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Brutally honest, often hilarious, hard-won lessons in learning to love and care for yourself from a former vice president at Comedy Central who was called “ahead of her time” by Jordan Peele

“You’re going to want Tara Schuster to become your new best friend.”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Untamed

“Compelling, persuasive, and useful no matter where you are in your life.”—Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Life Will Be the Death of Me

By the time she was in her late twenties, Tara Schuster was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. She realized she’d hit rock bottom when she drunk-dialed her therapist pleading for help.

Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is the story of Tara’s path to re-parenting herself and becoming a “ninja of self-love.” Through simple, daily rituals, Tara transformed her mind, body, and relationships, and shows how to

• fake gratitude until you actually feel gratitude
• excavate your emotional wounds and heal them with kindness
• identify your self-limiting beliefs, kick them to the curb, and start living a life you choose
• silence your inner frenemy and shield yourself from self-criticism
• carve out time each morning to start your day empowered, inspired, and ready to rule
• create a life you truly, totally f*cking LOVE

This is the book Tara wished someone had given her and it is the book many of us desperately need: a candid, hysterical, addictively readable, practical guide to growing up (no matter where you are in life) and learning to love yourself in a non-throw-up-in-your-mouth-it’s-so-cheesy way.

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“I have to wonder what my life would have been like if I'd had a friend (or imaginary friend) like Tara Schuster when I was in my twenties. Her candor and sincerity are unimpeachable. The lessons she's extrapolated from her unsentimental education are compelling, persuasive, and useful no matter where you are in your life. Good work, Tara!”—Chelsea Handler, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Life Will Be the Death of Me

“This is the book so many of us need right now: a fierce-but-tender guide to conquering our self-doubt so that we can breathe, be kind to ourselves, and enjoy the one life we’re given.”—Glennon Doyle, #1 New York Times bestselling author of Love Warrior

“This isn’t just a memoir; it’s too helpful for that. But it’s not a self-help guide either; it doesn’t promise to cure your ills and it won’t make you roll your eyes. It’s a bracingly honest, funny read that will make you feel you’re not alone in the world. Tara Schuster’s debut is like Wild meets You Are a Badass, and her reflections offer hope for Millennials that if your parents didn’t quite ace their roles, it’s not too late to re-parent yourself.”—Adam Grant, New York Times bestselling author of Give and Take, Originals, and Option B

“Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is so riveting and smart and funny that the first time I picked it up, I spent hours reading it and nodding along and crying big salty tears over how sad it feels to hate yourself, and how good it feels to start crawling toward joy in spite of everything. Schuster not only offers amazingly concrete, useful advice, but she shares vivid stories that somehow make you feel less alone in the world. I strongly, wholeheartedly recommend this book.”—Heather Havrilesky, author of New York magazine’s “Ask Polly” advice column

“Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies is a game-changer. Full of sage and hilarious real talk, this poignant primer is a fresh way to discover who you are and cultivate who you want to be. Buy this book and then buy the f*cking lilies—unless you have cats because the lilies will kill them. Prepare to laugh, cry, cringe, and thrive.”—Beck Dorey-Stein, New York Times bestselling author of From the Corner of the Oval

“Should I ever be lucky enough to bump into Tara Schusteragain on a hike up Temescal Canyon, I will bow to her and throw roses at her feet, for her lovely observation of our meeting. This is the book I wish I'd had to guide me through my twenties.”—Anjelica Huston

“In this fun, debut memoir-cum-guide to ‘reparenting’ oneself and living one’s best life, Schuster, a Comedy Central executive, candidly shares her worst experiences and what’s she learned from them. She writes of how she went from self-medicating and self-sabotaging to reclaiming her life by developing healthy rituals such as journaling, writing thank you notes, using vision boards, and cultivating gratefulness. She also divulges sage advice she’s been given from mentors and friends, including Jon Stewart and Anjelica Huston. . . . Schuster is jovial throughout and relies on the authority of her experience as she surveys but never overly lauds her impressive career. Filled with gems of wisdom, Schuster’s chronicle of her ups and downs is a winner.”—Publishers Weekly (starred review)

“In this candid guide to self-care, writer and Comedy Central exec Tara Schuster outlines regimented but realistic ways to replace destructive behaviors with healthy ones. . . . Her low-cost tips for a healthy lifestyle are centered around the notion of caring for yourself the way you would care for another. . . . Schuster is generous in sharing her experience with this journey toward mindfulness. Her anecdotes of friendship, work, family, relationships, and self-discovery are sweet and rife with imperfect behavior, which is exactly why readers will find her guidance so effective.”—Booklist

About the Author

Tara Schuster is the author of Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies, selected by Cosmopolitan, Real Simple, Goop, Publishers Weekly, and many more as one of the year’s best books on mental health and self-care. Previously, Schuster served as vice president of talent and development at Comedy Central, where she was the executive in charge of such critically acclaimed shows as the Emmy and Peabody award-winning Key & Peele. A contributor to InStyle, The New Yorker, and Forbes, among others, Tara Schuster lives in Los Angeles.

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Be the Best at the Worst

Start Where You Are

At Comedy Central, where I have worked for the past ten years, we have an intern lunch during which our group of hardworking, sweet, so-clueless-I-have-become-embarrassed-that-I-was-ever-that-young interns can ask us executives for advice. The questions are usually the same.

Q: How do you deal with being a woman in Hollywood?

A: Um . . . Do you have ten hours to talk and not in this room full of my dude colleagues?

Q: How do you make a “good” TV show?

A: No idea. All I do is find the most talented people I can, say a prayer, and get out of the way. Anyone who tells you differently, or that they have some secret sauce, is probably an egomaniac.

Q: How did you get your first big break?

A: I was at my own intern lunch at The Daily Show with Jon Stewart when a fellow intern asked that very same question. I had never worked in television before, and I was in awe of the rigor of that show. Jon was there every day, the entire day, overseeing everything. And the people around him were just so smart. They were the adults you wanted to be: single-minded in their dedication to their work, rushing about in a manner that screamed importance, and totally uninterested in us, the lowly interns. When we finally had our official time to sit with Jon, another intern asked him what his first “big break” was. Jon very quickly, very firmly responded: “There are no big breaks. There are only a series of tiny, little breaks. The key is to work your hardest and do your best at every little break.” Jon Stewart is/was/will forever be my hero, and so I took his words, swallowed them, and tried to make them part of me.

That entire semester at The Daily Show I made it my mission to be the best at the worst of jobs, with the hope that I might find my own little break. When I noticed that a correspondent wanted oatmeal every day but by the time he got into the office it had all been eaten, I saved him packets and put them on his desk with a bowl and a spoon. When I saw that the permanent staff was genuinely annoyed by the interns who constantly did “bits,” trying to out-funny one another in a misguided attempt to “get discovered,” I decided to be quiet and polite. My greatest contribution, however, was cleaning the capsule coffee machine.

Every afternoon after rehearsal, Jon would make himself an iced coffee in a little kitchen nook outside the studio door. I noticed that the machine was often dirty, out of water, or—even worse—broken, and I imagined how annoyed that must make Jon. Here he was trying to get one of the funniest, most important shows on the air, and he couldn’t even get a mediocre capsule coffee? Not on my watch! I saw my first little break.

I treated that machine like a precious object, cleaning it, refilling it, pulling it apart, putting it back together, making sure it was perfect. I read online how to fix the machine and practiced at home by buying a similar model. I spent a good part of my day making sure the thing was in order so there would never be a time when Jon couldn’t have a little coffee. It didn’t occur to me then that I was being pretty intense-bordering-on-psychotic about the machine; instead, I saw this as my way to make a contribution to a show I loved. If I wasn’t going to be a writer on the show, if I was just a lowly intern, at least I could be the lowly intern who could be called upon at any point to fix the single most important item in any creative environment: the coffee machine. I don’t know if it was cleaning the coffee machine or my polite quietness that impressed the producers, but at the end of the semester, they helped me get an entry-level job at Comedy Central. The rest of my career sprung directly from that decision to be the best at something that seemed like the worst.

Today, I tell young people who ask for professional advice to be the best at the worst. Take whatever weird little opportunity you have and maximize the fuck out of it. In a best-case scenario, someone cool will notice. In a worst-case scenario, you will notice and feel pride knowing you are doing a good job, even if the task sucks. Simply put: Start where you are without worrying too much about how far you have to go.

After my twenty-fifth birthday, on my floral duvet, I decided to start where I was. I knew that when it came to healing my own mind, I would have to apply the same persistence, care, and attention I brought to that coffee machine. I would have to show up, figure out what was wrong with the water tank, and work like hell to fix it. I would have to be vigilant and patient, knowing that for no reason at all, sometimes the machine would have a total meltdown and refuse to work, and I’d be left with an ominous red light staring me in the face. While I didn’t have an owner’s manual to my own mind, I did have a quote from Jay-Z to guide me: “Only thing to stop me is me, and I’ma stop when the hook start.” I ardently believe in the first part; I don’t totally know what he means about the hook starting.

Start where you are. Wherever you are. Be the best at the worst.

Writing It Down Saved My Life

Connect to Your Innermost Self

By twenty-five, I knew I was damaged, but I wasn’t totally sure how. Just what exactly was my problem? That shameful drunk-dial to my therapist was just one of many “not okay,” “are you even being a real fucking person right now?” ways I had acted recently. Many days at work, where I was kicking ass at my entry-level job, I would find myself uncontrollably weeping in my cubicle. I would be in the middle of logging stand-up videos when I would feel tears well up from an inexplicable pit of sadness within me. I would look at my snotty, sobbing reflection in the computer monitor and think, What are you doing? The walls of my cubicle insulated me from outsiders just long enough for me to make my way to the personal call room and have a proper cry.

These meltdowns followed me through the office and into the streets of Manhattan, where I often played the role of “girl mysteriously crying on your stoop.” I also played the part of “girl encumbered by too many bags about to burst into tears because the train is slightly delayed/there is a long line to buy a sandwich/any little thing has gone wrong.” I was raw with feelings of extreme unease that manifested into a persistent, slightly dizzy feeling, like I was living outside my body. Was I sick? I seemed to have a permanent headache that throbbed at the base of my cervical spine, then crawled up my neck, wrapped itself around my skull, and finally settled its claws into two painful points above my ears. I had no clue what to do about all of the tears, the sadness, the headaches, the physical and mental pain. I didn’t understand any of it or where it was coming from.

Growing up, fantasizing and creating new stories for myself had been my refuge from the anarchy of my life. From as early as I can remember, I would perform little plays or look for ways to act the part of someone else. When my parents would take me out on their date nights, I would quickly flee our table in order to play the role of “adult friend” to the diners around us. Eight years old and pulsating with tenacity, I would compliment women, telling them, “You are very pretty!” I would ask men, “Are you a sexist, misogynist pig?” I had heard from my mom that this was a very big deal and I wanted to catch any “sexists” and “misogynists” in my midst. The adult couples would politely indulge me as I asked questions like “Do you have enough sex?” or “How do you keep your love life fresh?” The grown-ups would usually burst into surprised laughter before giving me a very PG answer (“Relationships are work”) and looking for my parents. As soon as I got home, I would write down the stories I had heard from the adult world and then perform them in front of my mirror.

I became so enamored with interrogating grown-ups and telling their stories that my mom briefly set up a cable-access television show for me. Girl Talk was filmed in an exam room of her medical office. A pink construction-paper mural covered in puffy paint designs of flowers and hearts hid a gynecological exam chair. On the show, I would interview such luminaries as my mom’s personal trainer, Kim, a bodybuilder with a short blond ponytail and greased-up, Day-Glo orange limbs. I would catch any patient in the hall and ask/demand that she be a guest on my “very important, very popular, very funny television show.” A stunning number of people agreed. My mother canceled my show, not due to poor ratings (because we didn’t have any ratings) but because she needed her exam room back. That’s Hollywood, kiddo.

With my show canceled, I began keeping my own journal. It was full of the musings of a child prodigy: “Jamie Belsky-Briley is 11 out of 10 HOT”; “I would marry Luke Perry, eff Jason Priestley, and kill Ian Ziering (duh)”; “I’m scared to leave my room because my parents are screaming and I don’t want to see them but I ALSO really want to GET OUT OF MY ROOM because mom said the world is full of rapists and murderers who want to kidnap me and I think one is plotting to break in through my bedroom window! How do I escape?” My journal was a safe place where I could be vulnerable and write about how my world felt: violent, tumultuous, confusing, and dangerous.

My diary was something I kept only for me and hid in my candy stockpile under my bed. One day, a family friend walked into my room as I was writing in it. She was a self-described “Wiccan witch” who once “cursed” my father, but I, for some reason, trusted her as the only “normal” adult I knew. (Kind of shows you the lack of reasonable grown-ups I had to choose from, huh?) “What do you have there?” she asked. I confessed that I was keeping a journal where I was tracking everything going wrong around me. My parents were just beginning their divorce, and somehow, just by writing in my little purple-and-green paisley cloth–covered diary, I felt some relief. “That’s great you’re keeping a journal, honey, can I see it?” The request felt a little odd, but so was everything else going on in that house. I agreed. As she skimmed through the pages, reading my secrets, my lies, my truths, my whole body throbbed with one thought: NO, NO, NO, IT’S MINE.

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Publisher ‏ : ‎ Random House Publishing Group; Reprint edition (December 29, 2020)
Language ‏ : ‎ English
Paperback ‏ : ‎ 352 pages
ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0525509909
ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0525509905
Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.19 x 0.8 x 8 inches

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Tara Schuster is an author, playwright, and accomplished entertainment executive, currently serving as Vice President of Talent and Development at Comedy Central. She is currently the Executive in Charge of Lights Out with David Spade, was the Executive in Charge of the Emmy® and Peabody Award-winning Key & Peele, the Emmy® Award winning @Midnight, and numerous other shows including Another Period, Detroiters, and Hood Adjacent. For her work on Key & Peele, Chris Hardwick has called her “brilliant” and Jordan Peele remarked that she is “ahead of her time...she sees the future a little bit.” Her plays have been performed in The New York International Fringe Festival and her writing has appeared in The New Yorker and Forbes online.

Tara’s first book, Buy Yourself the F*cking Lilies: and Other Rituals to Fix Your Life from Someone Who has Been There, has been chosen by People Magazine for New Non-Fiction, is a starred review in Publishers Weekly , and has been covered by Forbes, The Hollywood Reporter, Newsweek, and Parade Magazine among others.

The hilarious and relatable self-help/memoir tells the story of Tara’s path to re-parenting herself and becoming a “ninja of self-love.” By the time Tara was in her late twenties, she was a rising TV executive who had worked for The Daily Show with Jon Stewart and helped launch Key & Peele to viral superstardom. By all appearances, she had mastered being a grown-up. But beneath that veneer of success, she was a chronically anxious, self-medicating mess. No one knew that her road to adulthood had been paved with depression, anxiety, and shame, owing in large part to her minimally parented upbringing. After drunk dialing her therapist on her 25th birthday, she knew she needed a wake-up call.

Through simple, daily rituals, Tara transformed her mind, body, and relationships and hopes to help readers do the same. Her aim for the book is to help readers to create a life they truly, totally f*cking LOVE.

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one of if not the best “get your life in order” self care find yourself books!

Reviewed in the United States on December 28, 2021

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Thank you Tara. While most of the book including the ending Tara brings you along and thanks you, she has an amazing ability to draw the reader in, I felt like I was in so many of the chapters and was part of her friend family. Page after page was filled with inspiration, instruction, examples of self reflection as well as gentle reminders of the faults we face when we truly examine ourselves. For example, it was as though she’s right there with you personally, while you read and say to yourself I can’t journal, she counters it with so many valid reasons why, AND the excuses you are likely giving yourself that ultimately hold you back.
I feel it’s important to mention that though some reviews mention the language, I was unbothered reading it, in fact I wouldn’t want it any different. Tara’s writing was authentic, often brutally honest, encouraging and uplifting. She speaks of glitter but there is no need to filter her words with glittery compromises of politically correct verbiage.
Whereas I was reluctant to journal, I now can’t wait to begin. I’ve already screenshot, printed and posted on my walls certain advice she has given. It’s made me want to set up my “own little office” where I can write, reflect, learn and grow, a place just my own!
Reading this book, at a time of my life where as a new widow, starting over, having to face the past and clueless about the future, I can honestly say Tara gave me hope, direction, and inspiration to make the rest of my life the best of my life.
I ordered the kindle, and will be ordering the hard copy to gift. Thank you Tara, I’ve felt quite lost , despite self help books, therapy and other’s advice, after reading this all I feel now is nothing but possibilities, for the first time in a long time I feel I can conquer the haunts of the past, kick the friend enemy within to the curb and I’m actually excited about the years ahead , navigating my own self discovery and getting to my “Paris”. I highly recommend this book. Sincerely, Susan

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Motivating!

Reviewed in the United States on January 22, 2024

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This is a really motivating read! The voice is fun and sassy and I looked forward to picking it up every time!!

Reviewed in the United States on February 28, 2023

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is feeling at your lowest? is struggling with being an overly independent workaholic who's bad at self care? scoffs at journaling? can't seem to date "good" people? Then you NEED this book. This book changed my life. Tara Schuster is both funny and honest. She tells it how it is, and by the end of the book you feel like old friends. This book changed how I feel about journaling. I KEEP A JOURNAL NOW. I have 100s of times tried to keep one, and only this book was able to change my view on them. I have read this book a few times now. (As an ex-gifted kid who used to read about a book a day, but can no longer read a paragraph this should already convince you) I first read this book in ONE sitting. I read it on a plane ride. I am a pretty private person, but everyone on this plane got to see a really personnel side to me very quickly. I laughed out loud. I sobbed. I jotted down 100s of notes. It is now dogeared, highlighted, and scratched in to the max. I simply cannot encourage you to buy this book enough. BUY IT. You won't regret it.

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The jacket doesn't fit.

Reviewed in the United States on December 12, 2023

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I bought this book as a gift so I don't have a review on the actual contents within.
When I took it out of the book the first thing I saw was that the jacket didn't fit. See pictures. It's a pretty noticeable and significant difference than the size of the book itself. The only reason I bring this very small thing up is because I already have the issue with the jacket size. There is also an indentation at the top across the "B". Normally I would look over this as it's so easy for this to happen.

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Gabbi Bayan

such a good read

Reviewed in the United States on November 9, 2023

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Easy to read. Tara really takes you on a journey of her life and gives you practical tools to begin your growth journey. Truly such an a inspirational book, I’ve recommended to all my friends.

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This Book Changed My Life (in a good way)

Reviewed in the United States on October 4, 2020

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This book changed my life. I will just start there.

I have purchased not one, not two but three copies of this book. I have given it as gifts and read and re-read it.

Tara has this way of making you feel like .. well we aren’t alone in this world and maybe sometimes it is okay to be just where you are. Life moves forward and we all grow (if we choose) and learn from our lessons. We can sometimes even laugh about it.

I was in a place where maybe this book found me .. or I found it but either way .. it changed my life. I had just had a major break up, major surgery and then Covid hit the world and it was a bit much but ... I found some good in the bad. I started journaling .. and writing what I was grateful for and .. going for walks (couldn’t run at the time) and ... bought some thank you cards ... and life got a little bit better.

This book put me on the path to some serious self love and .. becoming a better person.. so that I can make the world a bit better for the people I love. Tara’s book is humorous and there is a vulnerability she shares with the world.. I mean how many of us would write down our “stuff” and put it out there.. for the world to see.

I don’t usually write reviews but this one is worth the time.

We all have the choice to read books and maybe they will help us .. but In the end it isn’t up to the author to change our lives, it is up to us. They give us a little push and perspective in life. I will forever be grateful for this book. I will probably ready it a dozen times and gift it to more friends because I believe the message is positive and a good one and we should all go buy ourselves the fu$King lilies.

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Audrey Taylor

More for the Young

Reviewed in the United States on January 2, 2024

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This book was ok. It really relates to more of the younger generation.

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JLH

This is a good, good book

Reviewed in the United States on October 22, 2023

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I'm typically not a fan of the "self-help" books. However, I've lover this one. Personable, highly relatable, and practical. It doesn't shove advice down your throat, but instead, gives you humorous and real experiences of the author, along with things she's tried. I've been working my way through this while reading my other, fiction, books. Really, really recommend.

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Gaby Muñoz

Me gustó mucho

Reviewed in Mexico on March 23, 2024

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Es un libro con información muy valiosa para poner en práctica en tu vida cotidiana sobre amor propio y formas de contenerte en momentos difíciles emocionalmente

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Jonathan

such piercing insights and openness

Reviewed in Canada on November 1, 2021

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Tara writes from the heart. The book shares both very personal and intimate details of her childhood struggle combined with a compendium of ways to overcome them. The results are engaging and practical. She paints a colourful picture of describing ways one should love oneself, describes her solo dinner playing Ella Fitzgerald, the way she adds small things to her bath to treat herself, provides specifically journaling guidance which combines both personal details and the best advice found in things like the Artists' Way. She seems to have a photographic memory of her childhhood and shares endless pain from how she became embarrassed about her body, and the painful results of herr upbringing. It's even more powerful knowing how she succeeded so well in the television industry with all of this stuff lurking beneath the surface. The book combines intimate sharing, self-help and observations of herself as a work in progress.

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Sonia

Divertente e decisamente di aiuto

Reviewed in Italy on April 11, 2023

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Non é il solito libro di auto aiuto. Tara ti porta nel suo percorso di crescita personale facendoti spesso ridere di gusto! L'ho sentita come se fosse al mio fianco e mi dicesse, anch'io ne ho fatte di ca**ate, ma sono riuscita ad uscirne! Come se un'amica condividere ció che le ha aiutata a superare le difficoltà e ti motiva a provarci anche tu! Da leggere assolutamente!

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Alex U

wordy.

Reviewed in Germany on May 14, 2021

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I really wanted to love this book. I love the idea of the book, and I love the general jist and points she make however the writing was a little too creative for me at times. There is only so much "funny" I can read until it starts to get a bit annoying. The attempt at making every section really "funny" or engaging was at times, just over kill. If it had been toned down, this book would be half as long! still a half decent read, although I can not finish it. Update: sadly the authors political statements are a total turn off

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Emma Helks

*chef's kiss*

Reviewed in Australia on June 18, 2021

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Really just spot on stuff. Loved the audio book and wanted to get my hands on the real thing because of the lists and to make notes in it, so got it shipped to Australia. So great.

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