My favorite books about the inner lives of women

Why am I passionate about this?

I am invested in how women juxtapose the day-to-day with the bizarre. I am curious about how women balance their lives with the insoluble and how this contributes to the fluidity of their identities. I live with women, I work with women, I shop with them, eat with them, sit next to them on the bus, I am friends with women, laugh with them, I pray with them, I am these women. In whichever format my work takes shape–whether subtle or direct, either as a performer, writer, designer, or community catalyst, I am committed to intentionally making space for womanhood. Please enjoy my book list.


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Someone Birthed Them Broken: Stories

By Ama Asantewa Diaka,

Book cover of Someone Birthed Them Broken: Stories

What is my book about?

My book is an audacious and illuminating collection of interconnected short stories that explore the complexities of familial bonds, romantic encounters, and sustaining friendships through the lives of today’s Ghanaian youth. Men like Opoku Sr., not yet forty and struggling to keep his family’s business afloat after his father’s unexpected passing. When his new girlfriend tells him she’s pregnant, he knows he has nothing left to give.

Years later, that girlfriend’s son, Opoku Jr., now faces his own troubles, including his girlfriend Boatemaa, who suspects he is sneaking around, and Amoafoa, the woman he’s seeing on the side. Ama Asantewa Diaka captures the deeply humane experiences of characters whose lives clash with one another in friendship, passion, hope, and heartache.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Everything Good Will Come

Ama Asantewa Diaka Why did I love this book?

I’ve read this book at least twice. The specificity of Sefi Atta's language makes me feel like I can reach into the pages and sit next to the characters as their lives unfold.

Her writing is very immersive, drawing you in and making everything in that world real and imaginable, painful yet livable. In this book, she explores the complexities of womanhood, even with certain privileges and regardless of status. 

By Sefi Atta,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Everything Good Will Come as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Everything Good Will Come introduces an important new voice in contemporary fiction. With insight and a lyrical wisdom, Nigerian-born Sefi Atta has written a powerful and eloquent story set in her African homeland. It is 1971, a year after the Biafran War, and Nigeria is under military rule—though the politics of the state matter less than those of her home to Enitan Taiwo, an eleven-year-old girl tired of waiting for school to start. Will her mother, who has become deeply religious since the death of Enitan’s brother, allow her friendship with the new girl next door, the brash and beautiful…


Book cover of What It Means When a Man Falls from the Sky: Stories

Ama Asantewa Diaka Why did I love this book?

I am in love with Lesley’s writing, and everyone should be. Period. I will recommend this book a thousand times. The first time I read it, I was left feeling hopeful–hopeful that stories are soft, intentional, deliberate, magical things that can shift people and places enough to make a difference or change minds. With each story in this collection, Lesley peels away the layers (sometimes softly, sometimes jarring) of lives, relationships, and women.

By Lesley Nneka Arimah,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked What It Means When a Man Falls from the Sky as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A PBS NewsHour/New York Times Book Club Pick

A NATIONAL BOOK FOUNDATION "5 UNDER 35" HONOREE

WINNER OF THE 2017 KIRKUS PRIZE

WINNER OF THE NYPL'S YOUNG LIONS FICTION AWARD

FINALIST FOR THE NATIONAL BOOK CRITICS CIRCLE LEONARD PRIZE

SHORTLISTED FOR THE ASPEN WORDS LITERARY PRIZE

A dazzlingly accomplished debut collection explores the ties that bind parents and children, husbands and wives, lovers and friends to one another and to the places they call home. 

In “Who Will Greet You at Home,” a National Magazine Award finalist for The New Yorker, A woman desperate for a child weaves one out…


Book cover of My Brilliant Friend

Ama Asantewa Diaka Why did I love this book?

I am convinced nobody writes about female friendships in an aching, warm, and complex way better than Elena Ferrante. I have returned to pages of this book again and again.

The relatability, the precision with which you can see yourself so clearly on certain pages. It has helped me find language in navigating my own friendships.

By Elena Ferrante, Ann Goldstein (translator),

Why should I read it?

13 authors picked My Brilliant Friend as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

OVER 5 MILLION COPIES SOLD IN ENGLISH WORLDWIDE

OVER 1 MILLION COPIES SOLD IN THE UK

OVER 14 MILLION COPIES OF THE NEAPOLITAN QUARTET SOLD WORLDWIDE

NOW A MAJOR TV SERIES

GUARDIAN 100 BEST BOOKS OF THE 21st CENTURY

58 WEEKS ON THE BOOKSELLER'S TOP 20 ORIGINAL FICTION BESTSELLERS LIST

SHORTLISTED FOR WATERSTONES BOOK OF THE YEAR 2015

43 INTERNATIONAL RIGHTS DEALS

Now in B-format Paperback

From one of Italy's most acclaimed authors, comes this ravishing and generous-hearted novel about a friendship that lasts a lifetime. The story of Elena and Lila begins in the 1950s in a poor but…


Book cover of The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives

Ama Asantewa Diaka Why did I love this book?

The thing I love most about this book is how Lola weaves the story expertly in a way that you sympathize with each woman.

I loved the women in this book. Each one has its eccentricities, and each woman defines and redefines her autonomy. Only fantastic storytelling can center a patriarch and have the women crowning the day.

By Lola Shoneyin,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The Secret Lives of Baba Segi's Wives is a scandalous, engrossing tale of sexual politics and family strife in modern-day Nigeria. Lola Shoneyin's bestselling novel bursts on to the stage in a vivid adaptat ion by Caine Award-winning playwright Rotimi Babatunde. "Men are like yam, you cut them how you like." Baba Segi has three wives, seven children, and a mansion filled with riches. But now he has his eyes on Bolanle, a young university graduate wise to life's misfortunes. When Bolanle responds to Baba Segi's advances, she unwittingly uncovers a secret which threatens to rock his patriarchal household to…


Book cover of Things They Lost

Ama Asantewa Diaka Why did I love this book?

If minds were gardens, Okwiri Odour’s would be lush and strange, monochromatic, and with a tinge of color. I loved the absolute tenderness with which she wrote her characters.

I loved that the strangeness of things in this book made me both chuckle and question the possibility of worlds.

By Okwiri Oduor,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Things They Lost as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

'Magical, beguiling... Carries echoes of Toni Morrison's Beloved' Guardian

A Vulture 'Book We Can't Wait to Read in 2022'

They had not lost anyone that year, or the ones they had lost were not worth remembering...

Set in the fictional Kenyan town of Mapeli, Things They Lost tells the story of four generations of women, each haunted by the mysterious curse that hangs over the Brown family. At the heart of the novel is Ayosa Ataraxis Brown, twelve years old and the loneliest girl in the world.

Okwiri Oduor's stunningly original debut novel sings with Kenyan folklore and myth as…


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American Flygirl

By Susan Tate Ankeny,

Book cover of American Flygirl

Susan Tate Ankeny Author Of The Girl and the Bombardier: A True Story of Resistance and Rescue in Nazi-Occupied France

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Why am I passionate about this?

Susan Tate Ankeny left a career in teaching to write the story of her father’s escape from Nazi-occupied France. In 2011, after being led on his path through France by the same Resistance fighters who guided him in 1944, she felt inspired to tell the story of these brave French patriots, especially the 17-year-old- girl who risked her own life to save her father’s. Susan is a member of the 8th Air Force Historical Society, the Air Force Escape and Evasion Society, and the Association des Sauveteurs d’Aviateurs Alliés. 

Susan's book list on women during WW2

What is my book about?

The first and only full-length biography of Hazel Ying Lee, an unrecognized pioneer and unsung World War II hero who fought for a country that actively discriminated against her gender, race, and ambition.

This unique hidden figure defied countless stereotypes to become the first Asian American woman in United States history to earn a pilot's license, and the first female Asian American pilot to fly for the military.

Her achievements, passionate drive, and resistance in the face of oppression as a daughter of Chinese immigrants and a female aviator changed the course of history. Now the remarkable story of a fearless underdog finally surfaces to inspire anyone to reach toward the sky.

American Flygirl

By Susan Tate Ankeny,

What is this book about?

One of WWII’s most uniquely hidden figures, Hazel Ying Lee was the first Asian American woman to earn a pilot’s license, join the WASPs, and fly for the United States military amid widespread anti-Asian sentiment and policies.

Her singular story of patriotism, barrier breaking, and fearless sacrifice is told for the first time in full for readers of The Women with Silver Wings by Katherine Sharp Landdeck, A Woman of No Importance by Sonia Purnell, The Last Boat Out of Shanghai by Helen Zia, Facing the Mountain by Daniel James Brown and all Asian American, women’s and WWII history books.…


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