The best non-formulaic books for creating and sustaining a healthy marriage and mutually-fulfilling sex life

Dorothy Littell Greco Author Of Making Marriage Beautiful: Lifelong Love, Joy, and Intimacy Start with You
By Dorothy Littell Greco

Who am I?

For most of my 31 years of marriage, my husband and I have walked alongside couples who are preparing for marriage, in the throes of marriage, or trying to salvage their marriage. We get why it’s challenging and absolutely believe that there is hope and healing in the context of marriage for everyone. I’ve written two books on the topic and am passionate about helping couples find the resources they need to grow and strengthen their marriage covenants. Marriage books tend to be a bit shallow and offer quick fixes. We need honest, practical, wise resources if we want to grow. 


I wrote...

Making Marriage Beautiful: Lifelong Love, Joy, and Intimacy Start with You

By Dorothy Littell Greco, Christopher Greco,

Book cover of Making Marriage Beautiful: Lifelong Love, Joy, and Intimacy Start with You

What is my book about?

If you have been married longer than forty-eight hours, you know that you have bound yourself to an imperfect person who will have his or her own preferences, will disagree with your impeccable logic, and will confront your limitations on a regular basis. How you respond to this predicament shapes you and your marriage. 

Through grounded faith, fierce honesty, and the real-life stories of diverse couples, readers will find encouragement and hope on the pages of Making Marriage Beautiful. In the forward, Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The 5 Love Languages, wrote, “Whether you are newly married, feeling the growing pains of middle age, or looking back over many decades together, you will find this book both inspiring and insightful."

The books I picked & why

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The Mystery of Marriage: Meditations on the Miracle

By Mike Mason,

Book cover of The Mystery of Marriage: Meditations on the Miracle

Why this book?

Hands down, this is my favorite marriage book and the one I go to again and again for insight and encouragement. I've probably read it five times! Mason's book is not a how-to, but rather a why-to. It's deep, mysterious, and challenging. Just like marriage. Mason writes for those who are on a faith journey.  


Faithful: A Theology of Sex

By Beth Felker Jones,

Book cover of Faithful: A Theology of Sex

Why this book?

Faithful: A Theology of Sex is an incredibly important read in a culture that tends to disregard any connection between faith and sexuality. Felker-Jones goes deep and wide. I appreciated her insights on the importance of how we steward our bodies and our sexuality and how this affects both our faith and our marriage covenant. The author makes a compelling case for how “a theology of sexuality demonstrates sex is not about legalistic morals with no basis in reality but rather about the God who is faithful to us.” 


The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

By Timothy Keller, Kathy Keller,

Book cover of The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

Why this book?

The Kellers debunk the myth that marriage is meant to satisfy every need and that our spouse is supposed to become our soul mate. Seeped in biblical wisdom, The Meaning of Marriage offers deep wisdom and practical insights for all couples, regardless of how long they have been married. Tim and Kathy emphasize the need for sacrifice, honesty, and fidelity, among other characteristics so that the partner and their marriage can mature and deepen. I may not agree with all of his hermeneutics but I deeply appreciated this book.


Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationships in a Hypersexualized Age

By Jonathan Grant,

Book cover of Divine Sex: A Compelling Vision for Christian Relationships in a Hypersexualized Age

Why this book?

We cannot escape the fact that we are sexual beings, who walk around every day with sexual longings and desires. But what does this have to do with faith? In a word, everything. Grant does a marvelous job challenging our presuppositions, pointing us toward Scripture, and helping us to create a powerfully healthy understanding of how our sexuality is meant to bring us joy and ease our aloneness.  


The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

By Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky

Book cover of The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

Why this book?

Most faith-based books on sex focus on male desire, male need, and how wives are supposed to please their men. I find this unhelpful, boring, and unbiblical. Much of what passes as “Christian understanding” with regard to sex in marriage is influenced by culture and drive-by pornography. Gregoire’s book is specific (like really specific), respectful, and empowering. 


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