The best books on sex and sexuality

Most men think sex is largely about intercourse, and that intercourse is how women get to orgasm. Actually, the organ that triggers orgasm in women is the clitoris, which sits outside the vagina an inch or so above it nestled beneath the top junction of the vaginal lips. Only a small fraction of women can work up to orgasm during intercourse. Most need gentle, direct, extended clitoral caresses, by hand, mouth, or sex toy. This book explains the primacy of the clitoris in women’s pleasure. It should be required reading for all men.

This quick read has a message similar to Becoming Clitorate -- that it's not intercourse that allow most women to work up to orgasm, but gentle, extended clitoral caresses. However, unlike Becoming Clitorate, which is written by a woman for women, She Comes First is written by a man for men, so it has a different sensibility that speaks to men's way of thinking. The two books are quite complementary.

This is by far the best sex guide for teens and young adults. Most such books are written for parents, who buy them, not for young people, who need frank sex information. This book speaks directly to young people’s sexual issues. It’s a breath of fresh air in an otherwise lame field.

The myth is that childhood sexual abuse is so horrific that survivors are scarred for life and can never enjoy fulfilling lovemaking. Actually, with information and therapy, survivors can enjoy deeply pleasurable and satisfying sex lives. This book points the way.