Loving What Is

This is not the typical book I would consider reading. Touchy-feely self-help is not really my thing. However, this book affected me more than anything I've read in ages.

The format of the book alternates between topical exposition about a concept (like 'are your thoughts about something really true?') and Katie's discussion with various people who are seeking help for their problems. Katie uses a Socratic style of questioning to get to the heart of the problem for a dozen or so people, and the conversations and realizations are transformative. When I got to the women who had been sexually… show more.

This book, and a couple of seminars with Byron Katie, really did change my life! I was stuck in negative thinking and couldn’t seem to get out of it. She offers a straightforward method to challenge your thoughts and turn them around to other possibilities. It‘s almost magical how your hurtful beliefs can be changed into accepting “the way it is” without the hurt.

Get this book and get some relief from whatever is bothering you. Truly.

Like The Power of Now, this is a self-help book, and a brilliant justification of the idea that when we argue with reality, we always lose. Or, as Katie herself puts it, ‘We lose, but only 100% of the time.’ This book makes a superb and convincing argument for giving up thoughts like ‘This shouldn’t have happened/Things should be different’ (when they aren’t), and instead thinking more like: ‘I accept that this thing that I’m not happy about has happened — so now what? How might it have happened for my greatest benefit? How can I move on in a… show more.