray divorces,” adult children of divorce find that they are just as wounded, betrayed, devastated and grief-stricken as young children. The myth that it is better to “wait to divorce till after the kids are grown” turns out to be just that, a myth. Adult children of divorce have been neglected in divorce books until recently, and this book is a resource geared toward their unique circumstances, helping them process and adjust to their parent's divorce. Divorcing parents would also benefit from reading it if they have adult children.


Who am I?

I am a child of a high-conflict divorce, so when I became a clinical psychologist my mission was to prevent the kind of suffering that is common in divorce, especially for children. I have worked with thousands of children and families going through divorces, some amicably and some with extreme difficulty. Divorce can be damaging but there are ways to prevent that damage, and these books including mine, as well as my blog are all tools with the same goal: help families avoid the pain, upheaval, loss, and destruction of a litigated divorce. In my work now I focus on working with people who commit to work through their divorce without threats of litigation. I work primarily in the area of Collaborative Divorce.


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The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

By Ann Gold Buscho,

Book cover of The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

What is my book about?

Take co-parenting to the next level and provide a stable environment for your children as you and your spouse begin tackling your separation or divorce.

For parents who are separating and want to put their children first, birdnesting could be the interim custody solution you’ve been looking for. Instead of the children splitting their time being shuttled between mom and dad’s separate homes, birdnesting allows the children to stay in the “nest” and instead, requires mom and dad to swap, allowing each parent to stay elsewhere when not with the children.

I Don't Want to Talk About It

By Jeanie Ransom, Kathryn Kunz Finney (illustrator),

Book cover of I Don't Want to Talk About It

I frequently use this child’s book to help young children cope with the divorce of their parents. Too often, I’ve found, parents don’t know how to talk to their children about divorce, and even more often, children don’t know how to talk to their parents about their feelings and what they may see as the end of their family. I Don’t Want to Talk About It follows a young girl who just doesn’t want to talk about her fears and painful feelings when she discovers that her parents are divorcing. However, with the gentle help of her parents, she is ultimately able to gain the courage to talk to them about what the future holds. The children I’ve counseled about divorce have responded well to this soft and empathic book. I highly recommend it.

Who am I?

As a practicing psychologist for the past twenty years, I have treated hundreds of children and teens who have behavior problems, as well as provided help for parents who want to improve their parenting skills. Central to many, if not most, of the problems I see revolve around poor communication. Many parents don’t know how to effectively communicate about certain issues, which often causes even more problems with their children. However, when parents learn how to approach their children without reacting in frustration and anger, I’ve witnessed amazing improvement in both behavior and the parent-child relationship.


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Closing Pandora's Box: Empowering Parents to Help Their Children Reject Pornography

By Gail A. Poyner,

Book cover of Closing Pandora's Box: Empowering Parents to Help Their Children Reject Pornography

What is my book about?

You may be concerned that your child/teen has been exposed to pornography, or discovered that they are regularly viewing it. However, there are few books written by experts to assist parents in helping their children resist the incredibly strong pull of one of today’s most damaging and pervasive addictions. Closing Pandora’s Box is just that—a guide to help parents teach their children the skills they need to reject this increasingly disturbing media.

Closing Pandora’s Box is full of resources, education, and worksheets to assist you and your child/teen cope with the relentless onslaught of pornography and its damaging effects. With effective communication, skill, and the power of relationships, parents can make a difference when it comes to fighting the dangerous riptide of pornography. 

Road to Divorce

By Lawrence Stone,

Book cover of Road to Divorce: England, 1530-1987

The leading authority on the history of divorce in England, Lawrence Stone’s brilliantly researched books are scholarly and highly readable. Road to Divorce is a frank and intimate account of the changing moral views of the past. It is utterly engrossing, full of drama, and leads readers to appreciate what a shocking prison marriage proved to be for hundreds of thousands of couples who, until 1857, needed an Act of Parliament to escape a bad marriage. Wives found it far harder than husbands to get a divorce as the legal obstacles were greater.

Who am I?

I have been researching, curating, and writing women’s history for 30 years. I curated the suffragette exhibition Purple, White, and Green at the Museum of London. I wrote The Suffragettes in Pictures; Love and Dirt: The Marriage of Arthur Munby and Hannah Cullwick; Elsie and Mairi Go To War: Two Extraordinary Women on the Western Front; The Criminal Conversation of Mrs Norton, and Rise Up, Women! The Remarkable Lives of the Suffragettes. I am a public historian, devoted to sharing my research and writing with all. I am a keen podcaster, Youtuber, and guest on television and radio. You could say I’m a heroine addict. I hope you love my recommendations.


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Rise Up, Women! The Remarkable Lives of the Suffragettes

By Diane Atkinson,

Book cover of Rise Up, Women! The Remarkable Lives of the Suffragettes

What is my book about?

The suffragettes and their actions would come to define protest movements for generations to come. From their marches on Downing Street, the selling of their paper, Votes for Women, through to the more militant activities of the Women’s Social and Political Union – the bombing of pillar-boxes, acts of arson, and the slashing of great works of art – the women who participated in the movement endured police brutality, assault, imprisonment and force-feeding, all in the relentless pursuit of one goal: the right to vote.

Rise Up, Women! tells the story of a richly diverse group that spanned the divides of class and country, women of all ages who were determined to fight for what had for so long been denied. 

The Truth about Children and Divorce

By Robert E. Emery,

Book cover of The Truth about Children and Divorce: Dealing with the Emotions So You and Your Children Can Thrive

If you have children, this book is a great follow-up to the parenting section of my book Peace after Divorce. Based on his professional experience as a therapist and researcher Dr. Emery shares important steps you can take to see that your children become well-adjusted and thrive. I’m impressed with the depth of his insights and feel that parents who read this book will be better able to navigate the tricky pitfalls of parenting through and after divorce. Stories of families illustrate his points and make this book an interesting read as well as a rich resource for those who want to minimize the negative impact of divorce on their children. This is the only book on my list not from a Christian perspective but it is good for parents.

Who am I?

I have a passion for helping people move past the pain of divorce because I’ve been there myself. As a counselor I knew what I needed to do to cope and heal but I also quickly realized the importance of making prayerful decisions and trusting God. It’s my joy to walk you through steps you can take to cope now and move to a brighter future. My education, career, faith, and experiences have resulted in my book Peace after Divorce being recognized as an exemplary Christian self-help book by the Illumination Book Awards. 


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Peace After Divorce: Choosing Concrete Actions Rooted in Faith

By Renee Smith Ettline,

Book cover of Peace After Divorce: Choosing Concrete Actions Rooted in Faith

What is my book about?

Divorce hurts! And, it’s normal to feel a range of negative emotions such as anger, resentment, guilt, fear, sadness, and loneliness. Left unaddressed, these undercurrents of pain can last a lifetime. Fortunately, you can learn ways to move beyond the heartache.

Peace after Divorce is a practical and spiritual guide filled with a deep understanding of the emotions and battles faced while enduring divorce and its aftermath. Step-by-step strategies zero in on ways to cope with everyday issues while also helping you discover your God-given power to find healing, joy, and peace. Uplifting and encouraging with real-life examples, this book will help you navigate the trials and tribulations of divorce, while equipping you with tools to begin living a fulfilling life of purpose, meaning, faith, and hope. An Illumination Book Award winner, Peace after Divorce will help you leave the pain and sorrow behind and move toward a brighter future.

Reno

By Max Miller,

Book cover of Reno

Published in 1941, you might have to do a little searching to find this book. Max Miller, a former newspaperman, recaptures the glamour of Reno in its heyday as “Divorce Capital of the World”. The prose is racy and fun.


Who am I?

Sandra V. McGee has co-authored six books with her husband, William L. McGee. She is regarded as an expert on the Reno divorce ranch era, which flourished from the 1930s to the 1950s. Sandra’s passions are movies from the 1930s and ‘40s, many featuring a Reno divorce in the storyline. The Divorce Seekers is optioned for a streaming series.


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The Divorce Seekers: A Photo Memoir of a Nevada Dude Wrangler

By William L. McGee, Sandra V. McGee,

Book cover of The Divorce Seekers: A Photo Memoir of a Nevada Dude Wrangler

What is my book about?

Reno, 1947. The heyday of the six-week divorce era when “I’m going to Reno!” was synonymous with “quickie” divorce. From 1947 to 1949, Bill McGee was the head dude wrangler on the Flying M.E., Nevada’s most exclusive divorce ranch (as they were called), twenty miles south of Reno. The Flying M.E. catered to wealthy divorce seekers… Easterners with names like Astor, du Pont, Roosevelt, and Hollywood celebrities, such as Clark Gable and Ava Gardner. Bill’s stories about the changing cast of characters that came and went every six weeks are like an old Hollywood movie coming to life. True stories with 500 photos.

Reno Now and Then

By Neal Cobb, Jerry Fenwick,

Book cover of Reno Now and Then

Besides knowing everything about Reno history, Neal Cobb and Jerry Fenwick have carefully photographed and juxtaposed the “now and the then” images of Reno sites and captioned the images in detail. The books (there are two volumes) beckon a walking trip through various neighborhoods, books in hand, comparing the past with the present.


Who am I?

Sandra V. McGee has co-authored six books with her husband, William L. McGee. She is regarded as an expert on the Reno divorce ranch era, which flourished from the 1930s to the 1950s. Sandra’s passions are movies from the 1930s and ‘40s, many featuring a Reno divorce in the storyline. The Divorce Seekers is optioned for a streaming series.


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The Divorce Seekers: A Photo Memoir of a Nevada Dude Wrangler

By William L. McGee, Sandra V. McGee,

Book cover of The Divorce Seekers: A Photo Memoir of a Nevada Dude Wrangler

What is my book about?

Reno, 1947. The heyday of the six-week divorce era when “I’m going to Reno!” was synonymous with “quickie” divorce. From 1947 to 1949, Bill McGee was the head dude wrangler on the Flying M.E., Nevada’s most exclusive divorce ranch (as they were called), twenty miles south of Reno. The Flying M.E. catered to wealthy divorce seekers… Easterners with names like Astor, du Pont, Roosevelt, and Hollywood celebrities, such as Clark Gable and Ava Gardner. Bill’s stories about the changing cast of characters that came and went every six weeks are like an old Hollywood movie coming to life. True stories with 500 photos.

Splitting

By Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy,

Book cover of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Divorcing someone with a personality disorder can be one of the most stressful things one can face. Bill Eddy is a family lawyer and therapist who understands the complexities of divorcing a high conflict person and has mastered ways to communicate and co-parent with them. This book is a must-read for anyone facing high conflict divorce as it is filled with practical tips and suggestions.


Who am I?

As a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, I work with clients during one of the most difficult stages of their lives. Clients often feel regretful about the past and fearful for the future, and the right book recommendation can really help them move forward. I often give clients reading assignments between coaching sessions that help them process their grief, figure out their goals, educate themselves about finances, feel less alone in the divorce process, and become more confident in making major decisions. I’m never not reading on this subject.


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The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

By Jen Lawrence,

Book cover of The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

What is my book about?

In The Designed Divorce, Jen Lawrence shares the secrets she's gleaned from her private coaching and concierge practice and her training as a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, CDC Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.

This book will help you: deal with your emotions so you can focus on the business of divorce, get clear on your goals so your settlement supports your dreams, hire a divorce team that can help you maximize your options, avoid the biggest divorce mistakes that threaten your wealth and peace of mind, implement radical self-care techniques that go far deeper than a spa day, understand your money and how to build financial security, and start down the path to a future that excites you. Filled with practical tips, exercises, and memorable stories injected with Lawrence's trademark humor, The Designed Divorce will make you feel like you are never alone in this process.

BIFF for Coparent Communication

By Bill Eddy, Annette Burns, Kevin Chafin

Book cover of BIFF for Coparent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts

Bill Eddy is the expert on reducing conflict in high-conflict divorce (all of his books are well worth reading). Conflict in divorce can be traumatic, and especially hurts the children. Bill has useful acronyms and tools to help manage the intensity of communication between divorcing parents. His style is conversational and informal, but his content is rich. I like the way he illustrates his points with stories of people he’s worked with. I recommend BIFF and other tools to my patients going through divorce.


Who am I?

I am a child of a high-conflict divorce, so when I became a clinical psychologist my mission was to prevent the kind of suffering that is common in divorce, especially for children. I have worked with thousands of children and families going through divorces, some amicably and some with extreme difficulty. Divorce can be damaging but there are ways to prevent that damage, and these books including mine, as well as my blog are all tools with the same goal: help families avoid the pain, upheaval, loss, and destruction of a litigated divorce. In my work now I focus on working with people who commit to work through their divorce without threats of litigation. I work primarily in the area of Collaborative Divorce.


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The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

By Ann Gold Buscho,

Book cover of The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

What is my book about?

Take co-parenting to the next level and provide a stable environment for your children as you and your spouse begin tackling your separation or divorce.

For parents who are separating and want to put their children first, birdnesting could be the interim custody solution you’ve been looking for. Instead of the children splitting their time being shuttled between mom and dad’s separate homes, birdnesting allows the children to stay in the “nest” and instead, requires mom and dad to swap, allowing each parent to stay elsewhere when not with the children.

Mom's House, Dad's House

By Isolina Ricci,

Book cover of Mom's House, Dad's House

Ricci has been writing books for divorcing families for more than 20 years. This book is a classic that helps parents transition to shared parenting time, and parenting children in two homes. She writes supportively about the transition and adjustment to solo-parenting, with helpful suggestions and good illustrations. She followed up with two other books that I always recommend: Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids, and The Co-Parenting Toolkit. If I could only recommend one book for divorcing families, it would be one of Isolina Ricci’s.


Who am I?

I am a child of a high-conflict divorce, so when I became a clinical psychologist my mission was to prevent the kind of suffering that is common in divorce, especially for children. I have worked with thousands of children and families going through divorces, some amicably and some with extreme difficulty. Divorce can be damaging but there are ways to prevent that damage, and these books including mine, as well as my blog are all tools with the same goal: help families avoid the pain, upheaval, loss, and destruction of a litigated divorce. In my work now I focus on working with people who commit to work through their divorce without threats of litigation. I work primarily in the area of Collaborative Divorce.


I wrote...

The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

By Ann Gold Buscho,

Book cover of The Parent's Guide to Birdnesting: A Child-Centered Solution to Co-Parenting During Separation and Divorce

What is my book about?

Take co-parenting to the next level and provide a stable environment for your children as you and your spouse begin tackling your separation or divorce.

For parents who are separating and want to put their children first, birdnesting could be the interim custody solution you’ve been looking for. Instead of the children splitting their time being shuttled between mom and dad’s separate homes, birdnesting allows the children to stay in the “nest” and instead, requires mom and dad to swap, allowing each parent to stay elsewhere when not with the children.

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