The best books on neuro-linguistic programming (NLP)

Who am I?

I enjoy helping others get what they desire in life. As a long-time successful businessman, university professor, NLP trainer/coach, public speaker, and author, I have first-hand experience with the personal/professional balancing act required in these times. I believe each of us can achieve the success we desire by developing our authentic selves, mastering internal and external congruence, and taking charge of our lives. For over 30 years, I’ve been a student of personal development methodologies. I continue to transform my own life while assisting others from all walks of life and ages to learn, to address challenges at work and at home, and to get more of what they desire.


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Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up: NLP and Common Sense for Coaches, Managers and You

By Roger Ellerton,

Book cover of Live Your Dreams Let Reality Catch Up: NLP and Common Sense for Coaches, Managers and You

What is my book about?

No matter how old you are, your culture, or the beliefs you hold true, you are on a path of personal growth. At times you may experience excitement and joy, while other times you may be confronted by fear, unworthiness, and doubt as you do your best to bring your dreams to life. This book acknowledges your journey and provides insights, tips, and proven processes for you to get the most out of life. You are encouraged to look at yourself, identify the influence that you allow others to have, and to move forward to live your dreams.

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From Coach to Awakener

By Robert Dilts,

Book cover of From Coach to Awakener

Why this book?

If you are a coach or student of NLP, add this book to your library. Dilts notes that, in the past, coaching has been focused mainly on improving behavior performance through careful observation and feedback. More recently personal, executive, and life coaching has evolved to provide support on a number of different levels. Each level has a different focus and requires a different approach and set of tools. Dilts clearly explains how your coaching style must adapt to each level (environment (caretaker or guide), behaviors (coach), capabilities (teacher), beliefs and values (mentor), identity (sponsor), and spirituality (awakener)), and provides a suggested set of tools and techniques.


NLP at Work: The Difference that Makes the Difference

By Sue Knight,

Book cover of NLP at Work: The Difference that Makes the Difference

Why this book?

Knight provides a clear and useful introduction to NLP and how it can effectively be used in a work environment. The person next to you may experience an event or the world around them quite differently from you. Hence you need to adjust your communication for them to buy into your ideas. Discover how to create an environment of safety so the other person will truly hear your message and assist you in discovering what is important to them. Other topics include: being more resourceful, improving your negotiation skills, giving and receiving feedback, and high-performance coaching.


Words That Change Minds: The 14 Patterns for Mastering the Language of Influence

By Shelle Rose Charvet,

Book cover of Words That Change Minds: The 14 Patterns for Mastering the Language of Influence

Why this book?

We do not necessarily experience the world around us the same as our friends, family members, or others we meet in our daily lives. Charvet presents 14 significant language/behaviours that distinguish how we react to our experiences that may be different from those with whom we wish to have a great relationship or influence. One such pattern is “toward -away from”. Toward-people are focused on their goals. They are motivated to have, get, achieve, attain, ... . Away-from people notice what should be avoided, gotten rid of, or fixed. Motivating a toward-person by telling them what needs to be avoided, simply doesn’t work.


Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

By Richard Bandler,

Book cover of Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming

Why this book?

Richard Bandler is one of the founders of NLP. So, he knows what he is talking about. After an overview of basic NLP concepts and how the processes work, Bandler provides you with techniques to address what’s holding you back, for example, fears/phobias, bad memories, grief, and bad relationships. He then gives you ways and means to add fun, love, meet people and make money into your life.


The Really Good Fun Cartoon Book of NLP: A Simple and Graphic(al) Explanation of the Life Toolbox That Is NLP

By Phillip Miller,

Book cover of The Really Good Fun Cartoon Book of NLP: A Simple and Graphic(al) Explanation of the Life Toolbox That Is NLP

Why this book?

NLP can be full of jargon and taken too seriously. Miller uses simple language with illustrative amusing cartoons to present the principles of NLP and how you can use NLP in your life. All of the basic material is covered and provides you with a good foundation for understanding and using NLP for yourself or to assist others.