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Why am I passionate about this?

I grew up in the 1960s in the Midwest, in a male-dominated family, where appearances were highly important, where no one seemed to focus on anyone’s feelings or plans (particularly as a female member of the family). As a result, I’m drawn to books where the author explores this type of problematic relationship, of a protagonist trying to carve out her identity in the midst of often overwhelming obstacles. It also interests me to read about women who, like me, somehow managed to discover who they were (I use the word “translate” in my memoir), to carve out an identity that is separate from the idea that people around her erroneously hold to be true.


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Ivy Lodge: A Memoir of Translation and Discovery

By Linda Murphy Marshall,

Book cover of Ivy Lodge: A Memoir of Translation and Discovery

What is my book about?

Following the death of her parents, a translator returns to her childhood home – Ivy Lodge – to go through the house and all of its rooms with her siblings, sorting through hundreds of objects and memories of her time in that house. In the process, she re-translates her life, comes to a new, better understanding of who she is, sees herself for the first time through her own eyes. She also has a number of epiphanies about her life in that Midwestern world, her place in an often abusive, always patriarchal environment.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of Places We Left Behind: A Memoir-in-Miniature

Linda Murphy Marshall Why did I love this book?

Places We Left Behind is like nothing I’ve ever read before.

For one thing, the structure of the relatively short book is unusual, short vignettes and observations. The writing is beautiful, and it’s the story of the challenges of being part of an international couple. This is not my situation, but I have traveled extensively and know “mixed” couples, so much of Lang’s book resonated with me.

By Jennifer Lang,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Places We Left Behind as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

"For anyone who has ever loved deeply and been willing to take risks for the sake of love." Rachel Barenbaum author of Atomic Anna

When American-born Jennifer falls in love with French-born Philippe during the First Intifada in Israel, she understands their relationship isn't perfect.

Both 23, both Jewish, they lead very different lives: she's a secular tourist, he's an observant immigrant. Despite their opposing outlooks on two fundamental issues-country and religion-they are determined to make it work. For the next 20 years, they root and uproot their growing family, each longing for a singular place to call home.

In…


Book cover of Poetic License: A Memoir

Linda Murphy Marshall Why did I love this book?

I highly recommend Poetic License for anyone who a) grew up in a patriarchy and b) had fathers who were larger than life.

Cherington’s father was a Pulitzer Prize-winning poet, and she had to live in his shadow for much of her life, and accommodate to a world which largely revolved around him.

It was fascinating to read about the notable literary figures who came to their home but, at the same time, having grown up in a patriarchy myself, with a larger-than-life father, I could easily imagine what life was life for the author, a life she describes in beautiful, lyrical language. 

By Gretchen Cherington,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Poetic License as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

At age forty, with two growing children and a new consulting company she'd recently founded, Gretchen Cherington, daughter of Pulitzer Prize-winning poet Richard Eberhart, faced a dilemma: Should she protect her parents' well-crafted family myths while continuing to silence her own voice? Or was it time to challenge those myths and speak her truth-even the unbearable truth that her generous and kind father had sexually violated her?

In this powerful memoir, aided by her father's extensive archives at Dartmouth College and interviews with some of her father's best friends, Cherington candidly and courageously retraces her past to make sense of…


Book cover of Don't Call Me Mother: A Daughter's Journey from Abandonment to Forgiveness

Linda Murphy Marshall Why did I love this book?

This book is particularly good for anyone who was/is in the baby-boomer generation and/or who had issues with their mother.

I identified with Meyer’s ongoing struggles with her mother, a mother who was born during a period when women were normally not allowed to stretch their wings and live their own lives. This was my situation and – in hindsight – I often wonder if many of my personal struggles with my mother were due to the fact that I was afforded so many more opportunities than my mother, through no fault of her own.

By Linda Joy Myers,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Don't Call Me Mother as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

This compassionate and gripping memoir tells the story of three generations of daughters who, though determined to be different from their absent mothers, ultimately follow in their footsteps. Myers's new afterword continues the saga, allowing her to confront her family legacy and come full circle with her daughter and grandchildren.


Book cover of Educated: A Memoir

Linda Murphy Marshall Why did I love this book?

When I read it, the sense I got of the author’s feelings of being a misfit, an outcast, were palpable, and I could identify with her, regardless of the different circumstances in which we were raised. Her book is about not feeling like you fit, about feeling like you were born into the wrong family.

By Tara Westover,

Why should I read it?

22 authors picked Educated as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

THE MULTI-MILLION COPY BESTSELLER

Selected as a book of the year by AMAZON, THE TIMES, SUNDAY TIMES, GUARDIAN, NEW YORK TIMES, ECONOMIST, NEW STATESMAN, VOGUE, IRISH TIMES, IRISH EXAMINER and RED MAGAZINE

'One of the best books I have ever read . . . unbelievably moving' Elizabeth Day
'An extraordinary story, beautifully told' Louise O'Neill
'A memoir to stand alongside the classics . . . compelling and joyous' Sunday Times

Tara Westover grew up preparing for the end of the world. She was never put in school, never taken to the doctor. She did not even have a birth certificate…


Book cover of Foster

Linda Murphy Marshall Why did I love this book?

This book is not a memoir per se, but it reads like a memoir.

Such a short book, but so packed with emotion and beautiful writing, as the protagonist attempts to find her place in the world. Although our family situations couldn’t have been more different in terms of the countries in which we grew up, and our family structure, I deeply identified with the protagonist’s feeling that she didn’t belong, wasn’t really part of the family situation in which she found herself. I read it months ago and it has remained with me.

By Claire Keegan,

Why should I read it?

6 authors picked Foster as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

** Adapted into the Oscar-nominated film adaptation, An Cailin Ciuin / The Quiet Girl **

From the author of the Booker-shortlisted Small Things Like These, a heartbreaking, haunting story of childhood, loss and love by one of Ireland's most acclaimed writers.

'A real jewel.' Irish Independent

'A small miracle.' Sunday Times

'A thing of finely honed beauty.' Guardian

'Thrilling.' Richard Ford

'As good as Chekhov.' David Mitchell

It is a hot summer in rural Ireland. A girl is sent to live with foster parents on a farm, not knowing when she will return home. In the strangers' house, she finds…


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By Carol Newman Cronin,

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What is my book about?

James Malloy is a ferry captain--or used to be, until he was unceremoniously fired and replaced by a "girl" named Courtney Farris. Now, instead of piloting Brenton Island’s daily lifeline to the glitzy docks of Newport, Rhode Island, James spends his days beached, bitter, and bored.

When he discovers a plan for a private golf course on wilderness sacred to his dying best friend, James is determined to stop such "improvements." But despite Brenton's nickname as "Cooperation Island," he's used to working solo. To keep historic trees and ocean shoreline open to all, he'll have to learn to cooperate with other islanders--including Captain Courtney, who might just morph from irritant to irresistible once James learns a secret that's been kept from him for years.

Ferry to Cooperation Island

By Carol Newman Cronin,

What is this book about?

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When he discovers a private golf course staked out across wilderness sacred to his dying best friend, a Narragansett Indian, James is determined to stop such "improvements." But despite Brenton's nickname as "Cooperation Island," he's used to working solo. To keep rocky bluffs, historic trees, and ocean shoreline open to all, he'll have…


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