She Comes First

By Ian Kerner ,

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“Every man’s must-read. Tell your guy to put down the remote and pick up She Comes First.”
—Cosmopolitan

 

Ian Kerner offers a radical new philosophy for pleasuring women in She Comes First—anessential guidebook to oral sex from the author of Be Honest—You’re Not That Into Him Either. The New York…

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3 authors picked She Comes First as one of their favorite books. Why do they recommend it?

This book is written for men about how to pleasure women (with oral sex).

The author, a well-known sex therapist, reveals at the start of the book how he discovered the art of cunnilingus. He suffered from premature ejaculation and thought he could thus never please a woman—until he discovered (in his own words) that “the tongue is mightier than the sword!” 

Ian writes from a knowledgeable, compassionate voice, giving readers information and skills to please their female partners. I’ve recommended this book to countless individuals. The term “cliterate” first appeared on the back of this book cover.

When I…

From Laurie's list on improving your sex life.

Written by a man for men, this detailed guide on giving wives oral sex is filled with truths that will rock her world. Broken into short chapters the book covers everything from what to say so that she can relax, to specific ideas to make her tremble. 

This quick read has a message similar to Becoming Clitorate -- that it's not intercourse that allow most women to work up to orgasm, but gentle, extended clitoral caresses. However, unlike Becoming Clitorate, which is written by a woman for women, She Comes First is written by a man for men, so it has a different sensibility that speaks to men's way of thinking. The two books are quite complementary.

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