Why am I passionate about this?

I am an artist and writer drawn to the intersections of non-believe. My work explores the friction points non-believers encounter and illuminates a path forward informed by reason and empathy. My writing is evidence-based, with the skepticism that comes with being an atheist, but infused with warmth, clarity, and understanding. Grief can present friction for non-believers. I aim to support those navigating such losses by providing evidence-based guidance and compassion. I hope you find some valuable nuggets in this list of books. 


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Grief for Atheists: A Compassionate Guide with Evidence-Based Strategies to Navigate Your Loss

By Betsy DeVille,

Book cover of Grief for Atheists: A Compassionate Guide with Evidence-Based Strategies to Navigate Your Loss

What is my book about?

Finding solace after a loss can be agonizing for nonbelievers, and the grief resources out there often don't resonate with…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss

Betsy DeVille Why did I love this book?

I am a science person. I love the magic of discovering why things work the way they do. In this book, a neuroscientist and psychologist explain the brain science behind grief.

People experiencing grief can have a lot of physical symptoms that might be confusing. This book explains and validates why some of those physical symptoms are happening. 

By Mary-Frances O'Connor,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked The Grieving Brain as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

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NPR SciFri Book Club Pick

Next Big Idea Club's "Top 21 Psychology Books of 2022"

Behavioral Scientist Notable Books of 2022

A renowned grief expert and neuroscientist shares groundbreaking discoveries about what happens in our brain when we grieve, providing a new paradigm for understanding love, loss, and learning.

In The Grieving Brain, neuroscientist and psychologist Mary-Frances O'Connor, PhD, gives us a fascinating new window into one of the hallmark experiences of being human. O'Connor has devoted decades to researching the effects of grief on the brain, and in this book, she makes cutting-edge neuroscience accessible through her contagious enthusiasm,…


Book cover of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Betsy DeVille Why did I love this book?

By understanding, we can find ways to change. I read this book with my brother while he was pursuing his MSW. While very academic, this slightly dated book begins to helpfully unpack why we feel things all over our bodies and how we can better retrain our central nervous systems to make our days better by looking at trauma. 

By Bessel Van Der Kolk,

Why should I read it?

19 authors picked The Body Keeps the Score as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

#1 New York Times bestseller

"Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society." -Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress Studies

A pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times bestseller

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der…


Book cover of The Happiness Advantage: How a Positive Brain Fuels Success in Work and Life

Betsy DeVille Why did I love this book?

While the title may be the last thing a person experiencing grief wants to read, the science and reasoning behind the recommended habits we can build are practical and useful. This book is not written for a reader who is grieving but more for a person pursuing a more general career and life self-help, so it isn’t full of stories about grief being transformative.

The author is a Harvard lecturer who studies positive psychology. His guidance on pursuing happiness is provided in a way that is actionable and not overwhelming. 


By Shawn Achor,

Why should I read it?

7 authors picked The Happiness Advantage as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Most people want to be successful in life. And of course, everyone wants to be happy. When it comes to the pursuit of success and happiness, most people assume the same formula: if you work hard, you will become successful, and once you become successful, then you'll be happy. The only problem is that a decade of cutting-edge research in the field of positive psychology has proven that this formula is backwards. Success does not beget happiness.

Based on the largest study ever conducted on happiness and human potential (a survey conducted by the author of more than 1,600 students),…


Book cover of The Tenth Good Thing about Barney

Betsy DeVille Why did I love this book?

This simple children’s book shares the story of the death of a beloved pet and the subsequent processing of the loss. It has a gentle and clear approach, without any suggestion of an afterlife but rather an appreciation for all the wonderful things about the pet who is gone. 

If you are interested in continuing bonds with a child after a loss, this is a nice way to approach and expand on the topic. 

By Judith Viorst, Erik Blegvad (illustrator),

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked The Tenth Good Thing about Barney as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

My cat Barney died this Friday. I was very sad. My mother said we could have a funeral for him, and I should think of ten good things about Barney so I could tell them...
But the small boy who loved Barney can only think of nine. Later, while talking with his father, he discovers the tenth -- and begins to understand.


Book cover of Resilient Grieving: Finding Strength and Embracing Life After a Loss That Changes Everything

Betsy DeVille Why did I love this book?

This book is part science, part memoir. The author shares how she applied the research she has done around resilience as she grappled with grief when her child died.

When we are grieving without the false promises of an afterlife, learning how to support ourselves as we put one foot in front of another and continue to move forward can take everything we have. By exploring concepts of resilience and well-being, Dr. Hone provides practical tools to help us cope a bit better. 

By Lucy Hone,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Resilient Grieving as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The death of someone we hold dear may be inevitable; being paralysed by our grief is not. A growing body of research has revealed our capacity for resilient grieving, our innate ability to respond to traumatic loss by finding ways to grow - by becoming more engaged with our lives, and discovering new, profound meaning.

Author and resilience/well-being expert Lucy Hone, a pioneer in fusing positive psychology and bereavement research, was faced with her own inescapable sorrow when, in 2014, her 12-year-old daughter was killed in a car accident. By following the strategies of resilient grieving, she found a proactive…


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Grief for Atheists: A Compassionate Guide with Evidence-Based Strategies to Navigate Your Loss

By Betsy DeVille,

Book cover of Grief for Atheists: A Compassionate Guide with Evidence-Based Strategies to Navigate Your Loss

What is my book about?

Finding solace after a loss can be agonizing for nonbelievers, and the grief resources out there often don't resonate with you. You need real, practical help grounded in evidence, not empty fantasies.

Maybe you lost someone you love, or you’re struggling with a major life change. If platitudes and rhetoric ring hollow, this warm, evidence-based guide is for you. Learn what grief is and how it affects your mind, body, and emotions. Discover and explore research-backed techniques to care for yourself physically and emotionally. Debunk myths and social norms that can make you feel worse. Access practical tools and resources that you can use now. Based on science and written with compassion, my book is the best resource for a secular approach to grief.

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