The best books on melancholy, love, and identity

Why am I passionate about this?

I am a historian of modern Poland. I teach, write, and think a lot about Poland and its place in Europe and the world. Regardless of where I live, Poland will always be my first home, where strawberries taste the best, the forest offers the most calming shade in the summer, and the language sounds the sweetest. But Poland is also a conundrum—perhaps similar to anywhere else and unique simultaneously. Its successes and failures, the traumas it caused and experienced, are part of me, and they keep pushing me to search for people and their stories that help us see the complexity of human life and individual choices.


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An Ordinary Life?: The Journeys of Tonia Lechtman, 1918-1996

By Anna Müller,

Book cover of An Ordinary Life?: The Journeys of Tonia Lechtman, 1918-1996

What is my book about?

This is the story of a Polish Jewish woman who embraced communism at the threshold of her teenage years. Her ideals strengthened in Palestine, where she met and married fellow communist Sioma Lechtman, a Russian Jew raised in Vienna. In 1937, Tonia and Sioma immigrated to France to build a new life.

In 1943, she fled France as a single mother of two young children and spent the rest of the war, 1943–45, as a refugee in Switzerland. In 1946, she returned to Poland. That return was supposed to end her wandering; Poland in 1946 promised a new, better communist world committed to eliminating hatred and injustices. 

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Letters Of Transit: Reflections on Exile, Identity, Language, and Loss

Anna Müller Why did I love this book?

It’s a short book with 5 essays on displacement, loss, and ways to find a sense of belonging. The stories are personal; perhaps because of that, they touch on something that I think many of us carry in our hearts–a need to reflect on what it means to lose and rebuild a home.

The essays evoke many different themes–the power of movement and starting anew, but also a sense of alienation that even the voluntary wanderers may never lose. We carry the cultures that shaped us within us; as Eva Hoffman, one of the authors, says, “We are nothing more than the encoded memory of our heritage.” And feeling, even if a blessing, sometimes deepens our sense of alienation.

For many of the authors, it’s the language and writing that make sense of the discomfort and find a ‘home.’ It’s a small but beautifully written book and one that inspires with almost every sentence.

By Andre Aciman (editor),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Letters Of Transit as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

"Moving, deeply introspective and honest" (Publishers Weekly) reflections on exile and memory from five award-winning authors. All of the authors in Letters of Transit have written award-winning works on exile, home, and memory, using the written word as a tool for revisiting their old homes or fashioning new ones. Now in paperback are five newly commissioned essays offering moving distillations of their most important thinking on these themes. Andre Aciman traces his migrations and compares his own transience with the uprootedness of many moderns. Eva Hoffman examines the crucial role of language and what happens when your first one is…


Book cover of Against Happiness: In Praise of Melancholy

Anna Müller Why did I love this book?

Intuitively, I have always felt suspicious of the pressure to be happy and trust the transformative power of positive thinking. What is happiness? Why do we yield to the pressures to be happy? Why do we consider happiness to be of the highest value?

This little book argues for the importance of sadness and melancholia as emotions that are essential for any culture. It's sadness and its constant power to search for the meaning of life that makes us human and helps us grow. It's a powerful book that makes its case for the value of embracing sadness and melancholy as essential components of a meaningful life.

By Eric G. Wilson,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Against Happiness as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

We are addicted to happiness. More than any other generation, Americans today believe in the power of positive thinking. But who says we're supposed to be happy? In Against Happiness, the scholar Eric G. Wilson argues that melancholia is necessary to any thriving culture, that it is the muse of great literature, painting, music, and innovation―and that it is the force underlying original insights.

So enough Prozac-ing of our brains. Let's embrace our depressive side as the wellspring of creativity. It's time to throw off the shackles of positivity and relish the blues thatmake us human.


Book cover of Ukraine, War, Love: A Donetsk Diary

Anna Müller Why did I love this book?

It is a personal account of a historian examining life in Donetsk, Ukraine, during Russia's 2014 takeover. The author chronicles her experiences and observations living in a city torn apart by war, offering insights into the daily struggles, fears, and hopes of the people caught amid the conflict.

It's powerful, poignant, and full of anecdotes book that will break your heart while showing a never-ending devotion to life that Ukrainians have built. It may not be perfect, but it's theirs. "Ukraine, to me, is like my dad. It's my light. My home," says the author.

By Olena Stiazhkina, Anne O. Fisher (translator),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Ukraine, War, Love as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

In Ukraine, War, Love, Olena Stiazhkina depicts day-to-day developments in and around her beloved hometown Donetsk during Russia's 2014 invasion and occupation of the Ukrainian city. An award-winning fiction writer, Stiazhkina chronicles an increasingly harrowing series of events with sarcasm, anger, humor, and love.

The diary opens on March 2, 2014, as the first wave of pro-Russian protest washes over eastern Ukraine in the wake of Euromaidan, the Revolution of Dignity, and it closes on August 18, 2014, the day a convoy of civilian Ukrainian refugees is deliberately slaughtered by Russian forces. Early on, Stiazhkina is captured by pro-Russian forces…


Book cover of We Are All Equally Far From Love

Anna Müller Why did I love this book?

A beautiful and captivating novel about love written by a Palestinian writer, it is about a woman who falls for a man she accidentally exchanges letters with. After this introductory story, the book takes the readers through the webs of other characters' lives, heartbroken, forlorn, and desiring love.

It’s a book about alienation but written in such raw and beautiful language that it’s impossible to put it down.

By Adania Shibli, Paul Starkey (translator),

Why should I read it?

1 author picked We Are All Equally Far From Love as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

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Book cover of The Communist and the Communist's Daughter: A Memoir

Anna Müller Why did I love this book?

It is a memoir about a father and a father-daughter relationship written by a daughter. But it is also a story about how history written with capital H can affect family relationships, about surprising ways children interpret their parents while searching for space for themselves in their parent’s lives. Jane Lazarre seems to live in the shadow of her extraordinary father, who left Eastern Europe in 1902 for the USA and dedicated his life to fighting for economic equality and racial justice.

He believed in a more just world, but he also struggled with depression and cracking cohesion of the communist movement that he was a member of. The book is as much about him as about his daughter’s attempts to live up to some of his dreams: it’s about love, search for answers, and reconciliation.

By Jane Lazarre,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Communist and the Communist's Daughter as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

In a letter to his baby grandson, Bill Lazarre wrote that "unfortunately, despite the attempts by your grandpa and many others to present you with a better world, we were not very successful." Born in 1902 amid the pogroms in Eastern Europe, Lazarre dedicated his life to working for economic equality, racial justice, workers' rights, and a more just world. He was also dedicated to his family, especially his daughters, whom he raised as a single father following his wife's death. In The Communist and the Communist's Daughter Jane Lazarre weaves memories of her father with documentary materials-such as his…


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