The best books on getting through divorce successfully

Who am I?

As a Certified Divorce Coach and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst®, I work with clients during one of the most difficult stages of their lives. Clients often feel regretful about the past and fearful for the future, and the right book recommendation can really help them move forward. I often give clients reading assignments between coaching sessions that help them process their grief, figure out their goals, educate themselves about finances, feel less alone in the divorce process, and become more confident in making major decisions. I’m never not reading on this subject.


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The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

By Jen Lawrence,

Book cover of The Designed Divorce: How to preserve your wealth and peace of mind in divorce

What is my book about?

In The Designed Divorce, Jen Lawrence shares the secrets she's gleaned from her private coaching and concierge practice and her training as a CDC Certified Divorce Coach, CDC Divorce Transition and Recovery Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist, and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst.

This book will help you: deal with your emotions so you can focus on the business of divorce, get clear on your goals so your settlement supports your dreams, hire a divorce team that can help you maximize your options, avoid the biggest divorce mistakes that threaten your wealth and peace of mind, implement radical self-care techniques that go far deeper than a spa day, understand your money and how to build financial security, and start down the path to a future that excites you. Filled with practical tips, exercises, and memorable stories injected with Lawrence's trademark humor, The Designed Divorce will make you feel like you are never alone in this process.

The books I picked & why

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The New Rules of Divorce: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness

By Jacqueline Newman,

Book cover of The New Rules of Divorce: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness

Why this book?

New York Divorce attorney Jacqueline Newman’s The New Rules of Divorce: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health and Happiness is a great divorce primer, tackling everything from contemplating divorce to dating after divorce. The book is charming and funny as well as deeply practical. While the book will probably appeal the most to wealthy women, it offers useful advice for anyone contemplating or going through a divorce.

The New Rules of Divorce: Twelve Secrets to Protecting Your Wealth, Health, and Happiness

By Jacqueline Newman,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The New Rules of Divorce as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

"You can waste vast amounts of money by hiring the wrong lawyer while engaging in a high conflict divorce. Newman shows people the playbook and provides real tactics for breaking up in a more humane fashion." -Alec Baldwin, actor, producer, New York Times bestselling author

The definitive guide to navigating divorce in today's world from one of America's top matrimonial lawyers.

Marriage as we know it in America has changed-and so, too, has divorce. Women are outearning men. Fathers are winning custody battles. Same-sex marriage is law. In this remarkably insightful and clear guide, elite New York City divorce attorney…


Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy,

Book cover of Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Why this book?

Divorcing someone with a personality disorder can be one of the most stressful things one can face. Bill Eddy is a family lawyer and therapist who understands the complexities of divorcing a high conflict person and has mastered ways to communicate and co-parent with them. This book is a must-read for anyone facing high conflict divorce as it is filled with practical tips and suggestions.

Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

By Randi Kreger, Bill Eddy,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Splitting as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Divorce is difficult under the best of circumstances. Dealing with this inherently adversarial process can be highly emotional on both sides. But when a divorcing individual is a "persuasive blamer"-someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), or simply has a high-conflict, manipulative personality-their behavior can have devastating ramifications for their former spouses. People with these disorders may adopt physical and verbal abuse as strategies, lie to lawyers and judges, manipulate the court, and may even level charges of abuse in order to get their way. Because persuasive blamers are so convincing and even charming, these…


The Art of Extreme Self-Care: 12 Practical and Inspiring Ways to Love Yourself More

By Cheryl Richardson,

Book cover of The Art of Extreme Self-Care: 12 Practical and Inspiring Ways to Love Yourself More

Why this book?

One of the keys to getting through divorce is to make a commitment to self-care. This book, by life coach Cheryl Richardson, offers powerful self-care exercises, which can be practiced one month at a time. Richardson’s tips go well beyond booking a massage or taking a bubble bath, as she explores establishing boundaries, managing anger, and learning to say no. I’ve recommended this book countless times to clients and friends.

The Art of Extreme Self-Care: 12 Practical and Inspiring Ways to Love Yourself More

By Cheryl Richardson,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Art of Extreme Self-Care as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

This life-changing handbook by New York Times bestselling author Cheryl Richardson offers you 12 strategies to transform your life one month at a time.

Designed as an action-oriented programme, each chapter challenges you to alter one behaviour that keeps getting you in trouble. The book is filled with personal stories of how Cheryl and others have learned to make the practice of Extreme Self-Care their new standard for living. With chapters such as 'End the Legacy of Deprivation', 'Take Your Hands off the Wheel' and 'Does That Anger Taste Good?' you will stop the endless cycle of self-betrayal and neglect…


Prince Charming Isn't Coming: How Women Get Smart about Money

By Barbara Huson,

Book cover of Prince Charming Isn't Coming: How Women Get Smart about Money

Why this book?

The number one fear for women in divorce tends to be money, since a woman’s standard of living often falls significantly post-divorce. Barbara Stanny, a journalist and the daughter of H&R Block founder Richard Bloch, found herself in financial straits after her then-husband gambled away their money, left her with a massive tax bill, and fled the country. She had to learn to make and manage her own money to support her three children and has since become a financial educator. This book is critical for any woman who is worried about her finances in divorce. Stanny tackles both financial literacy and the psychology of money in this powerful and practical read.

Prince Charming Isn't Coming: How Women Get Smart about Money

By Barbara Huson,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Prince Charming Isn't Coming as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A guide for women explains how to get smart about money by sharing the practical advice and insights that financially successful women use to get ahead. 15,000 first printing. Tour.


The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

By Daphne Rose Kingma,

Book cover of The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

Why this book?

Psychotherapist Daphne Rose Kingma offers ten coping strategies to heal your heart when struggling with life’s devastations, including divorce. This is a soothing read if one is still raw with grief as it offers both hope and practical suggestions for moving through loss. Divorce can be a chance to heal old wounds and grow and this book offers a terrific start to that process.

The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart: An Emotional and Spiritual Handbook

By Daphne Rose Kingma,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Ten Things to Do When Your Life Falls Apart as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Add layoffs, foreclosures, and skyrocketing health-care costs to the inevitable crises of every life, and you have today’s landscape. Amid these challenges, even those who thought they had solid coping skills feel that their center cannot hold as things fall apart. In her first book in many years, bestselling author Daphne Rose Kingma takes us on a path of emotional and spiritual healing, with particular attention to the complex and frequently overwhelming circumstances of our lives right now. The perfect combination of empathic friend, sage counselor, savvy problem solver, and even gallows humorist, Kingma looks straight into the predicaments so…


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