The best books to help Christians create an amazing sex life

Who am I?

When I decided to work on my sex life, I devoured both Christian and secular books looking for answers. I not only wanted to understand God’s design for sex, but I also needed help learning to create the amazing sex life that God wanted for me. Since that time, I have taught Awaken Love classes to thousands of Christian women and heard their stories. I continue to look for resources that are empowering for wives, within God’s boundaries, in line with women’s experiences, practical and thought-provoking.


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Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage

By Ruth Buezis,

Book cover of Awaken Love: The Truth About Sex that will Transform Your Marriage

What is my book about?

Sex is one of the most powerful forces created by God and yet a landmine of misinformation and shame exist in the church that causes many of us to miss out. 

If you want an intimate, passionate marriage then follow Ruth and the women she has taught in class on this raw, honest look of discovering God’s design for sex. Unravel the lies, go after healing, learn about your body and integrate sexuality with your faith. You will come away with a new mindset, practical tools to create an amazing sex life, and the deep-seated belief that God designed you unique, special – and deserving of delights.

The books I picked & why

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The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

By Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky

Book cover of The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

Why this book?

This deep dive into the ways that the church has impacted women’s sexuality had me shaking my head and reading passage after passage to my husband. Reading The Great Sex Rescue will help you realize how many lies you have believed about sex so that you can begin to embrace the truth. Move from a mindset of duty and helping your husband manage his sexuality, and choose to love each other, share yourself and embrace God’s freedom. 

The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You've Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

By Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach, Joanna Sawatsky

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked The Great Sex Rescue as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

What if it's not your fault that sex is bad in your marriage?

Based on a groundbreaking in-depth survey of 22,000 Christian women, The Great Sex Rescue unlocks the secrets to what makes some marriages red hot while others fizzle out. Generations of women have grown up with messages about sex that make them feel dirty, used, or invisible, while men have been sold such a cheapened version of sex, they don't know what they're missing. The Great Sex Rescue hopes to turn all of that around, developing a truly biblical view of sex where mutuality, intimacy, and passion reign.…

Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming

By Lou Paget,

Book cover of Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming

Why this book?

Orgasms helped me make sense of how my body works and how together, my husband and I could create a mutually satisfying sex life. The detailed illustrations enlightened us on how to align our bodies to hit the right spots – rather than aimlessly thrusting about. Orgasms is a secular book that is respectfully written but with enough detail to really help. 

Orgasms: How to Have Them, Give Them, and Keep Them Coming

By Lou Paget,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Orgasms as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.


Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex: Releasing the Passion Within

By Sandra Scantling, Sue Browder,

Book cover of Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex: Releasing the Passion Within

Why this book?

Taking a more holistic approach, Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex explores the world of women who experience sex in the most connecting, pleasurable ways. Moving beyond mechanics, it helped me understand the importance of unlocking inhibitions, being present, and discovering my own eroticism in order to experience a deep connection with my husband. God has more for us to experience if we are open to it. 

Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex: Releasing the Passion Within

By Sandra Scantling, Sue Browder,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Ordinary Women, Extraordinary Sex as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Looks at the phenomenon of `supersex` women who can experience sex at an intense level. Based on research with hundreds of women the author shows how these feelings can be experienced by everyone.

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By Ian Kerner,

Book cover of She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

Why this book?

Written by a man for men, this detailed guide on giving wives oral sex is filled with truths that will rock her world. Broken into short chapters the book covers everything from what to say so that she can relax, to specific ideas to make her tremble. 

She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman

By Ian Kerner,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked She Comes First as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

“Every man’s must-read. Tell your guy to put down the remote and pick up She Comes First.”
—Cosmopolitan

 

Ian Kerner offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women in She Comes First—anessential guidebook to oral sex from the author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either. The New York Times praises Kerner’s “cool sense of humor and an obsessive desire to inform,” as he “encourages men through an act that many find mystifying.” An indispensable aid to a healthier, more fulfilling sex life for her and him, She Comes First offers techniques and philosophy that have already earned raves…


All Night Long: How to Make Love to a Man Over 50

By Barbara Keesling,

Book cover of All Night Long: How to Make Love to a Man Over 50

Why this book?

Just the other day I got an email from a wife worried about her aging husband losing confidence, and I immediately recommended All Night Long. Sex doesn’t have to end when our husbands slow down. In fact, sex can get better than it has ever been before because change is an opportunity for growth. This book is filled with activities that will help boost your confidence and make your sex life sizzle. 

All Night Long: How to Make Love to a Man Over 50

By Barbara Keesling,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked All Night Long as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

This book is not about Viagra -- it is about making love. Getting older really does mean getting better. As millions of baby boomers are passing the fifty-year mark, concern for their sex lives is reaching epidemic proportions. This book makes it clear -- sex at fifty, and beyond, can be the best sex yet! By taking the mystery out of the ageing process, this book educates, reassures, and reinvigorates. The key is to remember that we live in a fast-paced society, where not getting there quickly enough sometimes means losing out -- but this is not the case with…

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