My favorite books by cycle breakers who broke the cycle of trauma

In a weaving of revelatory family secrets and cultural insights, Prachi Gupta helps us to understand not only how our personal lives are truly political, but also how politics are used as a tool to divide us.

In this beautifully crafted part memoir, part theory, part personal chronicle, we are able to see how stereotypes in the U.S. have been created to divide and conquer entire communities of marginalized folks, leaving families in shambles along the way.

A key takeaway I gathered was the anti-Black racism embedded in the model minority myth and the ways in which racism and its different iterations, in many ways, hurts both the oppressed and the people it’s positioned to privilege. 

This book at times feels like poetry and written with such profundity.

Grappling with deep physical pain, Jen Soriano, a daughter of a neurosurgeon, comes upon a hard truth about the origins of her physical pain; a history of generational trauma and her family’s absorption of a painful history of colonization of the Phillipines.

This poignant memoir helped me understand, at a personal level, how the body starts to give up when we carry the emotional wounds of the past, how neurodivergence intersects with historical trauma, and reminds us that freedom from pain is indeed possible.

As a trauma psychologist, it was both humbling and enlightening to receive the author’s personal accounts of intergenerational trauma and intergenerational healing.

In this searing story of redemption, Safiya Sinclair helped me capture a vivid story of how legacies of patriarchal values that are situated in religion, encourage women to abandon themselves, leaving us in a state of perpetual and multigenerational suppression, that prove to be traumatic.

This book took me to new insights on the inner workings of religious trauma, placing that trauma within a patriarchal history that is very much alive today, not just in Jamaica, where the memoir is centered, but in all parts of the world.

I was able to see pieces of this story in my very own North American, Black, and Dominican communities, because this memoir pushed me to look within myself and the patriarchal socialization that I too have experienced.

This book has a clear message; it is in the telling of our stories that we can also find freedom from legacies of pain. It’s masterfully written to draw you in and grip your soul.

Our bodies tell stories of remnants of the past and in this memoir, Stephanie Foo proved to us that the body will indeed keep traces of unmetabolized pain that runs through our families.

This book reflects the spirit of intergenerational trauma, but also of intergenerational healing and the ways in which cycle breakers, and particularly those who are immigrants, have to build from the ashes of burned-down dreams and broken hearts. It is a reflection of how generational resilience comes to life, even in the darkest of moments.

This gripping story shows you the true power of perseverance and how stories of pain can end with us.

It is hope bottled up in a book that helps us to understand how the stories that we come from don’t have to be the same stories that come from us. Viola Davis will leave you feeling like you had an intimate conversation with a longtime friend and now you understand her with greater depth and deeper compassion.

The language she uses to tell her story will tug at your heart, perhaps because of the beautiful prose, or maybe because for many of us, this is also the story of our very own lives.