My favorite books about the impact of abuse in childhood from a survivor and professional perspective

Why am I passionate about this?

I'm a survivor of repeated physical, psychological, and sexual abuse in childhood and have significant lived experience of the long-lasting and devastating impact of abuse. I was a social worker for 27 years and am a co-founder of The National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC). In my 27 years in social work and 20 years involvement in NAPAC I heard of many accounts from adult survivors of various types of abuse. One of the recommendations of the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Abuse (IICSA) is to introduce Mandatory Reporting. I believe this is a must to help prevent and or reduce the risk of abuse for our children at the earliest possible stage.


I wrote...

Because It Didn't Stop When It Ended

By Patricia M. Wennell,

Book cover of Because It Didn't Stop When It Ended

What is my book about?

This is the true story of Patricia, who suffered horrific abuse in her childhood at the hands of her mother and a so-called ‘family friend’. In her late 40’s she finds support from Hilary, a therapist who works with her, building trust by walking every step of the way, enabling her to find the little girl hidden deep within. Using prose, poetry, and art lifted from the pages of her journal, Patricia shares how through her relationship with Hilary, bit by painful bit’ she finds Little Me, connects with her and learns to live rather than merely exist.

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The books I picked & why

Book cover of The Truth: The Whole Truth, and Nothing but the Truth, so Help Me...

Tricia Wennell Why did I love this book?

In this well-written memoir, Peter talks about his life where abuse was commonplace and why he set up a National Charity (NAPAC) to address a significant gap in support for adults abused in childhood.

Through his efforts he earned an important media platform, was an international voice for survivors, and had a one-to-one meeting with the Pope. Everything changed when he was falsely accused and then silenced by powerful media which adds a dimension that could have destroyed a less resilient person. I know because he is my partner and we have shared our lives working for the survivor cause for 27 years.

He talks of me as a source of strength praising me as his wife several times and gives my book a glowing mention! Good enough reason for me to love and recommend his book but not why I do. It is because he finally found the courage to share his story and I believe it will help others. I found it moving and interesting even though I’ve heard it all before.

By Peter E. Saunders,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Truth as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Peter Saunders was raised in a devout Catholic family in London, an upbringing fraught with oppression and abuse. Unable to find support in adulthood, Peter set up a major national charity for adults abused in childhood. He battled with the Church for many years over its persistent denials and cover-ups regarding abuse throughout its ranks across the globe.

Peter made no secret of his views and was astonished to receive an invite to meet Pope Francis at the Vatican in July 2014. The meeting was amicable, and Peter was asked to join the Pope's child protection commission, but it led…


Book cover of The Girl in the Pink Shoes

Tricia Wennell Why did I love this book?

This book tells the heartbreaking story of the life Jessica faced at a time when the adults around her should have kept her safe.

Her life experiences of abuse are horrendous. The physical and sexual abuse she suffered in her childhood and teenage years and the many missed opportunities for professionals and other adults to protect her is appalling. I can identify personally with some of what she shares and am wounded to my core by what happened to her, and by the light sentence given to the perpetrator who at the time of abusing Jessica was on the sex offenders register!

Jessica’s story brings the spotlight on how our society continues to let children down. I met Jessica recently at a Literary Event and she is an incredibly courageous young woman who is using her experience to support other survivors bringing a fresh voice to the cause. 

By Jessie Harrington,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Girl in the Pink Shoes as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Jessica Harrington grew up not really knowing her biological father. He was something of an enigma, living in a country thousands of miles away. She was very much part of a single-parent family, relying on her mother for everything. That is, until her mother’s boyfriend stepped into her life.

The Girl in the Pink Shoes is a harrowing and graphic account of a young girl’s physical and sexual abuse at the hands of her stepfather, already a convicted paedophile. Jessica Harrington thought she would be protected. After all, wasn’t that what mums were supposed to do?

Jessica’s mother betrayed her…


Book cover of Dehumanisation: A True Story of Organised Child Abuse

Tricia Wennell Why did I love this book?

Prepare yourself for reading this book, it's soul-destroying and gut-wrenching. I felt nauseous as I read accounts of the repeated abuse and torture of Jen and other children, their vulnerability compounded by individual and institutional racism. I personally know of unthinkable cruelty in childhood, but Jen’s story is on another level. 

Holding little back she takes her readers in to the cesspit of an environment with human cruelty only usually read about in history books and yes, these despicable actions are inflicted by humans. I chose Dehumanisation because Jen’s story is one that people need to read, be shocked into understanding the risks to our children and the long-lasting and devastating impact abuse has.

Don’t be fooled into thinking ‘things are different now’. The different systems in society and legislation for safeguarding and discrimination implemented over the years haven’t stopped it from happening.

By Jen Grace, Samuel Grace,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Dehumanisation as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Unwanted and homeless from day one: Social services found Jennie a new home. Tragically she was enslaved into a brutal regime of horrific abuse, extreme neglect, loss and degrading humiliation with foster parents.

It continued behind closed doors in a seemingly well-respected household for twenty-three years. The foster family trafficked her to other sickening perpetrators of organised abuse rings. The death of both foster parents did not stop the hideous abuse, which continued for decades as they hunted down Jennie and her son despite moving thirty-six times.

Jennie developed DID Dissociative Identity Disorder to survive after suffering such severe trauma.…


Book cover of Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--From Domestic Abuse to Political Terror

Tricia Wennell Why did I love this book?

In my view this book is an excellent example of how to understand the trauma caused by abuse at any age and in any circumstance and how it can devastate a person, can destroy them.

A particularly long-lasting and devastating impact is clear to see when it happens in childhood and in the family where most abuse occurs. I am aware of the significance of the model described by Judith with its stages of recovery. It is the basis of how The Woman’s Service I talk about in my book was developed by Maggie Schaedel.

It is the model Hilary worked to and because of that I was enabled to find an emotional connection with Hilary and begin to live rather than merely exist. I love this book because it provides academic research to back up its claims, and I am living proof the model works. How cool is that.

By Judith Lewis Herman,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked Trauma and Recovery as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

When Trauma and Recovery was first published in 1992, it was hailed as a ground-breaking work. In the intervening years, Herman's volume has changed the way we think about and treat traumatic events and trauma victims. In a new afterword, Herman chronicles the incredible response the book has elicited and explains how the issues surrounding the topic have shifted within the clinical community and the culture at large. Trauma and Recovery brings a new level of understanding to a set of problems usually considered individually. Herman draws on her own cutting-edge research in domestic violence as well as on the…


Book cover of The Orpheus Project

Tricia Wennell Why did I love this book?

I know Valerie through my voluntary work with survivors and am aware of her work at the Clinic for Dissociative Studies.

She has years of experience as a psychoanalyst and psychotherapist working with trauma, disability, dissociation, and torture so Valerie knows what she is talking about. In this book she uses her knowledge and expertise to cleverly weave a background of fact that people would find too hard to believe into a brilliant work of fiction.

Her book left me wondering, ‘Does that sort of thing really happen’? It does. Children continue to be at risk and adult survivors continue to live with the trauma of the abuse they experienced.

By Valerie Sinason,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Orpheus Project as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

It's Christmas Eve, and a young woman with Down's syndrome has just disclosed abuse by two men. The problem is she is a member of the British aristocracy and the men she accuses are a top politician and a rock star. How does a national health team struggle with the situation of alleged abuse by the elite and super rich? Despite a traitor in their midst, the team uncovers the appalling reality of the abusive international cult known as The Orpheus Project with its mysterious American spokesperson and powerful connections. This is the world of conspiracy theories; the Orpheus Project…


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