Aryanne Oade works as a chartered psychologist, executive coach, and author of eight books. She has over thirty years’ experience in guiding clients through the challenge of complex workplace dynamics, and specialises in enabling detoxification and recovery from workplace bullying. Author of the best-selling award-winner Free Yourself from Workplace Bullying: Become Bully-Proof and Regain Control of Your Life, Aryanne’s work and books have been featured in The Independent, Sunday Independent (Ireland), Psychologies, Marie Claire, Good Housekeeping, The Belfast Telegraph, HR Magazine, Safety & Health Practitioner, SHP Online, Nursing Times, and Midwives.
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Bullying in Teams: How to Survive It and Thrive
By
Aryanne Oade
What is my book about?
A compassionate practical guide to retaining your dignity when bullied in a team setting, speaking up for a colleague who is attacked in front of you, preventing a bully from controlling you or your team, and developing a bully-proof mindset.
Learn how to protect yourself from the sometimes devastating impact of bullying in your team. Develop the skills and resilience you need to confront bullying behaviour, and discover how to retain your personal power under pressure during an attack. Learn how to speak out effectively and avoid becoming a passive enabler or an active colluder should you witness a team colleague being targeted. Rediscover your self-confidence and renew your self-belief after team bullying.
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The Books I Picked & Why
How to Use Power Phrases to Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say, & Get What You Want
By
Meryl Runion
Why this book?
I love the simplicity of this book. I recommend it to clients who have a hard time being assertive. The book gives straightfoward, no nonsense input on how to handle a variety of challenging situations in a way which is both self-protective and likely to enable the reader to get a favourable outcome. Situations include how to say no without alienating the other person; asking in a way which makes it likely you’ll get what you want; and dealing with putdowns or unjust criticism.
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Man’s Search For Meaning
By
Viktor Frankl
Why this book?
A timeless classic, I recommend Viktor Frankel’s astounding book to clients who ask themselves the questions ‘why me?’ and ‘what now?’ following a successful devastating campaign of workplace bullying against them. Although I am not making a comparison between the two experiences, the book was written by the Austrian psychiatrist who was incarcerated at Auschwitz during WW2. He writes with immense insight, wisdom and objectivity about his experience of prolonged unjust suffering, offering the reader empathy, compassion and strategies for dealing with existential crises as well as practical tools for building a life worth living after trauma.
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The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma
By
Bessel Van Der Kolk
Why this book?
This is a readable and comprehensive book on trauma. Bessel van der Kolk writes from the perspective of a practitioner and trauma specialist, describing how the body mind and brain record, react to and ultimately heal from trauma. Not for everyone, I recommend this book to clients who want to learn more about PTSD and how to heal it, and about the survival strategies which kick in to protect the body mind and brain after trauma.
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Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships
By
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Why this book?
Marshall Rosenberg has developed a philosophy and set of tools for understanding and defusing strong emotions which, without empathy and deep listening, can spill over into verbal or physical violence. I recommend this book to clients who, after detoxing from the impact of an effective campaign of workplace bullying against them and learning robust bullyproofing skills, want to learn more about the dynamics which can drive overtly emotional behaviour in others. The book describes Rosenberg’s method for unearthing the hidden unmet need behind expressions of anger and showcases his conflict resolution work in multiple war zones around the world in an inspiring and practical read.
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Revolutionary Ride: On the Road to Shiraz, the Heart of Iran
By
Lois Pryce
Why this book?
I include this refreshing travel memoir for escapism – something to be savoured as well as to stretch the mind. Written by an open-minded British author, it describes her solo trip around the Islamic Republic on a motorcycle. By turns entertaining, amusing and full of love for a country and people of which she had no knowledge beyond Western propaganda, it is brilliantly written. Pryce challenges her own assumptions, widens her perspective and has a blast in an engrossing, compelling, easy-to-read travelogue.
