The best books with positive asexual representation

Who am I?

I'm Kieran Frank, author of sexless romances. I write books with asexual characters because they're underrepresented. I write them with positive representation to avoid harmful stereotypes, and I highlight the nuances of a-spec people without sounding too preachy. I don't claim to be an expert in asexuality, but I'm passionate about writing asexual themes because it's what I want to see more of in fiction. Men are often expected to enjoy sex, especially at a younger age. I can personally relate to the harmful pressure, which is another reason I write asexual books. It can help combat toxic views that societies have instilled in many people.

I wrote...

Squishy Crushy Something

By Kieran Frank,

Book cover of Squishy Crushy Something

What is my book about?

Jayden never expected to develop a squish on a boy, never mind a crush. It started with Kail: looks, popularity, and awesomeness. But three years later, Jayden’s squish on Kail has grown into a crush, leading Jayden to make risky decisions. But Jayden used to be friends with nerdy Ollie before Ollie got too religious, driving Jayden away. Now, Ollie is back, and he seems much more open-minded—and much more attractive. Jayden can’t help but develop a squish. But could it turn into a crush?

Jayden is caught between two squishy crushes—the boy he knows is toxic, and the potential crush that could make or break a friendship. The right choice could bring him happiness, but the wrong choice could cost him everything.

The books I picked & why

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Let's Talk About Love

By Claire Kann,

Book cover of Let's Talk About Love

Why this book?

Asexual BIPOC are severely underrepresented, let alone asexual people in general. I always enjoy reading about characters who are asexual, and because I'm a BIPOC myself, this book is especially refreshing. It taught me that no matter how others feel about my sexuality, there is nothing wrong with me, and finding love doesn't have to be as impossible as our hopeless minds occasionally tell us. The book also made me feel at home, even if my life is different from others' lives. It helps my own book by offering more queer representation in a predominantly heteronormative society, especially asexuality.

His Quiet Agent

By Ada Maria Soto,

Book cover of His Quiet Agent

Why this book?

Asexual characters need a lot more visibility, especially with positive representation. This book in particular captures how people see certain people as not "normal" because of different sexuality. Gay romance books are often expected to have sex in them, but this one staying true to asexual themes shows that a sexless romance can be just as valid. It's a slow-burn connection that develops into a deep, unforgettable relationship between men who come to understand each other by looking past their differences and taking the time to learn about the other.

How to Be a Normal Person

By TJ Klune,

Book cover of How to Be a Normal Person

Why this book?

There are times when books with asexual characters need some humor and lightheartedness for a wholesome mix. Not all ace books need to be sad or angsty. Not all ace books even need to be about sexuality itself. Asexual characters simply need to exist in more books with positive representation, and said books can help teach people that sexless romances are just as valid and meaningful.

Upside Down

By N.R. Walker,

Book cover of Upside Down

Why this book?

Many asexual romances tend to be written in a harmful way because they are often written by allosexual authors who do not do enough research to understand asexuality. Not this book, though. And while some asexual people can and do enjoy sex, I prefer a sexless, sweet romance that focuses on the emotional development and deep human connection, that this one offers. I understand not every reader is a fan of the MC because of his personality, but I tend to be pretty open to different kinds of personalities (within reason).


By Kathryn Burns,

Book cover of Aces

Why this book?

When a book has positive asexual representation, it is like a rare gem. That is how many poorly written ace books there are, and I am not referring to writing styles when I say "poorly written." Even better is when the book offers plenty of diversity, like this one does. We live in a world full of different kinds of people, so it's refreshing to experience that in books. And the romance here is very sweet and honest, which helps show that sexless love can be just as valid as the sexual kind.

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