All My Puny Sorrows

By Miriam Toews,

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From the bestselling author of Women Talking, a "wrenchingly honest, darkly funny novel" (Entertainment Weekly).


Elf and Yoli are sisters. While on the surface Elfrieda's life is enviable (she's a world-renowned pianist, glamorous, wealthy, and happily married) and Yolandi's a mess (she's divorced and broke, with two teenagers growing up…

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3 authors picked All My Puny Sorrows as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

I was blown away by this book when I first read it, and it may be one of the best books I’ve ever read.

I laughed out loud at the wisecracking wit while tears actually dropped into my lap at the aching sadness as I read of the struggles of Yolande to stop her famous pianist sister Elfride from committing suicide and as she mines their strict Memonite past (including their father’s own suicide) for reasons for Elfride’s depression.

I kept gulping out hilarious bits to my partner while wiping my eyes and blowing my nose. I found it hard…

The central conflict at the heart of this book is that one sister, Elf, wants to die, and the other, Yoli, wants her to live. This makes them, as Yoli puts it, “enemies who loved each other.”

A book about suicidal depression doesn’t seem like it would be funny, but this one is. Heartbreaking, hilarious, and perfect in every way. An annual re-read for me.

One of the most complicated and hilarious novels about the difficulties of having a sibling, Miriam Toews's story of two sisters who grew up in a Mennonite community in Canada and are now struggling with adult life feels incredibly urgent and intimate, like a conversation between the reader and the narrator. Elf and Yoli are sisters and both are struggling with Yoli’s compulsion to end her own life. With wickedly-funny insights, Elf struggles to keep her family from falling apart in this grippingly-honest retelling of events from Toews’ own life. This book gave me the permission to draw from some…

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A Theory of Expanded Love

By Caitlin Hicks,

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Why am I passionate about this?

My life and work have been profoundly affected by the central circumstance of my existence: I was born into a very large military Catholic family in the United States of America. As a child surrounded by many others in the 60s, I wrote, performed, and directed family plays with my numerous brothers and sisters. Although I fell in love with a Canadian and moved to Canada, my family of origin still exerts considerable personal influence. My central struggle, coming from that place of chaos, order, and conformity, is to have the courage to live an authentic life based on my own experience of connectedness and individuality, to speak and be heard. 

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Trapped in her enormous, devout Catholic family in 1963, Annie creates a hilarious campaign of lies when the pope dies and their family friend, Cardinal Stefanucci, is unexpectedly on the shortlist to be elected the first American pope.

Driven to elevate her family to the holiest of holy rollers in the parish, Annie is tortured by her own dishonesty. But when “The Hands” visits her in her bed and when her sister finds herself facing a scandal, Annie discovers her parents will do almost anything to uphold their reputation and keep their secrets safe. 

Questioning all she has believed and torn between her own gut instinct and years of Catholic guilt, Annie takes courageous risks to wrest salvation from the tragic sequence of events set in motion by her parents’ betrayal.

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