My favorite books about personal growth and building strong relationships

Why am I passionate about this?

As a young man, I pursued law school and practiced with a major firm. However, it wasn't until I enrolled in a Dale Carnegie course that I discovered my true passion for personal growth and building strong relationships. Now, as the CEO of Dale Carnegie & Associates, I am dedicated to helping individuals and businesses unlock their full potential through personal growth. I believe that everyone has untapped potential, and with the right tools and mindset, they can achieve greatness.


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Take Command: Find Your Inner Strength, Build Enduring Relationships, and Live the Life You Want

By Joe Hart, Michael A. Crom,

Book cover of Take Command: Find Your Inner Strength, Build Enduring Relationships, and Live the Life You Want

What is my book about?

Take Command is a guidebook for personal development and building strong relationships through effective communication, empathy, and self-awareness. Based on expert research and interviews with high-performing leaders, it offers powerful tools and time-tested methods to transform your approach to thoughts, emotions, relationships, and the future.

Structured around questions that encourage self-reflection, it helps you use the power of mindset to deal with stress and anxiety, gain perspective on negative emotions, and build resilience. It also provides strategies for creating enriching, rewarding, and enduring relationships and dealing with difficult people and conflicts. As a master text that combines decades of Dale Carnegie's award-winning training and timeless principles, this is a modern manual for personal development that can help anyone at any age.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Earned Life: Lose Regret, Choose Fulfillment

Joe Hart Why did I love this book?

Marshall Goldsmith provides a powerful guide for anyone seeking a higher purpose in their personal and professional life.

Goldsmith draws on his experience as a world-renowned executive coach to provide practical advice and exercises aimed at helping readers live a life aligned with their overarching purpose, regardless of the eventual outcome.

Taking inspiration from Buddhism, Goldsmith reveals that the key to living an earned life, unbound by regret, requires committing to a habit of earning and connecting that habit to something greater than the isolated achievements of careerism.

With illuminating stories from Goldsmith's legendary career,  this book provides a roadmap for ambitious people seeking to close the gap between what they plan to achieve and what they actually get done, and to avoid the trap of existential regret that reroutes destinies and persecutes memories.

By Marshall Goldsmith, Mark Reiter,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Earned Life as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • Discover the steps to earning your path to fulfillment and living without regrets—from the world-renowned executive coach and New York Times bestselling author of Triggers and What Got You Here Won't Get You There

ONE OF SUMMER’S BEST BUSINESS BOOKS: Inc., Society for Human Resource Management • “My life changed for the better when I started working with Marshall Goldsmith. The Earned Life is a wonderful book.”—Dr. Jim Yong Kim, served as president of the World Bank

“We are living an earned life when the choices, risks, and effort we make in each moment align…


Book cover of How to Win Friends and Influence People

Joe Hart Why did I love this book?

When I was a teenager, my dad handed me a book that changed my life. It's a book about personal growth and building strong relationships.

He said, "Joe, this book can help you as it has helped me." And it did. That book was a model for my own book.

This groundbreaking and timeless bestseller has sold over 15 million copies for a reason. It offers practical advice and insights that are just as relevant today as they were when it was first published.

Whether you're just starting out on your personal growth journey or looking to take your professional life to the next level, this book has something to offer. I highly recommend this book to anyone looking to unlock their full potential and live an intentional life.

By Dale Carnegie,

Why should I read it?

17 authors picked How to Win Friends and Influence People as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Millions of people around the world have - and continue to - improve their lives based on the teachings of Dale Carnegie. In How to Win Friends and Influence People Carnegie offers practical advice and techniques, in his exuberant and conversational style, for how to get out of a mental rut and make life more rewarding.

His advice has stood the test of time and will teach you how to:
- make friends quickly and easily
- increase your popularity
- win people to your way of thinking
- enable you to win new clients and customers
- become a…


Book cover of Think Like a Monk

Joe Hart Why did I love this book?

This book by Jay Shetty combines ancient wisdom with practical advice that we can all apply to our lives.

Drawing on his time as a monk, Shetty provides insights and exercises that can help us overcome negative thoughts and habits, reduce stress, and access the calm and purpose that lie within all of us.

By developing these skills, we can improve our relationships and give the gifts we find in ourselves to the world.

Think Like a Monk is a must-read for anyone looking to live a more meaningful and fulfilling life.

Whether you're looking to improve your personal growth, build stronger relationships, or simply find more peace and purpose in your life, this book has something for everyone.

By Jay Shetty,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Think Like a Monk as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The Sunday Times Number One Bestseller

Jay Shetty, social media superstar and host of the #1 podcast 'On Purpose', distils the timeless wisdom he learned as a practising monk into practical steps anyone can take every day to live a less anxious, more meaningful life.

Over the past three years, Jay Shetty has become a favourite in the hearts and minds of millions of people worldwide. One of his clips was the most watched video on Facebook last year, with over 360 million views. His social media following totals over 32 million, he has produced over 400 viral videos, which…


Book cover of Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World

Joe Hart Why did I love this book?

This valuable book by Cal Newport provides practical advice on how to cultivate a deep work ethic and achieve extraordinary results in your work and personal life.

Newport argues that the ability to focus without distraction on a cognitively demanding task is becoming increasingly rare yet is one of the most valuable skills in our economy.

Through relatable stories and actionable advice, Newport presents a rigorous training regimen, consisting of four rules, for transforming your mind and habits to support deep work.

This book is an indispensable guide for anyone seeking focused success in a distracted world. It offers practical advice on how to become better at what you do, and how to achieve a sense of true fulfillment that comes from craftsmanship.

If you're looking for a book that can help you master the skill of deep work and set yourself apart in your profession, then this is the book for you!

By Cal Newport,

Why should I read it?

8 authors picked Deep Work as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Many modern knowledge workers now spend most of their brain power battling distraction and interruption, whether because of the incessant pinging of devices, noisy open-plan offices or the difficulty of deciding what deserves your attention the most. When Cal Newport coined the term 'deep work' on his popular blog, Study Hacks, in 2012, he found the concept quickly hit a nerve. Most of us, after all, are excruciatingly familiar with shallow work instead - distractedly skimming the surface of our workload and never getting to the important part. Newport began exploring the methods and mindset that foster a practice of…


Book cover of Switch: How to Change Things When Change Is Hard

Joe Hart Why did I love this book?

Authors Chip and Dan Heath explore the conflict built into our brains that makes it difficult to make lasting changes in our companies, communities, and personal lives.

They argue that the rational mind competes with the emotional mind, which loves the comfort of the existing routine. 

By providing relatable stories and counterintuitive research, the Heaths show how everyday people have united both minds and achieved transformative change.

Switch offers a pattern that can be applied to make changes that matter, whether it's changing the world or changing your waistline.

By Dan Heath, Chip Heath,

Why should I read it?

7 authors picked Switch as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

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Change is hard. It doesn't have to be.

We all know that change is hard. It's unsettling, it's time-consuming, and all too often we give up at the first sign of a setback.

But why do we insist on seeing the obstacles rather than the goal? This is the question that bestselling authors Chip and Dan Heath tackle in their compelling and insightful book. They argue that we need only understand how our minds function in order to unlock shortcuts to switches in behaviour.

Illustrating their ideas with scientific studies and remarkable real-life turnarounds - from the secrets of…


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Book cover of Traumatization and Its Aftermath: A Systemic Approach to Understanding and Treating Trauma Disorders

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Why am I passionate about this?

As a trauma therapist and dedicated researcher, I love uncovering valuable insights within lesser-known books. There are hidden gems, free from the pressure of commercial success, crafted by authors deeply committed to research, understanding, and the art of writing itself. Their dedication resonates with me, as I believe in the profound value of information and the power of critical thinking. Through my own book, Traumatization and Its Aftermath, I aim to emphasize that psychological concepts often lose their depth in translation and my mission is spreading awareness and fostering a deeper understanding of trauma and its intricate facets. With that idea in mind, I chose these five titles. 

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What is my book about?

A fresh take on the difference between trauma and hardship in order to help accurately spot the difference and avoid over-generalizations.

The book integrates the latest findings in brain science, child development, psycho-social context, theory, and clinical experiences to make the case that trauma is much more than a cluster of symptoms to be tamed, but instead best understood as development gone off course, away from growth and towards (only) survival.

This book prompts a profound shift in perception, inviting to view trauma as an intricate and diverse experience, a point of view that ultimately leads to sharper treatment and, hopefully, more healing. It encourages a transition from asking, "What happened to you?" to the deeper question, "What is your relationship with what happened to you?"

Traumatization and Its Aftermath: A Systemic Approach to Understanding and Treating Trauma Disorders

By Antonieta Contreras,

What is this book about?

The book is comprehensive, bold, and practical-a much-needed resource for the assessment and treatment of trauma. Instead of the traditional focus on the overall importance of healing, Traumatization and its Aftermath decodes why some people don't heal as easily as others, analyzes the various failures of diagnosis, and explains how to make therapeutic interventions truly effective.

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