Attached

By Amir Levine, Rachel Heller,

Book cover of Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—And Keep—Love

Book description

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.”
—The New York Times

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In…

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Why read it?

7 authors picked Attached as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

This is an excellent book about relationships and attachment theory, which describes our attachment styles in relationships. I loved reading this book because it taught me about my own attachment style and how I am in relationships.

This is a must-read for anyone who wants to learn about themselves in relationships. I enjoyed the concepts in the book and how relatable it was. I recommend this to every human being who would like a relationship. It is a great way to learn about yourself.

So many of us experience anxiety and it often comes out the most in our relationships.

By understanding our attachment style, we can start to show up differently in our relationships while having a better understanding of why others may act the way that they do. This book elucidates so much of human behavior, particularly regarding anxious and avoidant attachment and it gives us a roadmap for how to make different choices for the future so that we move towards more of that secure attachment.

From Lauren's list on how to cope and live with anxiety.

Have you ever wondered why certain people act certain ways in relationships?

Apparently, our attachment styles can be the reason why relationships are harder for some people more than others! Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller do a great job of explaining the psychology and theory behind our relationship instincts in this book.

From Treva's list on dating and relationship advice.

Do you find yourself perennially trapped in relationships that can’t give you what you want? The answer may lie in your attachment style. Attached is an incredibly useful book, which provides a model for relationships that may well help you to understand why you’re always choosing the wrong person. The book uses self-reporting quizzes to help you to figure out your attachment style, and whilst that might sound like a bad horoscope. Attached is genuinely insightful, and will deliver a eureka moment or two. 

I recommend Attached to my clients all the time as it’s a great book for anyone looking to gain a better understanding of attachment theory and how it affects relationships. The book is based on the research of Dr. Levine, a psychiatrist and neuroscientist, who has studied attachment theory for over 20 years.

Attached provides an easy-to-follow crash course on the three most common attachment styles, helping readers identify their own tendencies and learn how to become a more secure partner. It also offers practical advice on how to spot other people’s attachment styles while dating, so that readers can…

From Jiveny's list on learning about relationships.

What good is building a business without fulfilling relationships? This book will help you with building and fostering fulfilling relationships. This is one book I wish I had read much earlier in life because had I done so, I would have acquired a better mental model when it comes to establishing and maintaining relationships - romantic, professional, and everything in between.

From Raymond's list on becoming a well-rounded entrepreneur.

Your attachment stylehow you “do” relationshipsis most often a lifetime deal, because it gets in so early and deep, most powerfully in the first 18 months of life. It drives and influences how we interact with others and how we see ourselves in relationships, and it deeply influences the kinds of partners we attract and are attracted to (even when they end up being precisely what we don’t need).

Understanding your attachment style (and perhaps that of your significant other), including the strengths and the pitfalls, can make a world of difference.

Levine and Heller do…

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