The most recommended books about middle-aged women

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19 authors created a book list connected to middle-aged women, and here are their favorite middle-aged women books.
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Book cover of Excuse Me While I Disappear: Tales of Midlife Mayhem

Ann Aikens Author Of A Young Woman's Guide to Life: A Cautionary Tale

From my list on funniest memoirs with advice for a happy life.

Why am I passionate about this?

Raised when unsupervised kids roamed freely in the woods, my friends and I became adept at finding fun. My 20s were spent in New York in the 1980's zeitgeist of exploration and excess. A lifelong fan of comedy, I worked at the Comedy Cellar, where I booked and watched countless standup comics. Later, I left NYC’s glamor for Vermont’s nature. Since then, my Vermont newspaper column, "Upper Valley Girl," has amused and astonished (and possibly appalled) readers with humor and candor. Ever adventurous to the point of risk, making awful mistakes, and enduring impossible people, I learned limits the hard way. I advise young people not to do the same. 

Ann's book list on funniest memoirs with advice for a happy life

Ann Aikens Why did Ann love this book?

Notaro is a comedic goddess. I still don’t know what a “tweaker” is (since reading Idiot Girl and the Flaming Tantrum of Death years ago), but she cracks me up hard, early, and often. I wish she was my neighbor. She somehow makes her other characters sound as funny as she, which they may or may not be in real life.

The chapter on becoming magically invisible once you let your hair go grey is worth the price of admission. This book is largely about aging. She mines the comedy. I hope to meet her one day.

By Laurie Notaro,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Excuse Me While I Disappear as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A laugh-out-loud spin on the realities, perks, opportunities, and inevitable courses of midlife.

Laurie Notaro has proved everyone wrong: she didn't end up in rehab, prison, or cremated at a tender age. She just went gray. At past fifty, every hair's root is a symbol of knowledge (she knows how to use a landline), experience (she rode in a car with no seat belts), and superpowers (a gray-haired lady can get away with anything).

Though navigating midlife is initially upsetting-the cracking noises coming from her new old body, receiving regular junk mail from mortuaries-Laurie accepts it. And then some. With…


Book cover of Halfway There

Kate Moseman Author Of Silver Spells

From my list on finding magic at midlife.

Why am I passionate about this?

I’ve always loved fantasy books with female main characters, but as I’ve grown older, it’s been difficult to find contemporary women’s fantasy with main characters over the age of thirty-five. So when I discovered paranormal women’s fiction, a new genre label for stories of midlife women with magic, I was instantly hooked. I read everything I could get my hands on. After that, I was so inspired that I decided to write a contemporary fantasy series of my own, one in which every protagonist was a woman over the age of forty.

Kate's book list on finding magic at midlife

Kate Moseman Why did Kate love this book?

I love this book because it realistically portrays a middle-aged woman coming out of a bad marriage and adjusting to a new life. One with magical powers, of course! 

The main character in Halfway There feels so genuine that you can't help rooting for her to succeed in her quest to solve the mysteries surrounding her newfound powers.

By Eve Langlais,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Halfway There as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A Paranormal Women's Fiction novel for anyone who thought adventure and magic stopped at forty. Guess again, it’s just the beginning.I never expected I’d be one of those people who had a midlife crisis. Sure, I’m over forty, and married, but my kids are grown and moved out. Life is steady, if predictably boring.That all changes when my husband asks for a divorce and my whole world crashes. Everything I thought I knew, everything I am, gone in an instant.But I am not about to give up. After all, at my age, technically, I’m only halfway there.I am ready to…


Book cover of Hold Me Down

Caroline Leavitt Author Of With or Without You

From my list on hidden gems that won’t stay hidden for long.

Why am I passionate about this?

I’m a voracious reader, an author, and also a book critic, so hundreds of books cross my desk. What I love the most is the feeling of discovery—reading a book whose likes I haven’t seen on any bestseller list or on a front display in a bookstore. There are so many, many hidden gems—books that have stayed with me long after the publication day, and I always want others to have the same devotion to them that I do!

Caroline's book list on hidden gems that won’t stay hidden for long

Caroline Leavitt Why did Caroline love this book?

A dark, suspenseful, page-turner from acclaimed novelist Clea Simon.

Middle-aged rocker Gal must grapple with memories of the past as she investigates a murder—and as she does so, she has to reexamine her own darker-than-dark past and the mistakes she made. Love. Music. Murder. What more could any lucky reader want? Simon is known for her cozy mysteries about cats—but make no mistake, this isn’t cozy! Instead, you’ll be gripping the pages so hard, they might tear!

By Clea Simon,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Hold Me Down as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A riveting work of dark suspense from acclaimed author Clea Simon

Gal, a middle-aged musician, is back in Boston to play a memorial for her late drummer/best friend, when she finds herself freezing on stage at the sight of a face in the crowd. The next day, she learns that the man she saw has been killed - beaten to death behind the venue - and her friend's widower is being charged in connection with his death. When the friend refuses to defend himself, Gal wonders why and, as the memories of begin to flood back, she starts her own…


Book cover of Someone Else's Shoes

Liz Foster Author Of The Good Woman's Guide to Making Better Choices

From my list on make you laugh and leave you smiling.

Why am I passionate about this?

I have always loved reading and its ability to take you far away to a distant time and place and lift you up. As a kid, I never left the house without a book, and the ones that made me laugh were my go-to's. I believe the ability to make people laugh is a truly special talent, especially while making the text relatable, so the reader’s always asking, wow, what would I do in that situation? My readers often tell me that my writing sounds just like me, which is wonderful because there’s no need to pretend. You will always know what you’ll get with me!

Liz's book list on make you laugh and leave you smiling

Liz Foster Why did Liz love this book?

I found this book wonderfully relatable, imagining myself as either of the two main protagonists who accidentally swapped shoes at the gym and whose lives are changed accordingly. The mix-ups and mess-ups that ensued had me clutching my sides.

I was so invested in both the characters and how their lives would turn out I nearly cried when I finished it. I found this book very clever and believable as well; a tiny bit far-fetched but still realistic.

By Jojo Moyes,

Why should I read it?

3 authors picked Someone Else's Shoes as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

A story of mix-ups, mess-ups and making the most of second chances, this is the new novel from international sensation Jojo Moyes, author of Me Before You and The Giver of Stars

'A delightful reverse-Cinderella story of two women who seem polar opposites - until circumstance forces them to experience each other's lives. Nobody writes women the way Jojo Moyes does - recognizably real and complex and funny and flawed' JODI PICOULT

Who are you when you are forced to walk in someone else's shoes?

Meet Sam . . .
She's not got much, but she's grateful for what she…


Book cover of Flirting With Fire

Angela Lam Author Of Last Chance

From Angela's 3 favorite reads in 2023.

Why am I passionate about this?

Author Author Artist Community Reader Runner

Angela's 3 favorite reads in 2023

Angela Lam Why did Angela love this book?

This small-town romance centers around a middle-aged actress, Margot Hughes, and a big-shot actor, Max Russo, who come together to save Cambria’s historic theater through a summer season of Barefoot in the Park.

The story is set in another California coastal community, much like my book, and features seasoned characters questioning their life choices and the opportunities presented to them. A warm hug of a book, this romance is perfect for theater lovers who believe everyone deserves a shot at love no matter the age or stage of life.

By Jane Porter,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Flirting With Fire as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Love isn’t just an act in this captivating and flirty romance by New York Times bestselling author Jane Porter.

Forty-nine-year-old Margot Hughes has lived and breathed theater for the past twenty-five years. After a devastating breakup with her playwright fiancé, she wants nothing to do with the industry. She has sworn off New York, theater, actors—all of it. She returns to her hometown on California’s central coast and takes a job in real estate, where she manages significant investment properties. But Margot’s suddenly thrown back into the theater world when Sally, her friend and boss, who had been restoring and…


Book cover of Role Playing

Katta Kis Author Of Love in the Liner Notes

From Katta's 3 favorite reads in 2023.

Why am I passionate about this?

Author Reader Cat lover Music fan Witch Research nerd

Katta's 3 favorite reads in 2023

Katta Kis Why did Katta love this book?

I’m a sucker for an apologetically prickly heroine with a sweetheart love interest.

Maggie and Aiden are complex relatable characters who balance each other perfectly. I loved how they were attracted to each other’s minds through the online video game they play together and each other’s physical presence in their in-person interactions (even though they didn’t know they were interacting with the same person!) 

I also enjoyed how both characters helped each other blossom during the course of the book, backing each other up as they figured out elder care, isolation, questions of sexuality and more. Seeing characters who were in their 40s and 50s tackle these issues and find love was wonderful and refreshing.

By Cathy Yardley,

Why should I read it?

2 authors picked Role Playing as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

From Cathy Yardley, author of Love, Comment, Subscribe, comes an emotional rom-com about two middle-aged gamers who grow their online connection into an IRL love story.

Maggie is an unapologetically grumpy forty-eight-year-old hermit. But when her college-aged son makes her a deal―he’ll be more social if she does the same―she can’t refuse. She joins a new online gaming guild led by a friendly healer named Otter. So that nobody gets the wrong idea, she calls herself Bogwitch.

Otter is Aiden, a fifty-year-old optimist using the guild as an emotional outlet from his family drama caring for his aging mother while…


Book cover of Mrs. Fletcher

Jane Roper Author Of The Society of Shame

From my list on middle-aged women that will make you snort laugh.

Why am I passionate about this?

I’m the author of two novels, a memoir, and numerous essays and humor pieces. As a reader, I’ve always been drawn to strong, flawed, funny female characters and voices. The pull is even stronger now that I’m at midlife, a phase that’s equal parts misery, hilarity, and night sweats. I read a wide range of books, from literary fiction and classics to psychological thrillers to graphic novels that I steal from my teenagers when they’re not looking. But I have a special place in my heart for books that explore the many facets of what it means to be a woman “of a certain age” today, while making me laugh—and sometimes cringe—with recognition. 

Jane's book list on middle-aged women that will make you snort laugh

Jane Roper Why did Jane love this book?

As a parent on the verge of becoming an empty nester (noooooo!!), I was immediately drawn to Mrs. Fletcher. The titular character is a 46-year-old divorcee who has a sexual awakening—and develops an appetite for online porn—after her son leaves for college. Her son, meanwhile, gets his own education in sex, gender, and consent on campus. It’s an entertaining and surprisingly sweet exploration of sexuality, relationships, and the ways people navigate turning points in life. 

By Tom Perrotta,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Mrs. Fletcher as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

New York Times bestseller!
Now a major Sky/HBO TV series

From the bestselling author of The Leftovers and Little Children comes a penetrating and hilarious new novel about sex, love, and identity on the frontlines of America's culture wars.

Eve Fletcher is trying to figure out what comes next. A forty-six-year-old divorcee whose beloved only child has just left for college, Eve is struggling to adjust to her empty nest when one night her phone lights up with a text message. Sent from an anonymous number, the mysterious sender tells Eve, "U R my MILF!" Over the months that follow,…


Book cover of Getting Rid of Matthew

Sarah Edghill Author Of His Other Woman

From my list on domestic dramas making you glad life is normal.

Why am I passionate about this?

I love writing about families and what makes them tick: the minor dramas being played out behind every front door, make for intriguing reading. As a journalist, I have interviewed so many people with fascinating stories to tell, and with my fiction I throw my characters into a tricky situation and see what unfolds. Inevitably, if you pull one playing card from the bottom, the whole house of cards comes tumbling down. When faced with unexpected challenges, my characters often behave badly, make poor decisions and get themselves into the kind of mess that makes you want to read one more chapter before turning out the light at night. 

Sarah's book list on domestic dramas making you glad life is normal

Sarah Edghill Why did Sarah love this book?

Jane Fallon does seriously good messed-up families. I’ve read most of her books, but particularly enjoyed this one – the characters aren’t all likeable by any means, but the set-up is great and you’re desperate to find out how things will be resolved. Helen has been having an affair with a married man, Matthew, for four years when he suddenly turns up on her doorstep, announcing he has left his wife and twin daughters; the timing is unfortunate because Helen has just decided she wants to dump him. Rather than doing the sensible thing and knocking the relationship on the head, Helen goes rogue and ends up befriending Matthew’s wife and getting off with his grown-up son (she’s his age, and initially doesn’t know they’re related). Not surprisingly, chaos ensues.

By Jane Fallon,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Getting Rid of Matthew as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

Breaking up is hard to do. Especially when he's left his wife for you . . .

What to do if Matthew, your secret lover of the past four years, finally decides to leave his wife Sophie and their two daughters and move into your flat, just when you're thinking that you might not want him anymore . . .

PLAN A: Stop shaving your armpits. And your bikini line. Tell him you have a moustache that you wax every six weeks. Stop having sex with him. Pick holes in the way he dresses. Don't brush your teeth. Or your…


Book cover of The Slaves of Solitude

Gerard Woodward Author Of Nourishment

From my list on human stories behind World War Two.

Why am I passionate about this?

My novel Nourishment is loosely based on stories I was told about the war by my parents who lived through it. My mother was a firewoman during the Blitz and my father was in Normandy after the D-Day landings. They married during the war. I wish now I’d written down the stories my parents used to tell me. There was always humour in their stories. My parents could both see the absurdity and the dark comedy that can sometimes be present in wartime situations, especially on the home front, and I hope some of that comes through in Nourishment.

Gerard's book list on human stories behind World War Two

Gerard Woodward Why did Gerard love this book?

Patrick Hamilton has a wonderfully simple and direct style, and is always utterly compelling, no matter if he’s writing about ordinary people going about their daily lives. This wartime novel seems to happen a long way from the war itself, though it is set in Maidenhead, which was far enough away from the capital to be thought safe for evacuees. We spend our time with a wonderfully cliquey and gossipy set of boarding house tenants who constantly compete with each other and have their own little wars and conflicts. Like many of Hamilton’s novels it has a theatrical quality, reading it is almost like watching actors performing on a stage. Indeed, one of the characters is an actor, and theatre provides a note of redemption in this beautifully bleak novel. 

By Patrick Hamilton,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked The Slaves of Solitude as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

As World War II drags on, the lonely Miss Roach flees London for the dull but ostensible safety of a suburban boarding house in this comically rendered “masterpiece” from the author of Gaslight (The Times Literary Supplement)

England in the middle of World War II, a war that seems fated to go on forever, a war that has become a way of life. Heroic resistance is old hat. Everything is in short supply, and tempers are even shorter. Overwhelmed by the terrors and rigors of the Blitz, middle-aged Miss Roach has retreated to the relative safety and stupefying boredom of…


Book cover of Magical Midlife Challenge

Cassi Clark Author Of Breastfeeding Is a Bitch: But We Lovingly Do it Anyway

From Cassi's 3 favorite reads in 2023.

Why am I passionate about this?

Author Thinker/Putter togetherer Gardener Climber Defunder of diet culture Stubborn optimist

Cassi's 3 favorite reads in 2023

Plus, Cassi's 11-year-old's favorite books.

Cassi Clark Why did Cassi love this book?

I have never been much of a fantasy reader. I just couldn’t relate to the characters, or perhaps it was because the classics were thrust on me with more vigor, and I just didn’t know what fantasy has to offer. But when my other best friend recommended the Leveling Up Series, I couldn’t resist—a middle-aged woman leaves her stifling life and gets magical powers! Isn’t that what we were all promised with menopause?

The books are hilarious, with unforgettable characters that I think are all a little bit of me. I definitely have an old woman who throws rocks at tourists in me, and I think a bit of a control freak butler. This whole series makes me feel seen and helps me to rest and de-stress. I tend to read dense books where I learn a lot, so a light, funny, sexy series was brain candy I didn’t know…

By K.F. Breene,

Why should I read it?

1 author picked Magical Midlife Challenge as one of their favorite books, and they share why you should read it.

What is this book about?

The signs are unmistakable, Momar isn't just targeting Austin's brother.

When one of Momar's grunts breaks into Austin's territory looking to grab Jessie for questioning, Jessie and her crew realize they are under fire. In order to protect themselves, it becomes obvious they need backup.

Thankfully, the basajaun's people have invited Jessie and her crew into the basajaunak lands. This is their golden opportunity to seek their help.

The problem is, a host of mages and mercenaries are following them. Once they take Jessie this time it won't be just for questioning, and she won't be coming back.

To omit…