My favorite books for when life heads downhill

Why am I passionate about this?

The bottom has fallen out of my world several times now, but it’s much worse watching disaster strike someone you love. When my husband suffered a near-fatal stroke, it was inevitable I’d end up writing about his road to rehab. Grit and humour were what they said he’d need, and Scousers like me laugh at anything. We also cry and argue a lot. I’m on a mission to cheer people on and hand them arms as they battle through hard times. A life, or a state of mind, can change in a moment, and that’s what I read and write about.  


I wrote...

Joe Faber and the Optimists

By Gill Oliver,

Book cover of Joe Faber and the Optimists

What is my book about?

Joe Faber is a funny guy, good with his hands, and great with words – until the stroke which leaves him severely disabled. But this is more than his story. His wife draws up a manifesto and decides to act like an optimist. Their daughter turns trouble into music. Her fiancé, innocent, positive and daft, and will do his best to keep them all on target.  Artist Joe is a close observer of the world, but how does the world see him now? Will Fran have to give up the job she loves? And wedding plans are fraught.

There’s heartbreak and absurdity along the way; but humour is the family’s greatest asset in the drive to get Joe back on his own two feet. 

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Horse's Mouth

Gill Oliver Why did I love this book?

I was hungry for a great piece of comic writing when a friend handed me this book, and it delivered so much more than laughter.

Once I’d tuned in to the language, I ended up shambling through 30s London alongside impecunious painter Gulley Jimson. A humble man, driven by a holy need to make the sort of art which, it turns out, nobody wants, he encounters a world of squalor and beauty, both physical and moral.

I grew to love him and his daily observations on the play of weather and light on the Thames, which form a sort of sketchbook. As Jimson’s physical health declines, he grips beauty wherever he finds it. Theroux, Lessing, and Updike all rated this author.

By Joyce Cary,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked The Horse's Mouth as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The Horse's Mouth, famously filmed with Alec Guinness in the central role, is a searing portrait of the artistic temperament.

Gulley Jimson is the charming, impoverished painter who cares little about the conventional values of his day. His unfailing belief that he must live and paint according to his intuition without regard for the cost to himself or to others, makes him a man of great, if sometimes flawed, vision.

But with an admirable drive for creation comes an astonishing hunger for destruction. Is he a great artist? A has-been? Or an exhausted, drunken ne'er-do-well?

As Gulley Jimson criss-crosses London…


Book cover of Paradise Lodge

Gill Oliver Why did I love this book?

I’m a sucker for a pun, and this is another witty book about a serious subject, so it’s right up my street. Milton it ain’tI romped through it at a time when I was desperate for entertainment. Aging is explored with a sense of freshness and fun as a teenager goes to work in an old people’s home.

A convincing voice, well observed, and ultimately poignant as our protagonist gets closer to understanding age and the elderlywhilst growing up herself. I love the fact that the jokes are never laboured. It’s coming to us all…

By Nina Stibbe,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Paradise Lodge as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Lizzie Vogel's story continues in Paradise Lodge, the brilliantly comic sequel to Nina Stibbe's hilarious Man at the Helm.

'LOVE it! Instant classic - funny, wise, touching, entirely delightful' MARIAN KEYES

*****

Working in a care home is not really a suitable job for a schoolgirl but 15-year-old Lizzie Vogel went for it. It just seemed too exhausting to commit to being a full-time girlfriend or a punk (it is the 1970s after all), plus she has some knowledge of old people. They're not suited to granary bread, and you mustn't compare them to toddlers, but she doesn't know there's…


Book cover of H is for Hawk

Gill Oliver Why did I love this book?

This took me way outside my own experience. I’m drawn to books that bring together different areas of knowledge, and here, a memoir about bereavement intertwines with the training of a goshawk and a preoccupation with the writer T E White.

I admired its rhythm as one strand was plaited over the next. It meant that a book which talks a lot about patience, pain, and stillness never lost its momentum, and I kept reading. I knew nothing about falconry, with its ancient history and medieval-sounding language, so it ticked my ‘new vocabulary’ box, too. 

By Helen Macdonald,

Why should I read it?

13 authors picked H is for Hawk as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

One of the New York Times Book Review's 10 Best Books of the Year

ON MORE THAN 25 BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR LISTS: including TIME (#1 Nonfiction Book), NPR, O, The Oprah Magazine (10 Favorite Books), Vogue (Top 10), Vanity Fair, Washington Post, Boston Globe, Chicago Tribune, Seattle Times, San Francisco Chronicle (Top 10), Miami Herald, St. Louis Post Dispatch, Minneapolis Star Tribune (Top 10), Library Journal (Top 10), Publishers Weekly, Kirkus Reviews, Slate, Shelf Awareness, Book Riot, Amazon (Top 20)

The instant New York Times bestseller and award-winning sensation, Helen Macdonald's story of adopting and raising one of…


Book cover of And Away...

Gill Oliver Why did I love this book?

I love the delightful daftness, the sheer infantile silliness of this autobiography; it’s proof you can preserve your inner child well into maturity. Words are like Play-Doh to our Bob.

The comedian’s early years were marked by sadness, but he celebrates the power of having a laugh and hanging out with your mates. It made perfect sense to me to learn that the book came about because of a brush with heart failure.

It’s one of those books I dip into for a quick fix.

By Bob Mortimer,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked And Away... as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.


Book cover of Candide, or Optimism

Gill Oliver Why did I love this book?

This classic satire gripped me even though I only half-understood it. Whatever disaster befell my family, my mother used to assert it was surely for the best; so when, as an eye-rolling teenager, I found this on the reading listMum’s philosophy, tested in the real worldI was hooked.

Voltaire drags his dopey characters, led by the philosopher Pangloss, through every type of horror, war, famine, and earthquake. World events now keep driving me back to his conclusion: in an age of folly and random misfortune, the best you can do is to dig your garden. Tend your own patch.

OK, the eighteenth century was racist, sexist, and colonial… but perspective is what Voltaire is all about. Didn’t quite cure me of optimism, btw.

By Voltaire, Theo Cuffe (translator),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Candide, or Optimism as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'The prince of philosophical novels' John Updike

In Candide, Voltaire threw down an audacious challenge to the philosophical views of the Enlightenment to create one of the most glorious satires of the eighteenth century. His eponymous hero is an innocent young man whose tutor, Pangloss, has instilled in him the belief that 'all is for the best'. But when his love for the Baron's rosy-cheeked daughter is discovered, Candide is cast out to make his own fortune. As he and his various companions roam over the world, an outrageous series of disasters - earthquakes, syphilis, the Inquisition - sorely test…


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Why am I passionate about this?

I have always loved reading and its ability to take you far away to a distant time and place and lift you up. As a kid, I never left the house without a book, and the ones that made me laugh were my go-to's. I believe the ability to make people laugh is a truly special talent, especially while making the text relatable, so the reader’s always asking, wow, what would I do in that situation? My readers often tell me that my writing sounds just like me, which is wonderful because there’s no need to pretend. You will always know what you’ll get with me!

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What is my book about?

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