The best books to treat yourself better

Liisa Kyle Author Of Self-Worth Essentials:  A Workbook to Understand Yourself, Accept Yourself, Like Yourself, Respect Yourself, Be Confident, Enjoy Yourself, and Love Yourself
By Liisa Kyle

Who am I?

As a life coach and author of two dozen self-help books, I’ve spent the past twenty years helping people treat themselves better. Doing so is fundamental to personal growth and making real, purposeful change. When you fully appreciate yourself and treat yourself well, you will feel so much better! You will be in a much stronger position to overcome challenges, achieve your goals, and get more out of life. 


I wrote...

Self-Worth Essentials: A Workbook to Understand Yourself, Accept Yourself, Like Yourself, Respect Yourself, Be Confident, Enjoy Yourself, and Love Yourself

By Liisa Kyle,

Book cover of Self-Worth Essentials:  A Workbook to Understand Yourself, Accept Yourself, Like Yourself, Respect Yourself, Be Confident, Enjoy Yourself, and Love Yourself

What is my book about?

Self-esteem is how you see yourself. Self-worth is how you value yourself. Helping people improve how they view themselves has been a fundamental step in my coaching practice over the past twenty years.  I've devised practical techniques to improve people's self-perceptions and self-esteem.  I've designed this workbook to guide you through the seven essential phases of improving your self-worth. This book is for you if you would like to understand yourself better, accept those things you like least about yourself, like yourself more, treat yourself better, improve your self-confidence, find new ways to enjoy being you, and learn to love yourself. Yes, you are worth it.

The books I picked & why

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The Magic

By Rhonda Byrne,

Book cover of The Magic

Why this book?

Step one in treating yourself better is to cease focusing on what isn't going well and to put your attention on what is. Be truly thankful for your blessings. No matter what challenges or situations you are facing, there are things you can be grateful for. You have air to breathe and water to drink, for example. Start there. The more you focus on the positives in your life, the more good things you will attract. This book guides you through a month of gratitude activities that will have you feeling better about every aspect of your life. 


The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

By Harriet Braiker,

Book cover of The Disease to Please: Curing the People-Pleasing Syndrome

Why this book?

Are you a people pleaser? A lot of my clients are. They worry about people liking them. They end up taking on tasks they really don’t want to do because they don’t know how to set boundaries or say “no” effectively. This book looks at the mindsets, habits, and emotional components of people-pleasing, and provides a 21-day plan to teach yourself specific skills to overcome these tendencies. When you do, you will automatically be treating yourself better.


Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes, and Missed Opportunities

By Arthur Freeman,

Book cover of Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes, and Missed Opportunities

Why this book?

Are you stewing about regrets, disappointments, and perceived “mistakes” you’ve made? It’s hard to treat yourself well if you are berating yourself for things you did or didn’t do in the past. This book guides you through proven tools to process what happened. It will help you let go of resentments so you can move on with your life. Once you let go, you can treat yourself better.


Feel the Fear...and Beyond: Mastering the Techniques for Doing It Anyway

By Susan Jeffers,

Book cover of Feel the Fear...and Beyond: Mastering the Techniques for Doing It Anyway

Why this book?

Another thing that prevents people from treating themselves well is fear. Jeffers’ first book (Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway) is a classic for working through worries and anxieties. I usually recommend this book instead because it has more practical activities and suggestions for managing fear. When you do, you boost your self-confidence, your self-esteem, and your self-worth.


Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live

By Martha Beck,

Book cover of Finding Your Own North Star: Claiming the Life You Were Meant to Live

Why this book?

First, I love how Martha Beck writes. She’s funny! Also wise and candid. I would happily recommend any of her books. This particular one is helpful in treating yourself better because it guides you through specific exercises to evaluate your essential self, to appreciate it, and to pursue your unique, authentic path. 


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