Why did I love this book?
I have found this book to be essential reading for my own life as well as in providing culturally-competent and effective counseling for clients in my private practice.
Rowman and Littlefield has been a pioneer in publishing books with accurate and up-to-date information about consensual non-monogamy, LGBTQ issues, and kink and BDSM relationships. This is especially important as they make these books available to universities and other institutions that are training therapists and psychologists so that these clinicians will be qualified to work with these specialized populations that are so often misunderstood and cannot find appropriate mental health services. In addition, these books are written so that the layperson can understand and benefit from them. As a result, individuals who are seeking guidance and information about alternative sexualities and non-traditional relationships can easily utilize these books in their own lives.
Dr. Deborah Anapol wrote what is recognized as the first book explicitly about nonmonogamous relationships, Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits. She had to self-publish in 1997 because no publishing company wanted to touch a book on what was, at the time, such a transgressive subject Anapol’s book was a beacon of light for me and for many people who were struggling to create and sustain polyamorous relationships, at a time when very little information was available, and most people felt very alone with no support or guidance for their relationships. This book was the first to create a road map to help people have happy and healthy nonmonogamous relationships. And for those of us who had already been involved in successful polyamorous relationships for decades, Anapol’s book provided validation and confirmation that we were utilizing best practices as well as conducting our relationships in an ethical manner.