And Baby Makes Three

By John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman,

Book cover of And Baby Makes Three: The Six-Step Plan for Preserving Marital Intimacy and Rekindling Romance After Baby Arrives

Book description

Congratulations! You have a new baby.
Don’t forget you also have a marriage.

Having a baby is a joyous experience, but even the best relationships are strained during the transition from duo to trio. In And Baby Makes Three, Love Lab™ experts John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman teach couples…

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3 authors picked And Baby Makes Three as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

Relationship experts who studied couples for years in the Love Lab in Seattle, the Gottmans understand that bringing a baby into the orbit of a couple nearly inevitably strains even the best relationship. They discovered that 2/3rds of couples experienced a significant decline in relationship satisfaction after having a baby. Their six-step plan helps expectant couples prepare for this huge transition by showing them ways to create an environment that nurtures intimacy, appreciation, and self- and couple-care. 

From Stephanie's list on to feel more prepared for parenthood.

Learning from the Gottmans that 67% of couples report a decline in relationship satisfaction in the first three years of parenthood sparked a new generation of counselors and therapists who wanted to make a difference for expecting and new parent couples, including me! This seminal book focuses mainly on communication skills and conflict management with examples from distressed couples, and is less inclusive of LGBTQ parents and partners, but remains relevant and helpful for those in more traditional relationships.

Best for: couples to manage conflict and relationship therapists working in the perinatal field.

The addition of a child to the family can test even the most ardent of love relationships. In turn, children synchronize to the stress level of their parents, which is why nurturing couple relationships in shared parenting families is so important. In this book Dr. John Gottman, psychologist and couple’s counselor, offers research-based, practical tools, to strengthen and restore couple relationships. Taking care of your child begins with taking care of YOU.

From Mary's list on for new parents looking to prepare.

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