Why am I passionate about this?

I’ve always had stronger and more intense emotions than my peers. In childhood, I spent hours poring over medical textbooks to try to figure out exactly what was wrong with me. At 28, after years of navigating the mental health industry, I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. Now, as a writer, my lived experience informs my passion to educate others about the disorder and show the world that people who live with BPD aren’t all bad—in fact, there are many unique gifts people with the disorder possess. I hope this reading list helps others who are on similar journeys. 


I wrote...

Rough Magic: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

By Miranda Newman,

Book cover of Rough Magic: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

What is my book about?

My book is a harrowing but ultimately uplifting memoir about living with borderline personality disorder—the most stigmatized diagnosis in mental…

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets

Miranda Newman Why did I love this book?

I love Marsha Linehan’s book because it was the first book that taught me skills to reduce the negative impacts of borderline personality disorder. It was a perfect distillation of Linehan’s treatment methods into accessible handouts and worksheets that helped me better engage with dialectical behavior therapy. I still return to my well-worn copy regularly. 

By Marsha M. Linehan,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked DBT Skills Training Handouts and Worksheets as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Featuring more than 225 user-friendly handouts and worksheets, this is an essential resource for clients learning dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) skills, and those who treat them. All of the handouts and worksheets discussed in Marsha M. Linehan's DBT Skills Training Manual, Second Edition, are provided, together with brief introductions to each module written expressly for clients. Originally developed to treat borderline personality disorder, DBT has been demonstrated effective in treatment of a wide range of psychological and emotional problems. No single skills training program will include all of the handouts and worksheets in this book; clients get quick, easy access…


Book cover of Beyond Borderline: True Stories of Recovery from Borderline Personality Disorder

Miranda Newman Why did I love this book?

They say hope is the backbone to recovery, and this book by John G. Gunderson and Perry D. Hoffman has hope in spades. The real-life stories of people living with BPD were so relatable, but, more importantly, they gave me hope that I could recover from a disorder that’s long been framed as “untreatable.” 

By John G. Gunderson, Perry D. Hoffman,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Beyond Borderline as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

BPD affects a significant percentage of the population. It is a disorder of relationships, one whose symptoms occur most in interpersonal contexts-and thus impact any number of interpersonal connections in life. When people have BPD, they may struggle to manage their emotions on a daily basis, and have to deal with fears of abandonment, anger issues, self-injury, and even suicidality-all of which can lead to even more instability in relationships.

This powerful compilation of stories reveals the deeply personal, firsthand perspectives of people who suffer with BPD, explores the numerous ways in which this disorder has affected their lives, and…


Book cover of The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook: An Integrative Program to Understand and Manage Your BPD

Miranda Newman Why did I love this book?

This book by Daniel J. Fox took my understanding of my own BPD symptoms to a deeper level. I loved how much this book allowed me to reflect on my attachment styles, triggers, and distortions. It helped me uncover my personal motivations to work toward positive change and recovery.  

By Daniel J. Fox,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked The Borderline Personality Disorder Workbook as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Introducing a breakthrough, integrative approach to managing your borderline personality disorder (BPD). If you've been diagnosed with BPD you may feel a number of emotions - including shock, shame, sadness, abandonment, emptiness, or even anger. Even worse, you may be tempted to research your diagnosis online, only to find doomsday scenarios and terrible prognoses everywhere you click. Take a deep breath. You can get through this - and this workbook will help guide you. Despite what you may have read or been told, BPD is not the worst thing that can happen to you. Like many mental health issues, it…


Book cover of Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified: An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD

Miranda Newman Why did I love this book?

Borderline personality disorder is often called one of the most misunderstood mental illnesses. Robert Friedel’s book goes a long way in helping people better understand the disorder. I was fascinated by the murky history of the BPD label and the myths surrounding the disorder that Friedel deftly refutes.  

By Robert O. Friedel, Linda F. Cox, Karin Friedel

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

BPD is a chronic, disabling psychiatric condition that causes extreme instability in one's emotional life, behavior, and self-image, and severely impacts the relationships with one's family and friends. With an estimated 5.6% of the US population affected and an expanding awareness of the disorder, Dr. Robert O. Friedel offers a fully revised and updated edition of BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER DEMYSTIFIED. A leading expert in BPD and a pioneer in its treatment, Friedel has turned his vast experience into a useful, supportive guide. The book helps readers to understand the underlying causes of BPD, the course it takes, challenges of reaching…


Book cover of Freedom From Self-Harm: Overcoming Self-Injury with Skills from DBT and Other Treatments

Miranda Newman Why did I love this book?

One of the scariest symptoms of BPD is living with self-harm. I loved this book because it tackled non-suicidal self-injury in a nonjudgmental manner, which allowed me to reflect on and better understand the role non-suicidal self-injury plays in my life. This book helped me replace self-harming behavior with healthy coping strategies. 

By Kim L. Gratz, Alexander L. Chapman,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Freedom From Self-Harm as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Self-injury can be as addictive as any drug, and the secrecy and shame many sufferers feel about this behavior can keep them feeling trapped. But if you're ready to replace self-harm with a set of healthy coping skills, this compassionate and practical book can help. This complete guide to stopping self-injury gives you the facts about self-harm, corrects common myths about this behavior, and provides self-soothing techniques you can begin using right away for regulating difficult or overwhelming emotions.

Freedom from Self-Harm also includes self-assessment worksheets, guidance for seeking professional help, and information about the most effective therapies and medications.…


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Rough Magic: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

By Miranda Newman,

Book cover of Rough Magic: Living with Borderline Personality Disorder

What is my book about?

My book is a harrowing but ultimately uplifting memoir about living with borderline personality disorder—the most stigmatized diagnosis in mental health. It was years before I found a diagnosis that explained the complicated way I moved through the world. I would have to advocate for myself in the mental health system while dealing with abuse, being unhoused, survival sex, suicide attempts, and hospitalizations.

Through it all, I found strength in my diagnosis. My recollections are visceral and confessional but also self-aware, irreverent, and funny. I bolster my personal recollections with deeply researched observations on Canada’s mental healthcare system and the history of diagnostics and disorders, using research supported by my work at Yale University.

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