The best books on raising an emotionally secure and resilient child

The Books I Picked & Why

Attachment

By John Bowlby

Attachment

Why this book?

This book is the foundational book on attachment. John Bowlby is the father of attachment theory and this seminal work was his masterpiece which describes in terms anyone can understand, the importance of attachment to the long-term emotional and mental health of children.


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Diary of a Baby: What Your Child Sees, Feels, and Experiences

By Daniel N. Stern

Diary of a Baby: What Your Child Sees, Feels, and Experiences

Why this book?

I love this book because it takes the observations and research of Daniel Stern’s The Interpersonal World of the Infant and puts it into readable and understandable language. This book helps parents to empathize with their young children, to understand how they are feeling and what they are thinking and to make attachment theory more real.


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The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of Infants and Children

By Ed Tronick

The Neurobehavioral and Social-Emotional Development of Infants and Children

Why this book?

This book helps clinicians and parents to understand the need for mothers or primary attachment figures to repair the missteps and misunderstandings from moment to moment to foster emotional security. Every mother and baby have moments of misunderstanding, the sooner the mother can repair this rift through empathy and taking responsibility for the misstep, the more seen and heard and secure the baby will feel.


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Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self: The Neurobiology of Emotional Development

By Allan N. Schore

Affect Regulation and the Origin of the Self: The Neurobiology of Emotional Development

Why this book?

This is the seminal book on the field of neuropsychobiology, the coming together of the four fields of psychoanalysis, attachment theory, epigenetics, and neuroscience to promote the understanding of the critical nature of the first 3 years of a baby’s life and the role that mothers play in that regulation and the emotional security of the baby.


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The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood

By Selma H. Fraiberg

The Magic Years: Understanding and Handling the Problems of Early Childhood

Why this book?

The best book I know to understand the emotions of toddlers and how to help regulate those emotions.  Fraiberg is brilliant at taking complicated psychoanalytic and attachment knowledge and putting it into a readable and accessible form to help everyone from clinicians to parents.


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