Why am I passionate about this?

I am an award-winning author of two five-star rated memoirs, and the creator/performer of the 90-minute solo show My Whorizontal Life: The Show!. I'm co-host of the podcast My Index to Sex, and I am a Juilliard Drama Graduate and the former #1 escort in the country. My desire in writing about the secret work of love and pleasure is first to create unexpected delight by leading the reader or audience into the surprisingly fascinating, funny, wild, misunderstood, and imagined life underground where so many women secretly work. Through my writing, I hope to give an authentic voice, knowledgeable, true, and uncynical to this experience. 


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My Whorizontal Life: An Escort's Tale

By Sephe Haven,

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My book is the true story of a gifted actress, fresh out of Juilliard and drowning in debt, who is…

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Book cover of A Woman in Berlin: Eight Weeks in the Conquered City

Sephe Haven Why did I love this book?

When I was secretly working as an escort, living and working ‘underground’, and came upon this book, I was immediately drawn in because here, too, despite and thankfully many different circumstances, was a woman witnessing and taking notes not only to keep herself sane but also to bear witness to the real events as they affected women in this terrible and extraordinary moment in history.

Instead of events and general washes of the main players, as is so often what we get when studying a period of history, here was a true, authentic voice of the actual effects and aftermath of the war on the people living through it. And she wrote it as it was being lived! …” with nothing but a pencil stub, writing by candlelight since Berlin had no electricity…”

As the author, she chose to remain anonymous to protect herself. This choice resonated with me until I forced myself to have the courage to speak my own ‘play-by-play of the underground’. I read this book several times and read it again as a writer as inspiration.

By Anonymous, Philip Boehm (translator),

Why should I read it?

7 authors picked A Woman in Berlin as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A New York Times Book Review Editors' Choice

For eight weeks in 1945, as Berlin fell to the Russian army, a young woman kept a daily record of life in her apartment building and among its residents. "With bald honesty and brutal lyricism" (Elle), the anonymous author depicts her fellow Berliners in all their humanity, as well as their cravenness, corrupted first by hunger and then by the Russians. "Spare and unpredictable, minutely observed and utterly free of self-pity" (The Plain Dealer, Cleveland), A Woman in Berlin tells of the complex relationship between civilians and an occupying army and the…


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Sephe Haven Why did I love this book?

Oh, I love this book. I read it several times and had to watch the movie even though it wasn’t as good as the book. I love firsthand accounts of secret lives, and even though this is a fictional story, there is so much truth in it. Although it is fiction, maybe historical fiction, Arthur Golden takes us into the very secretive world of Geishas in Kyoto, Japan, before and right after the war.

I knew nothing about this world save for general history. But here we were, seeing the world and its politics and its effects on women from the eyes of one who lived it. The details of the lives of Geishas felt so authentic that I began to research the world he brought to life in this transporting tale. I found that the author based the story on a Geisha he interviewed.

The book was so close to her life that the Geisha he interviewed, Mineko Iwasaki, sued him for breach of confidentiality for too true parallels between the book and her life. 

By Arthur Golden,

Why should I read it?

8 authors picked Memoirs of a Geisha as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'An epic tale and a brutal evocation of a disappearing world' The Times

A young peasant girl is sold as servant and apprentice to a renowned geisha house. Many years later she tells her story from a hotel in New York, opening a window into an extraordinary half-hidden world of eroticism and enchantment, exploitation and degradation and summoning up a quarter of a century of Japan's dramatic history.

'Intimate and brutal, written in cool, lucid prose it is a novel whose psychological empathy and historical truths are outstanding' Mail on Sunday


Book cover of Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting by in America

Sephe Haven Why did I love this book?

I read this book when it was first published when working low-wage ‘regular’ jobs was something I feared. I had been poor for so long and worked low-wage regular jobs before and through 9 years of college and after until I became an escort. As much as being an escort was shamed, it was nothing compared to the shame of not being able to survive with two low-wage jobs that eat up all your time, your choices, and your health. Then here was this powerful, insightful book.

The author is a journalist who goes underground, takes these jobs, and tries to survive. What is revealed are the lives of so much of the population in America that are working this way. I read this book in one day. Once you see it and have felt it, it’s impossible not to see it and want better for all of us.

By Barbara Ehrenreich,

Why should I read it?

5 authors picked Nickel and Dimed as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Beautifully repackaged as part of the Picador Modern Classics Series, this special edition is small enough to fit in your pocket and bold enough to stand out on your bookshelf.

A publishing phenomenon when first published, Barbara Ehrenreich’s Nickel and Dimed is a revelatory undercover investigation into life and survival in low-wage America, an increasingly urgent topic that continues to resonate.

Millions of Americans work full time, year round, for poverty-level wages. In 1998, Barbara Ehrenreich decided to join them. She was inspired in part by the rhetoric surrounding welfare reform, which promised that a job―any job―can be the ticket…


Book cover of Eva Luna

Sephe Haven Why did I love this book?

The moment I open a book by Isabel Allende, I know I will be transported to a time and culture so unlike my own, and I will get to live there until I close the book and even after in my imagination as the book lingers.

In my own books, I hope to take readers into a world foreign to them and introduce them to a cast of characters revealing the humanity not seen immediately.

In this book, Eva is a storyteller who trades her stories for help from others. Along the way, she immerses us in hidden and not-so-hidden worlds within the South American culture at the time.

By Isabel Allende,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Eva Luna as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it. This book is for kids age 14, 15, 16, and 17.

What is this book about?

'My name is Eva, which means "life", according to a book of names my mother consulted. I was born in the back room of a shadowy house, and grew up amidst ancient furniture, books in Latin, and human mummies, but none of those things made me melancholy, because I came into the world with a breath of the jungle in my memory.'

Isabel Allende tells the sweet and sinister story of an orphan who beguiles the world with her astonishing visions, triumphing over the worst of adversity and bringing light to a dark place.


Book cover of American OZ: An Astonishing Year Inside Traveling Carnivals at State Fairs & Festivals: Hitchhiking From California to New York, Alaska to Mexico

Sephe Haven Why did I love this book?

I didn’t know I was curious about the secret lives of those that work for the carnival and circuses. There is much fiction written about it, but I never knew what it was really like, boots on the ground working in the “secretive subculture of traveling carnivals.” Who are the people who are drawn or forced into this work? What are their lives like before and after carnival work? What's life like on the road?

I was drawn to this book because I felt a kinship to the story of what life is like living between two worlds as I was and the idea that the more we are in that strange purgatory, the more pronounced our desire for love and meaning in our lives.

I found this book because I met the author at a very large writing conference and was fascinated by his passion for his book. Although our topics couldn’t be further apart, we were both giving voice to secret worlds.

By Michael Sean Comerford,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked American OZ as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

"Reminiscent of ... the gritty writings of Studs Terkel and John Steinbeck, with a dash of Jack Kerouac, Tony Horwitz, and even Hunter S. Thompson." Review!

"Majestic ... Deep Observations About Life!" -- Chicago Tribune.
American OZ is a rollicking, gritty, adventurous story of life in the secretive subculture of traveling carnivals. You'll never see your state fair or street festival the same way again.
Comerford writes a bold, inspiring true story of a year working on the road behind the scenes with the colorful characters and legends of carnivals.
He shares stories of freaks, a carnival pimp, and the…


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My Whorizontal Life: An Escort's Tale

By Sephe Haven,

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What is my book about?

My book is the true story of a gifted actress, fresh out of Juilliard and drowning in debt, who is suddenly rejected by every casting director because she looks too “un-Hollywood.” As financial woes overwhelm her, she takes what she thinks will be a limited leap into the underground world of escorting but finds it’s not so easy to get out. Or maybe she doesn’t want to?

My book is the first in a growing series and spans the important first six months of entering the escort world. It is a true story told with humor and love.

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