Why am I passionate about this?

My love for strange women began with a love of the tomboy, growing up in the ‘80s and 90’s with characters like Pippi Longstocking and George from The Famous Five. They’re young women who broke the rules of decorum or gender presentation—and they just always seemed to be having a lot more fun. Or at least more interesting experiences. This love of rebels and unruly women has stuck with me, and I think our depiction of women like this has become deeper and more varied. I just love a character who’s a bit of an odd duck, is irrepressible or voracious, or just plain messy. Nice is boring—give me the chaos.


I wrote...

Not That I'd Kiss a Girl: A Kiwi girl's tale of coming out and coming of age

By Lil O'Brien,

Book cover of Not That I'd Kiss a Girl: A Kiwi girl's tale of coming out and coming of age

What is my book about?

Lil O'Brien accidentally outed herself to her parents at the age of nineteen and half an hour later found herself…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Green Girl

Lil O'Brien Why did I love this book?

This book kicked off my obsession with stories about young women who are trying to make sense of all the versions of themselves they have inside and weighing up which one to present to the world at any given time. The protagonist, Ruth, is an American living in London who works at a department store, spritzing perfume during the day, watching all the people go past, and trying to understand how the other young women who work there seem so self-assured. This is not a plot-driven book so much as a character study of a character who doesn’t know who she is yet.

Kate Zambreno’s writing is absolutely gorgeous. She creates a distance between Ruththe ‘green girl’and the world, like she’s looking through a window and can see people inside talking but not understand what they’re saying. At the same time, I recognized myself in Ruth, as I think so many women will. After all, we have all felt lost and on the outside at times.

By Kate Zambreno,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Green Girl as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

With the fierce emotional and intellectual power of such classics as Jean Rhys's Good Morning, Midnight, Sylvia Plath's The Bell Jar, and Clarice Lispector's The Hour of the Star, Kate Zambreno's novel Green Girl is a provocative, sharply etched portrait of a young woman navigating the spectrum between anomie and epiphany. First published in 2011 in a small press edition, Green Girl was named one of the best books of the year by critics including Dennis Cooper and Roxane Gay. In Bookforum, James Greer called it "ambitious in a way few works of fiction are." This summer it is being…


Book cover of Treasure Island!!!

Lil O'Brien Why did I love this book?

A young woman working in a pet library reads Treasure Island by Robert Louis Stevenson and decides that, moving forward, she must stop wasting her life and begin living it according to the book’s Core Values: boldness, resolution, independence, and horn-blowing.

Far from a motivational story, this is about a ridiculous protagonist who behaves in increasingly outrageous ways—very much an unlikeable character (I noticed that someone had tagged Treasure Island!!! under the category ‘unhinged women,’ which feels right). But gosh, did this book make me giggle? Humor can be hit-and-miss as it’s so subjective and sometimes tries too hard, but women behaving irrationally or badly just hits me in the right place.

By Sara Levine,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Treasure Island!!! as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A young slacker decides to live her life according to Robert Louis Stevenson's classic adventure.

"The 50 Best Contemporary Novels under 200 Pages" —Lithub 
"A rollicking tale, shameless, funny and intelligent" —The New York Times 
 
"Why don't you throw yourself headlong into the TORNADO OF CHAOS that is the protagonist of Sara Levine's Treasure Island!!! — especially if you enjoyed the television program Fleabag?" —Molly Young, Vulture

"As she careens from one self-created disaster to another, the narrator is unrepentant...and that makes an already incisive and intelligent novel even more compelling." —Roxane Gay, Bad Feminist

When a college graduate with…


Book cover of The Guest

Lil O'Brien Why did I love this book?

I love an audacious woman, even if she is a hot mess. This book follows Alex, a young woman who’s been staying at the Hamptons with an older man. She’s a calculated person, good at capitalizing on the good natures and human weaknesses of others, but a small misstep brings her free ride with the older man to an end. Instead of leaving, she decides to linger on Long Island.

Each night, she finds a new person to graft, a new scheme to help her stay. Spending time with Alex was stressful and made me want to shake her for her short-sightedness and self-sabotaging. But at the same time, I couldn’t help but admire her grit and wonder what on earth she was going to do next.

By Emma Cline,

Why should I read it?

5 authors picked The Guest as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

* A TIMES 'Book of 2023' * 'Addictive' STYLIST Books to Look Out For 2023 * 'Destined to be the status read of 2023' HARPER'S BAZAAR BEST NEW FICTION * 'The perfect summer read' CULTURE WHISPER * An EVENING STANDARD 'Best New Books for Spring' * A Financial Times Best Summer Read 2023 *

Summer is coming to a close on Long Island, and Alex is no longer welcome...

One misstep at a dinner party and the older man she's been staying with dismisses her with a ride to the train station and a ticket back to the city. With…


Book cover of My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness

Lil O'Brien Why did I love this book?

Very few books have affected me more than this autobiographical Japanese manga. The book's author, artist, and protagonist is a young woman navigating her family relationships, mental health, and sexuality. In the grips of depression, desperate to be touched, the protagonist goes to an escort agency—but the plot is not the point.

Nagata’s willingness to “go there” feels so fresh, and is so vulnerable and heartfelt. As a queer person there was a lot to identify with, as a writer I took away a determination to try and be even half as vulnerable in my writing, and as a young woman I felt seen in a new way. 

By Nagata Kabi,

Why should I read it?

4 authors picked My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

My Lesbian Experience with Loneliness is an honest and heartfelt look at one young woman's exploration of her sexuality, mental well-being, and growing up in our modern age. Told using expressive artwork that invokes both laughter and tears, this moving and highly entertaining single volume depicts not only the artist's burgeoning sexuality, but many other personal aspects of her life that will resonate with readers.


Book cover of Green Dot

Lil O'Brien Why did I love this book?

This could be a polarizing book, but if you’ve picked this recommendation list from all the others and have gotten this far, there’s a good chance you’re also into books about young women making questionable choices. The protagonist, Hera, is starting a relationship with her older colleague at her workplace, where she’s an online comment moderator.

The story is written from Hera’s point of view, who has a sense of ironic self-awareness but is also desperate to feel something, which is probably what leads her into a course of action she knows is going to bite her in the arse, eventually.

By Madeleine Gray,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Green Dot as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A BEST BOOK OF 2024 IN STYLIST, DAILY MAIL, THE I, IRISH TIMES, SUNDAY TIMES AND RED

A GUARDIAN SUMMER READING PICK
'One of the best books you will read all year' ELIZABETH DAY
'Brilliant. What a writer' NIGELLA LAWSON
'Incredibly funny' CAITLIN MORAN
'Wonderful' GILLIAN ANDERSON
'This year's Sorrow and Bliss. Hilarious and heartbreaking' DAILY MAIL
'The book of the summer' IN STYLE

Hera is in her mid-twenties, which seems young to everyone except people in their mid-twenties.

Since leaving school, she has been trying to kick and scream into existence a life she cares about, but with little…


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Not That I'd Kiss a Girl: A Kiwi girl's tale of coming out and coming of age

By Lil O'Brien,

Book cover of Not That I'd Kiss a Girl: A Kiwi girl's tale of coming out and coming of age

What is my book about?

Lil O'Brien accidentally outed herself to her parents at the age of nineteen and half an hour later found herself on the side of the road, with instructions to come back and pick up her suitcase the next day. What follows is a heartbreaking yet hugely funny story of a young Kiwi girl—the deputy head girl from a posh private school—coming to grips with her sexuality in the face of stark disapproval from her parents.

Bit by bit, Lil finds the inner strength to pull herself into an entirely new world. Along the way, she's called out for looking too straight in a gay bar, tries to break into the lesbian in-crowd, and figures out how to send her internet lover back to America. Lil's story is an essential read for anyone who's had to fight for who they are and what they believe in.

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Henderson House

By Caren Simpson McVicker,

Book cover of Henderson House

Caren Simpson McVicker Author Of Henderson House

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Why am I passionate about this?

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What is my book about?

In May 1941, Bartlesville, Oklahoma, hums with talk of spring flowers, fishing derbies, and the growing war in Europe. And for the residents of a quiet neighborhood boarding house, the winds of change are blowing.

Self-proclaimed spinster, Bessie Blackwell, is the reluctant owner of a new pair of glasses. The landlady, Mrs. Henderson, senses that new tenant, Frank Davis, could throw Bessie's spinster status into question with his gentle eyes and ready smile. But the scar on his forehead and rumors of divorce speak of a troubled past. Bessie's sister, Florence, knows all about troubled pasts. In a desperate attempt…

Henderson House

By Caren Simpson McVicker,

What is this book about?

"Like a love song to my Oklahoma roots. Henderson House offers a sweet window into a past when lives and loves moved to the gentle rhythm of small-town cafes, front porch swings, and old two-lane highways." - Lisa Wingate, New York Times bestselling author of Before We Were Yours

An enchanting boardinghouse tale of sisters, secrets, and later-in-life romance, Henderson House invites you to pull up a rocking chair and lose yourself in the heartaches and hopes of 1940s Oklahoma.

In May 1941, Bartlesville, Oklahoma, hums with talk of spring flowers, fishing derbies, and the growing war in Europe. And…


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