The best books on kickass communication

Who am I?

I'm passionate about helping people to better manage their internal state so they can control their external behaviors under high-pressure situations. My expertise is on the following topics found in the books I've chosen: power/status, influence, leadership presence, setting boundaries, speaking clearly & concisely, emotional mastery, improvisation, compassion, and empathy for self and others. As a communication coach and trainer, I work with clients to neutralize power dynamics for more positive exchange, leaving both parties feeling safe and respected. 

I wrote...

The Ego Tango

By Amy Carroll,

Book cover of The Ego Tango

What is my book about?

This is a collection of real-life stories I tell in my workshops as a communication coach. Each story demonstrates either an external behavior or an internal mindset to help people become more effective and productive in their personal and professional relationships.

My hope is that you'll be able to appreciate their humour and humanity while extracting the gems, applying them to your everyday interactions experiencing fewer hassles, and have more satisfying relationships.

The books I picked & why

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Untamed

By Glennon Doyle,

Book cover of Untamed

Why this book?

I work with people to help them build confidence, reduce resentments and communicate more effectively. The most powerful concept the author left me with was this: “If I have to choose between someone else and myself, I will always choose me first.” It is a bold and edgy statement and one that a lot of people can benefit from. If we want to be of service to others, we must develop the inner strengthen and confidence to take care of ourselves first.

Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

By Susan Cain,

Book cover of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking

Why this book?

Quiet is an essential book for extroverts. It brings insight into the power of the introvert mind and the value they offer. It will help close the gap and improve communication between these opposing personality types.


The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

By Terrence Real,

Book cover of The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

Why this book?

Terry starts off by telling women “You’re not crazy, you’re right!” Unfortunately being right is not enough, you need the skills to ask for what you want, in a way that it will be heard and well-received. Terry provides the reader with straightforward tools and insights for transforming relationships. 


Playing the Enemy: Nelson Mandela and the Game That Made a Nation

By John Carlin,

Book cover of Playing the Enemy: Nelson Mandela and the Game That Made a Nation

Why this book?

My goal is to help clients identify and neutralize the power dynamic in any relationship or exchange. In this autobiography of Nelson Mandela's experience in prison and beyond, he deftly transforms one challenging situation after another. His ability to stay Partner under pressure results in consistently positive outcomes. This is an illustration of a very high level of emotional intelligence, which we are all capable of developing.


White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism

By Robin Diangelo,

Book cover of White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism

Why this book?

Improving our capacity to communicate also means putting our ego to the side so that we can receive messages, even when the packaging is not so pretty!  This book expanded my ability to accept difficult messages. In the past, I’ve made a request to people close to me, "if you want to tell me something difficult to hear, please package the message respectfully." Since reading this book, when I hear something I perceive to be hostile or accusing, my job is to work on not taking it personally, because getting the message is more important than the packaging!

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