The best books to overcome codependency and childhood trauma

Ross Rosenberg Author Of The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap
By Ross Rosenberg

Who am I?

My 30+ years as a psychotherapist and mental health educator with a strong focus on codependency has enabled me to create, produce and provide compelling and life-changing books and seminars. My own experiences recovering from codependency led to the creation of my ground-breaking Human Magnet Syndrome, Self-Love Recovery Treatment, and Codependency Cure contributions. It is understood through my work that codependency is a mere symptom of not loving oneself. Codependency is not what needs to be treated, rather the root cause needs to be addressed. Therefore, I have re-defined and re-conceptualized codependency into “Self-Love Deficit Disorder™ (SLDD)," which is a trauma, core shame, pathological loneliness, and addiction disorder.


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The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap

By Ross Rosenberg,

Book cover of The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap

What is my book about?

The Human Magnet Syndrome: The Codependent Narcissist Trap completely rewrites what we know and understand about codependency and narcissism. The book explains why people are magnetically and irresistibly drawn together, not so much by what they see, feel, and think, but more by invisible unconscious relationship force. It explains relational “chemistry” and why its irresistibly alluring and seductive “love force” is impossible to avoid. Codependents and pathological narcissists simply cannot avoid HMS’s inevitable dysfunctional opposite match-up. What starts off as the codependent’s dream “soul mate” almost always transforms into their nightmare “cellmate.”

This book is available for purchase here.

The books I picked & why

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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

By Terri Cole,

Book cover of Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

Why this book?

This book, written by fellow psychotherapist Terri Cole, is a valuable resource for those struggling to set boundaries in their relationships. Whether it be a romantic partner, friend, or colleague, Terri delivers very practical information that will help the reader develop skills to stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others. This book will help the reader understand why they feel powerless to set boundaries—while helping them gain the strength and confidence to do so. As a psychotherapist specializing in codependency, although aimed towards women, this book is an effective resource for anyone who struggles with setting boundaries.


The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

By Lisa A. Romano,

Book cover of The Road Back to Me: Healing and Recovering From Co-dependency, Addiction, Enabling, and Low Self Esteem.

Why this book?

This book, written by life coach Lisa A. Romano, tells the story of a woman who has suffered childhood trauma, loneliness, and low self-esteem but eventually reaches a turning point where she heals from the faulty programming of her childhood that allows her to experience a healthy marriage. This book is a valuable resource for readers who may feel imprisoned by their unfortunate childhood. From codependency to narcissistic abuse, The Road Back to Me is an important resource for those seeking hope and inspiration to heal from their troubled past. This book features a well-written, descriptive, and inspirational story.


Healing Your Lost Inner Child Companion Workbook: Inspired Exercises to Heal Your Codependent Relationships

By Robert Jackman,

Book cover of Healing Your Lost Inner Child Companion Workbook: Inspired Exercises to Heal Your Codependent Relationships

Why this book?

This book, written by my friend and fellow psychotherapist Robert Jackman, helps readers explore unresolved wounds from their childhood. Robert describes his own past, and his journey to assist readers with developing a deeper understanding of their relationships and codependency patterns. As many people are not aware of the unresolved emotional pain that they may carry, this book is a very valuable resource as it explains why childhood trauma may be the root cause of their feelings of depression, anxiety, and other negative emotions. A truly valuable book written by Robert’s own experience healing his lost inner child.


Healing Your Wounded Relationship: How to Break Free of Codependent Patterns and Restore Your Loving Partnership

By Robert Jackman,

Book cover of Healing Your Wounded Relationship: How to Break Free of Codependent Patterns and Restore Your Loving Partnership

Why this book?

This is Robert Jackman’s second book, which explains why unresolved inner child wounding contributes to codependency patterns in relationships. This book helps the reader develop a deeper understanding of codependency, which, as a result, helps them identify the unresolved trauma that contributes to it. This book is a useful resource to help the reader answer questions as to why they feel their relationship has gone off-track, and why they may struggle with communication. This book is recommended to those who are currently in a relationship or want to avoid falling into the same pattern in their next relationship.


Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

By Melody Beattie,

Book cover of Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself

Why this book?

This book, by Melody Beattie, although written in 1992, still contains valuable information that applies to modern-day society and relationships. This book helps readers develop a deeper understanding of codependency and allows them to stop controlling others and start caring for themselves. From maintaining healthy boundaries to standing up for oneself and saying no to unhealthy relationships, this book is an important resource for those seeking a lifetime of hope and happiness while putting an end to the toxic pattern of unhealthy relationships. A highly recommended book by many mental-health experts worldwide.


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