Why am I passionate about this?

Ever since I first started coaching at the tender age of 15, my main passion in life has been helping others find their own passions. Over more than four decades as a coach, educator, and mentor, I’ve read a lot of self-help books. They don’t always deliver. But some gems in the genre have truly helped me—along with the thousands of people I’ve recommended them to—experience significant personal growth and discover a richer, more meaningful existence. It’s my pleasure to share the best of the best here. Pick one up today and I promise your life will be better for it! 


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Eyes Up!: Discover Your Full Potential and Form Meaningful Connections Through Subtle Shifts in Perspective

By TJ Kostecky, Dan DiClerico,

Book cover of Eyes Up!: Discover Your Full Potential and Form Meaningful Connections Through Subtle Shifts in Perspective

What is my book about?

My book is a comprehensive self-help guide covering all aspects of life, from career to family to spiritual fulfillment. Drawing…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life

TJ Kostecky Why did I love this book?

This book changed my life. It’s my top recommendation for friends and family and the one I reference most during my leadership workshops. Why? Happiness is truly one of the biggest advantages of life. Not only is it a predictor of career success, but it also paves the way for deeper, more meaningful connections with the people around you.

I’ve probably read Achor’s a dozen times now, and with each reading, I discover some new secret for rewiring my brain to see the best in myself and the world at large. Thanks to the gratitude tools I’ve incorporated from this book, I honestly haven’t had a bad day in nine years. Pick up a copy today. I guarantee you’ll be happy you did!

By Shawn Achor,

Why should I read it?

6 authors picked The Happiness Advantage as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Most people want to be successful in life. And of course, everyone wants to be happy. When it comes to the pursuit of success and happiness, most people assume the same formula: if you work hard, you will become successful, and once you become successful, then you'll be happy. The only problem is that a decade of cutting-edge research in the field of positive psychology has proven that this formula is backwards. Success does not beget happiness.

Based on the largest study ever conducted on happiness and human potential (a survey conducted by the author of more than 1,600 students),…


Book cover of The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups

TJ Kostecky Why did I love this book?

Why are some people better leaders than others? I’ve never believed they’re just born that way (or I wouldn’t be in the business of leadership training!). No book has shaped my thinking on this subject more than this one. It’s another title I’ve recommended more times than I can remember. 

The big ‘aha’ moment for me in Coyle’s book was recognizing that effective leadership is not about one individual but the group as a whole. That’s allowed me to show more vulnerability as a coach, which has inspired confidence in my players. It’s helped me create a safe environment in the classroom, allowing my students to thrive. Whatever group you belong to—at home, at work, in the community—will invariably get stronger, healthier, and more successful from the many fascinating takeaways found in the pages of The Culture Code.

By Daniel Coyle,

Why should I read it?

5 authors picked The Culture Code as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

'A marvel of insight and practicality' Charles Duhigg, author of The Power of Habit
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How do you build and sustain a great team?

The Culture Code reveals the secrets of some of the best teams in the world - from Pixar to Google to US Navy SEALs - explaining the three skills such groups have mastered in order to generate trust and a willingness to collaborate. Combining cutting-edge science, on-the-ground insight and practical ideas for action, it offers a roadmap for creating an environment where innovation flourishes, problems get solved, and expectations are exceeded.…


Book cover of The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact

TJ Kostecky Why did I love this book?

The foundation of my Vision Training for Life leadership workshops is maintaining a wide, open lens on life so that you can take in as many experiences as possible. But one question I used to struggle with was, why do some experiences, even those that seem inconsequential at the time, have such an outsized impact?

The Heath brothers answered the question for me, and then some, through their combination of data-driven research and rich storytelling. This book imparts so many lessons, including how crucial first impressions are for predicting successful outcomes. That insight alone has helped spark so much human connection for me. The book is filled with many more nuggets that promise to improve your life.

By Chip Heath, Dan Heath,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked The Power of Moments as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

'Beautifully written, brilliantly researched' Angela Duckworth, bestselling author of GRIT

'The most interesting, immediately actionable book I've read in quite a while... If life is a series of moments, the Heath brothers have transformed how I plan to spend mine' Adam Grant, bestselling author of ORIGINALS and OPTION B, with Sheryl Sandberg

In this latest New York Times bestseller by the authors of Switch and Made to Stick, Chip and Dan Heath explore why certain brief experiences can jolt, elevate and change us - and how we can learn to create such extraordinary moments in…


Book cover of Connecting with Coincidence: The New Science for Using Synchronicity and Serendipity in Your Life

TJ Kostecky Why did I love this book?

I’m a big proponent of the power of synchronicity, which I describe as the belief that higher powers are all around us if only we’re willing to let them in. Beitman’s groundbreaking book illuminates the science behind that serendipity. Along the way, he teaches readers how to attract opportunities that will enrich their lives by keeping their eyes and minds open and constantly curious.

 It might sound like magic, but it really is possible to manifest good fortune throughout our lives. It’s no coincidence that so many people who I give this book to are quick to benefit from some lucky break. And what do I tell them? Luck had nothing to do with it, my friend.

By Bernard Beitman,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Connecting with Coincidence as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

We've all experienced or heard of surprising events and unexplainable coincidences-money that seems to come from nowhere, a spontaneous idea that turns into a life-changing solution, meeting our soulmate on a flight we weren't supposed to take, or families being reunited by "accident" after years of separation.

Often these coincidences are explained as being controlled by a higher power or pure chance. But for the first time since Carl Jung's work, comes bold new research that explains scientifically how we can identify, understand, and perhaps even control the frequency of coincidences in our everyday lives.

Bernard Beitman, a leading expert…


Book cover of The Future You: Break Through the Fear and Build the Life You Want

TJ Kostecky Why did I love this book?

As a lifelong educator and coach, I’m constantly helping people think about their futures. One piece of advice I always give is to grab a copy of this book. Johnson is a futurist who works with large corporations, governments, and institutions on planning for the years and decades ahead. In this book, he brings his “future casting” process to the individual level, helping people change their story about their future and then showing them how to get there.

The future can feel daunting. Before reading this book, even I used to get tripped up thinking about it. Johnson reassures us with his measured thoughts on the topic and his clear, actionable program for seeing the future and your rightful place in it.

By Brian David Johnson,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Future You as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

YOUR FUTURE STARTS NOW

By the time you reach the end of the book, I promise you will understand your Future You better than ever...you will be able to see yourself in the future you want and know the steps needed to get there.

Brian David Johnson has spent a quarter century helping governments, schools, corporations, and small businesses shape the future-now, he wants to help you.

In The Future You, Johnson distills his work as an applied futurist and gives readers the practical tools to craft the future they've always wanted. Offering a unique combination of practical guidance, interactive…


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Eyes Up!: Discover Your Full Potential and Form Meaningful Connections Through Subtle Shifts in Perspective

By TJ Kostecky, Dan DiClerico,

Book cover of Eyes Up!: Discover Your Full Potential and Form Meaningful Connections Through Subtle Shifts in Perspective

What is my book about?

My book is a comprehensive self-help guide covering all aspects of life, from career to family to spiritual fulfillment. Drawing on stories from my own life, the book shows readers how small shifts in perspective can have a major impact on them, leading to higher levels of success and satisfaction. 

You’ll learn 7 key principles to transform your life and the lives of others through your leadership: See the whole field, Look, listen, and learn, Play the game the right way, Make everyone around you better, Discover the joy of the game, Believe in the team, and See beyond the game. Embrace a more fulfilling and successful life with Eyes Up! and start seeing the world through a fresh, transformative lens.

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An enthralling portrait of the Bloomsbury Group’s key figures told through a rich collection of intimate photographs. Photography framed the world of the Bloomsbury Group. The thousands of photographs surviving in albums kept by Virginia Woolf, Vanessa Bell, Dora Carrington, and Lytton Strachey, among others, today offer us a private insight into their lives.

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