The best Christian books on marriage and sexuality

Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal Author Of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality
By Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal

Who are we?

We are sisters and the co-founders of Girl Defined Ministries, where our goal is to help modern girls understand and live out God’s timeless truth for womanhood. Through Girl Defined we talk about such topics as biblical womanhood, relationships, love, marriage, sexuality, identity, and much more.


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Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

By Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal,

Book cover of Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

What is our book about?

Discover God’s good design for sex and purity. As the culture around us seeks to normalize things such as pornography, erotica, and casual sex, you may be feeling immense pressure to conform. In this relatable and encouraging book, Kristen and Bethany share honestly about their own struggles and victories and dig into topics such as: how your longings for intimacy point to a deeper need; why God’s original design for love, sex, and purity is good; how to deal with secret sexual struggles; and much more.

The books we picked & why

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The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

By Timothy Keller, Kathy Keller,

Book cover of The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Why this book?

What honestly is the meaning and purpose of marriage? This amazing book answers those questions and much more! Tim Keller gives a Biblical foundation and understanding of marriage as a whole and explains what true Biblical commitment looks like. He gently dismantles some common misconceptions of marriage and shows us a better way—God’s way. God has a perfect design for marriage that we can embrace and enjoy!


The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?

By Gary Thomas,

Book cover of The Sacred Search: What If It's Not about Who You Marry, But Why?

Why this book?

One of the best books on marriage we’ve ever read! Full of thought-provoking questions and practical advice, as well as hard truths straight from Scripture. Gary Thomas does an excellent job of reiterating what marriage and sex are truly about: Christ. He walks the reader through many different points and scenarios to help them see dating, marriage, and sexuality through the proper lens. We’ll never stop recommending this book; it’s just that good!


Let Me Be a Woman

By Elisabeth Elliot,

Book cover of Let Me Be a Woman

Why this book?

A wonderful must-read about femininity and womanhood as God defines it. Elisabeth Elliot (a woman worth reading about herself) wrote this as a wedding gift to her daughter. Thankfully we can all learn from the wisdom in those pages now! Drawing from the Bible, Elisabeth addresses many different topics related to marriage, masculinity and femininity, and what it means to be a woman. If you want to know more about God’s design for women, definitely give this a read!


Letters to a Romantic: First Years of Marriage

By Sean Perron, Spencer M. Harmon,

Book cover of Letters to a Romantic: First Years of Marriage

Why this book?

The first few years of marriage can often be the most challenging. Luckily Sean Perron and Spencer Harmon (with some help from their wives) have written this series of “love letters” to newly married couples. In them, they address many common difficulties newlyweds face, from finances to sex. This is a great resource for not only couples, but those in a dating relationship or single as well!


Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

By Heath Lambert,

Book cover of Finally Free: Fighting for Purity with the Power of Grace

Why this book?

In Finally Free, Heath Lambert details a Biblical process for fighting and overcoming pornography and sexual sin. No matter how long or hard the battle, there is so much hope in Christ! Whether you’ve struggled with this, or know someone who has, read this book! It’s transformative! It’s not about porn; it’s about Christ and the hope of the gospel. He can lead you to finally find freedom.


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