The New Rules of Marriage

Terrence Real tells it like it is, and his frank and forthright manner is something I truly admire. I got so much from this book because it is practical and motivating. I felt challenged and empowered to be more loving in my relationships, to recognize my own unhelpful behavior, to understand that certain habits can destroy a loving partnership and that great relationships take time to build—and that’s okay.

It's full of bullet points and tools, which I appreciate and can apply more easily, and he also has a strong message for men in his book, something that is lacking… show more.

I picked up this book about 12 years ago. Being a psychotherapist I love, love learning. I love attending workshops (pre-covid) and learning new ways of thinking. New ways of looking at issues. New ways to look at how we get stuck in our relationships and life. Reading this book gave me tools that have transformed my therapy practice and how I work with couples. How I interact with my husband, my sons, and my close friends. It helped me by giving me insight into who I want to be in a relationship and it gave me self-worth as well.… show more.

I absolutely worship the ground this groundbreaking therapist walks on. Terrence Real is the go-to guy not only for anyone whose relationship is in trouble but for anyone who wants to have a better relationship. I have always struggled with relationships and I wish I had known about Terrence Real’s relational therapy model twenty years ago. Perhaps my first marriage wouldn’t have broken down! I am passionate about couple’s therapy exactly because relationships breakdowns can be one of the most painful experiences we as humans have to go through. Learning how to relate in a healthy way to others is… show more.

Terry starts off by telling women “You’re not crazy, you’re right!” Unfortunately being right is not enough, you need the skills to ask for what you want, in a way that it will be heard and well-received. Terry provides the reader with straightforward tools and insights for transforming relationships.