The Best Books On Healthy Divorce And Co-Parenting

The Books I Picked & Why

BIFF for Coparent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts

By Bill Eddy, Annette Burns, Kevin Chafin

BIFF for Coparent Communication: Your Guide to Difficult Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts

Why this book?

Bill Eddy is the expert on reducing conflict in high-conflict divorce (all of his books are well worth reading). Conflict in divorce can be traumatic, and especially hurts the children. Bill has useful acronyms and tools to help manage the intensity of communication between divorcing parents. His style is conversational and informal, but his content is rich. I like the way he illustrates his points with stories of people he’s worked with. I recommend BIFF and other tools to my patients going through divorce.


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Mom's House, Dad's House

By Isolina Ricci

Mom's House, Dad's House

Why this book?

Ricci has been writing books for divorcing families for more than 20 years. This book is a classic that helps parents transition to shared parenting time, and parenting children in two homes. She writes supportively about the transition and adjustment to solo-parenting, with helpful suggestions and good illustrations. She followed up with two other books that I always recommend: Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids, and The Co-Parenting Toolkit. If I could only recommend one book for divorcing families, it would be one of Isolina Ricci’s.


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Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce

By Carol R. Hughes, Bruce R. Fredenburg

Home Will Never Be the Same Again: A Guide for Adult Children of Gray Divorce

Why this book?

With the rise in so-called “gray divorces,” adult children of divorce find that they are just as wounded, betrayed, devastated and grief-stricken as young children. The myth that it is better to “wait to divorce till after the kids are grown” turns out to be just that, a myth. Adult children of divorce have been neglected in divorce books until recently, and this book is a resource geared toward their unique circumstances, helping them process and adjust to their parent's divorce. Divorcing parents would also benefit from reading it if they have adult children.


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Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life

By Pauline H. Tesler, Peggy Thompson

Collaborative Divorce: The Revolutionary New Way to Restructure Your Family, Resolve Legal Issues, and Move on with Your Life

Why this book?

Collaborative Divorce is not new, it has been around since the mid-1990s. It is an alternative to litigation when mediation is not going to be enough support. The core of the approach is respect, honesty, transparency, and concern for the entire family. Mediation and Collaborative Divorce are both confidential processes that avoid litigation but there are significant advantages to Collaborative Divorce. Mediation is with one neutral facilitator (mediator) but in a Collaborative Divorce, each person has their own specially trained attorney to guide them through the divorce. In addition, each person has their own divorce coach (sometimes just one neutral coach), and often a child specialist brings the voice of the children to the negotiations. This book describes how Collaborative Divorce works and will help readers decided whether this would be a good process choice for them. The goal is to help families avoid court and avoid ongoing conflict. The book can help readers learn how to avoid the damage caused by difficult divorces.


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Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

By Katherine Woodward Thomas

Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After

Why this book?

When Gwyneth Paltrow introduced the term “conscious uncoupling” to the world, people were intrigued. More and more are searching for ways to divorce amicably, or at least civilly. This book presents a five-step program to guide divorcing couples through a kinder, more respectful process that allows each of them to recover and move on.


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