The best reference and writing books for romance authors

Why am I passionate about this?

After writing more than sixty romance novels, I can sometimes find myself at a loss for words, unable to think of the right word or find myself using the same ones. Having a good thesaurus is invaluable. I use my own thesaurus, Naughty Words for Nice Writers, all the time. I wrote it as a survival guide—it was the book I needed that didn’t exist when I started writing romance. Besides Naughty Words, the thesauri/reference books I’m recommending are tools I couldn’t live without. 


I wrote...

Naughty Words for Nice Writers: A Romance Novel Thesaurus

By Cara Bristol,

Book cover of Naughty Words for Nice Writers: A Romance Novel Thesaurus

What is my book about?

Now in its third edition, Naughty Words for Nice Writers, A Romance Novel Thesaurus contains thousands of usable, functional synonyms in more than 50 word lists to add spice and sizzle to your romance novel. More than a thesaurus, Naughty Words for Nice Writers is a writing guide filled with practical suggestions on how to craft a sex scene and “show” the intimacy between characters rather than tell it. Whether you intend to “fade to black” or spell it out in explicit detail, Naughty Words for Nice Writers will provide the craft tips and words to write an appropriate love scene. This is a “forever tool” you’ll want to keep right next to your laptop. 

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Emotion Thesaurus

Cara Bristol Why did I love this book?

Romance is all about feelings. The highs. The lows. The dejection and the joys. But you need to “show” and not “tell” how your characters are feeling.

To do that, you use gestures, dialogue, facial expressions, internal sensations, and thoughts. The Emotion Thesaurus provides all that and more. There are more than 130 entries to help writers show emotion. This is a fantastic book for all novel genres. If I could only keep one reference book (other than mine), this would be it!

By Angela Ackerman, Becca Puglisi,

Why should I read it?

4 authors picked The Emotion Thesaurus as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The bestselling Emotion Thesaurus, often hailed as “the gold standard for writers” and credited with transforming how writers craft emotion, has now been expanded to include 55 new entries! 

One of the biggest struggles for writers is how to convey emotion to readers in a unique and compelling way. When showing our characters’ feelings, we often use the first idea that comes to mind, and they end up smiling, nodding, and frowning too much. 

If you need inspiration for creating characters’ emotional responses that are personalized and evocative, this ultimate show-don’t-tell guide for emotion can help. It includes:

Body language…


Book cover of The Writer's A-Z of Body Language

Cara Bristol Why did I love this book?

I was so thrilled when I found this little gem. I had been desperately searching for a book like this!

Authors use body language to show emotion and to use as dialogue tags. But in typical nonfiction books on body language you have to weed through a lot of psychological explanation to find the gesture. Author Tim Ellis did the work for us. This book lists just the gestures and expressions for emotions from A to Z.

My copy is paperback; unfortunately, the author has since passed away, and only the Kindle version is available now.

By Tim Ellis,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Writer's A-Z of Body Language as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

This book is for writer's to cherry-pick body language for their characters. It does what it says on the cover - it's an A-Z list of emotions, attitudes and feelings with the associated body language.


Book cover of The Trope Thesaurus

Cara Bristol Why did I love this book?

A trope is a common plot device used in fiction, such as the billionaire hero, fated mates, secret baby, fake relationship. Even before I knew what a trope was, I was using them.

The Trope Thesaurus is more than a listing of common tropes, it also explains how to creatively and effectively use them to create conflict and to plot your fiction. The author gives examples in romance, mystery, suspense, thriller, science fiction, and fantasy. If you’re ever stuck for a plot idea, check out this book.

By Jennifer Hilt,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Trope Thesaurus as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.


Book cover of Master Lists for Writers: Thesauruses, Plots, Character Traits, Names, and More

Cara Bristol Why did I love this book?

Think of Master Lists for Writers as a collection of mini thesauri on topics of interest to writers including plot twists, settings, body language, character names, action scene words, funny plots, workplace plots, character quirks, and much more.

Many of the subjects could merit a book in and of themselves, so rather than an exhaustive list of words, Master Lists provides a high-level summary of the most common terms in each category. Often, that’s enough. I sometimes use this book for inspiration. 

By Bryn Donovan,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Master Lists for Writers as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Write faster...write more! Master Lists for Writers makes “show, don’t tell” a lot easier and helps you figure out your story more quickly. In this book, you’ll find: • lists of phrases for describing facial expressions, body language, gestures, physical appearance, and emotions • 175 master plot ideas, including romance, high-stakes, family, and workplace stories • lists of words for writing action scenes and love scenes • inspiration for figuring out character traits and quirks, backstories, occupations, motivations, and goals • lists for describing settings and writing dialogue • lists of good character names for contemporary stories...plus medieval England, Regency…


Book cover of The Synonym Finder

Cara Bristol Why did I love this book?

If you want a general thesaurus, I believe The Synonym Finder with more than 1 million synonyms is the best one on the market.

I’ve used it for more than 30 years and had to replace my original copy because it was so well-used, it fell apart. What makes this thesaurus stand out is the quality of synonyms and the ease of use. It is super easy to find the words you’re looking for. Every author should have this book!

By J.I. Rodale,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Synonym Finder as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

With a simple alphabetical arrangement this book has been expanded to include thousands of new words and expressions that have entered the language in recent years, and includes clearly labelled slang and informal words and expressions.


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Book cover of Adventures in the Radio Trade: A Memoir

Joe Mahoney Author Of Adventures in the Radio Trade: A Memoir

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Why am I passionate about this?

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What is my book about?

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Crafted with gentle humour and thoughtfulness, this is more than just a glimpse into the internal workings of CBC Radio. It's also a prose ode to the people and shows that make CBC Radio great.

By Joe Mahoney,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Adventures in the Radio Trade as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

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— Robert J. Sawyer, author of The Oppenheimer Alternative''

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