My favorite books to read following an experience of workplace bullying

Why am I passionate about this?

Aryanne Oade works as a chartered psychologist, executive coach, and author of eight books. She has over thirty years’ experience in guiding clients through the challenge of complex workplace dynamics, and specialises in enabling detoxification and recovery from workplace bullying. Author of the best-selling award-winner Free Yourself from Workplace Bullying: Become Bully-Proof and Regain Control of Your Life, Aryanne’s work and books have been featured in The Independent, Sunday Independent (Ireland), Psychologies, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, The Belfast Telegraph, HR Magazine, Safety & Health Practitioner, SHP Online, Nursing Times, and Midwives.


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Bullying in Teams: How to Survive It and Thrive

By Aryanne Oade,

Book cover of Bullying in Teams: How to Survive It and Thrive

What is my book about?

A compassionate practical guide to retaining your dignity when bullied in a team setting, speaking up for a colleague who is attacked in front of you, preventing a bully from controlling you or your team, and developing a bully-proof mindset.

Learn how to protect yourself from the sometimes devastating impact of bullying in your team. Develop the skills and resilience you need to confront bullying behaviour, and discover how to retain your personal power under pressure during an attack. Learn how to speak out effectively and avoid becoming a passive enabler or an active colluder should you witness a team colleague being targeted. Rediscover your self-confidence and renew your self-belief after team bullying.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want

Aryanne Oade Why did I love this book?

I love the simplicity of this book. I recommend it to clients who have a hard time being assertive. The book gives straightfoward, no nonsense input on how to handle a variety of challenging situations in a way which is both self-protective and likely to enable the reader to get a favourable outcome. Situations include how to say no without alienating the other person; asking in a way which makes it likely you’ll get what you want; and dealing with putdowns or unjust criticism.

By Meryl Runion,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Get to the point! Learn how to use Power Phrases to say what you mean...and get what you want. If you have ever walked away from a situation because you didn't know what to say, or you didn't know what to say but you spoke anyway, you know about all the stress, confusion, wasted time, missed opportunities, and hurt feelings you could have avoided if only you'd said the right thing at the right time. Now internationally acclaimed executive coach and communication guru Meryl Runion introduces you to a powerful, easy-to-master communication technology that lets you say what you mean,…


Book cover of Man’s Search for Meaning

Aryanne Oade Why did I love this book?

A timeless classic, I recommend Viktor Frankel’s astounding book to clients who ask themselves the questions ‘why me?’ and ‘what now?’ following a successful devastating campaign of workplace bullying against them. Although I am not making a comparison between the two experiences, the book was written by the Austrian psychiatrist who was incarcerated at Auschwitz during WW2. He writes with immense insight, wisdom and objectivity about his experience of prolonged unjust suffering, offering the reader empathy, compassion and strategies for dealing with existential crises as well as practical tools for building a life worth living after trauma.

By Viktor Frankl,

Why should I read it?

41 authors picked Man’s Search for Meaning as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

One of the outstanding classics to emerge from the Holocaust, Man's Search for Meaning is Viktor Frankl's story of his struggle for survival in Auschwitz and other Nazi concentration camps. Today, this remarkable tribute to hope offers us an avenue to finding greater meaning and purpose in our own lives.


Book cover of The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Aryanne Oade Why did I love this book?

This is a readable and comprehensive book on trauma. Bessel van der Kolk writes from the perspective of a practitioner and trauma specialist, describing how the body mind and brain record, react to and ultimately heal from trauma. Not for everyone, I recommend this book to clients who want to learn more about PTSD and how to heal it, and about the survival strategies which kick in to protect the body mind and brain after trauma.

By Bessel Van Der Kolk,

Why should I read it?

14 authors picked The Body Keeps the Score as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

#1 New York Times bestseller

"Essential reading for anyone interested in understanding and treating traumatic stress and the scope of its impact on society." -Alexander McFarlane, Director of the Centre for Traumatic Stress Studies

A pioneering researcher transforms our understanding of trauma and offers a bold new paradigm for healing in this New York Times bestseller

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der…


Book cover of Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships

Aryanne Oade Why did I love this book?

Marshall Rosenberg has developed a philosophy and set of tools for understanding and defusing strong emotions which, without empathy and deep listening, can spill over into verbal or physical violence. I recommend this book to clients who, after detoxing from the impact of an effective campaign of workplace bullying against them and learning robust bullyproofing skills, want to learn more about the dynamics which can drive overtly emotional behaviour in others. The book describes Rosenberg’s method for unearthing the hidden unmet need behind expressions of anger and showcases his conflict resolution work in multiple war zones around the world in an inspiring and practical read.

By Marshall B. Rosenberg,

Why should I read it?

4 authors picked Nonviolent Communication as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?


5,000,000 COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE • TRANSLATED IN MORE THAN 35 LANGUAGES

What is Violent Communication?
 
If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate—judging others, bullying, having racial bias, blaming, finger pointing, discriminating, speaking without listening, criticizing others or ourselves, name-calling, reacting when angry, using political rhetoric, being defensive or judging who’s “good/bad” or what’s “right/wrong” with people—could indeed be called “violent communication.”
 
What is Nonviolent Communication?
 
Nonviolent Communication is the integration of four things:
 
• Consciousness: a set of principles that support living a life of compassion, collaboration, courage, and…


Book cover of Revolutionary Ride: On the Road to Shiraz, the Heart of Iran

Aryanne Oade Why did I love this book?

I include this refreshing travel memoir for escapism – something to be savoured as well as to stretch the mind. Written by an open-minded British author, it describes her solo trip around the Islamic Republic on a motorcycle. By turns entertaining, amusing and full of love for a country and people of which she had no knowledge beyond Western propaganda, it is brilliantly written. Pryce challenges her own assumptions, widens her perspective and has a blast in an engrossing, compelling, easy-to-read travelogue.

By Lois Pryce,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Revolutionary Ride as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

SHORTLISTED FOR THE EDWARD STANFORD ADVENTURE TRAVEL BOOK OF THE YEAR

'A warm, funny account of a road trip in contemporary Iran. It's had my whole family howling with laughter and shedding a few tears' - Shappi Khorsandi, Guardian

'A proper travelogue - a joyful, moving and stereotype-busting tale' - National Geographic Traveller Books of the Year

In 2011, at the height of tension between the British and Iranian governments, travel writer Lois Pryce found a note left on her motorcycle outside the Iranian Embassy in London:

... I wish that you will visit Iran so you will see for…


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