Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

By Lundy Bancroft,

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In this groundbreaking bestseller, Lundy Bancroft—a counselor who specializes in working with abusive men—uses his knowledge about how abusers think to help women recognize when they are being controlled or devalued, and to find ways to get free of an abusive relationship.

He says he loves you. So...why does he…

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3 authors picked Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

This is the best book ever written about the psychology of the male perpetrator in a trauma bond.

In this book, I was able to see into the mind of an abuser and no longer make excuses for them. I love how the author described the different types of abusers and how he explained how to leave a trauma bond.

I refer this book to every one of my patients.

From Nadine's list on trauma bonds.

One in every four women and one in seven men experience partner abuse during their lifetimes. In this gem, renowned expert Lundy Bancroft uncovers the myths surrounding this epidemic. He offers victims and their loved ones a deep understanding of the dynamics of an abusive relationship. The book contains tools to help readers dissolve the erroneous thought and behavior patterns that keep them stuck in these harmful relationships and strategies to end them safely. But most importantly, Bancroft reminds them that the abuse is not their fault–that responsibility for the abuse falls squarely on the abuser. Full of insights and…

When I was in my abusive marriage, I spent days/weeks/years wondering WHY my husband acted the way he did. Was it my fault? Lundy Bancroft answers these questions better than any other. 1. Abusers like being in control. 2. They are convinced that it is OK to treat you badly. 3. Most of all, they get what they want by their abusive behavior. 

The clarity I gained from this book was amazing.

From Caroline's list on being emotionally abused.

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