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An accessible user's guide to overcoming trauma from the creator of a scientifically proven form of psychotherapy that has successfully treated millions of people worldwide.
Whether we’ve experienced small setbacks or major traumas, we are all influenced by our memories and by experiences we may not remember or fully understand. Getting Past Your Past offers practical techniques that demystify the human condition and empower readers looking to take charge of their lives.
Shapiro, the creator of EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), explains how our personalities develop and why we become trapped into feeling, believing and acting in ways that don't serve us. Through detailed examples and exercises readers will learn to understand themselves, and why the people in their lives act the way they do. Most importantly, readers will also learn techniques to improve their relationships, break through emotional barriers, overcome limitations, and excel in ways taught to Olympic athletes, successful executives, and performers.
An easy conversational style, humor, and fascinating real life stories make it simple to understand the brain science, why we get stuck in various ways and how to achieve real change.
- Print length352 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherRodale Books
- Publication dateMarch 26, 2013
- Dimensions5.41 x 0.9 x 8.43 inches
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- Daniel G. Amen, MD Author of Change Your Brain, Change Your Life Francine Shapiro has given a life-transforming gift to the world by her rigorous development of a science-validated approach to soothing the suffering of our small and large life traumas. Through case examples and clearly articulated instructions within Getting Past Your Past our skillful guide takes us through the powerful and practical steps, derived from the treatment of literally millions of people, that can transform trauma into triumph. Explore this book with someone you love...beginning with yourself!" - Daniel J. Siegel, MD Clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA School of Medicine Author of The Developing Mind and MindsightIn Getting Past Your Past, Dr. Francine Shapiro, the developer of EMDR and one of the leading clinical innovators in psychotherapy, translates her groundbreaking method into practical suggestions for those who have been stuck in past events from which they have been unable to free themselves. Eminently readable, Dr. Shapiro has written a volume that is a wonderful resource for those in psychotherapy, as well as those seeking to help themselves. This is a valuable companion for anyone who seeks an understanding of how the past can be carried in our memory networks influencing how we perceive the world, as well as offering practical strategies for growth. - Jeffrey J. Magnavita, Ph.D., ABPP Past President of the Division of Psychotherapy of the American Psychological Association Founder of the Unified Psychotherapy Project
Francine Shapiro's discovery of EMDR is one of the most important breakthroughs in the history of psychotherapy. Having used it as part of my practice for the past 15 years, I, and many of my patients, still marvel at the depth and speed with which it can help heal and change the minds and brains, and even bodily symptoms of people who have been locked in, and suffering from trauma, often for decades. Getting Past Your Past is a wonderful place to begin to understand how such mental healing can occur, filled with case histories of people that are so transformed that these accounts may seem exaggerated. They are not. This book has all the sobriety of a master clinician who has worked in the field of trauma for decades, and is clear, serious, helpful, as it shares with the reader a method of healing trauma that has already helped millions.
- Norman Doidge, MD
Author of The Brain That Changes Itself
In Getting Past Your Past, Francine Shapiro takes her innovative therapy, EMDR, to people everywhere, making the insights and strategies of EMDR treatment available to a broad audience. The transformation of EMDR treatment strategies into self-help techniques is yet another step in Shapiro's journey to make healing from trauma available to all. This book will be a valuable resource for therapists and clients alike, as well as for the many individuals who struggle with the effects of painful life experiences but who do not seek formal treatment.
- Laura S. Brown, Ph.D. ABPP
Past-President, APA Division of Trauma Psychology
Director, Fremont Community Therapy Project
I am forever indebted to Francine Shapiro and EMDR therapy, which helped me to heal from a terrifying panic disorder. People in pain will now be able to read this groundbreaking book and understand how disturbing memories can be reprocessed. Our lives can become joyful instead of fearful. We can live in the present instead of the past.
- Priscilla Warner, author of Learning to Breathe and coauthor of The Faith Club
Getting Past Your Past provides readers with powerful new insights to understand how traumas and disturbances of all kinds disrupt human potential, and how they can deal with their own distress. Through well-chosen case studies the reader shares the profound experiences of a wide range of individuals and learns the EMDR treatment strategies that have enabled clients to strip "visceral" feelings from memories as a turning point on their path to self-regulation and personal safety.
- Stephen W. Porges, PhD
Professor of Psychiatry and Director of the Brain-Body Center at the University of Illinois at Chicago
Author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of emotions, attachment, communication, and self-regulation.
I am grateful to Francine Shapiro for having written Getting Past your Past, a lucid and practical book for transforming people's lives and helping them to savor living in the moment. EMDR is a powerfully effective treatment for overcoming the traumatic imprints of the past.
- Bessel van der Kolk MD
Medical Director Trauma Center, Justice Resource Institute
Director, National Complex Trauma Treatment Network
Professor of Psychiatry
Boston University School of Medicine
It appears that Dr. Francine Shapiro has discovered a profound linkage between the mind and body so that each might be healed. These stories of the rebalancing and revivifying of our dynamic nature reminds us that there are successful approaches to healing that are presently offering remarkable cures.
- Stephen and Ondrea Levine, authors of Who Dies?: An Investigation of Conscious Living and Conscious Dying
Are you painfully enslaved by emotional roadblocks and/or poor relationship choices? Unprocessed memories could be the problem...and EMDR could be the answer. EMDR is a powerful, scientifically validated process that has helped millions of people reclaim their freedom. In Getting Past Your Past, Francine Shapiro makes her practical methods available to the public for the first time. This is self-help at its finest.
- Jeffrey K. Zeig, PhD
Director, The Milton Erickson Foundation
Director, Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference
This self-help book is a cause for tremendous optimism. With EMDR the world finally has a therapy against the damaging effects of trauma, one that is scientifically proven to be effective and quick, low-cost, and widely applicable in a range of settings and cultural milieus. The future of the human potential‹and the world-- looks so much brighter for Francine Shapiro's discovery of EMDR.
- Rolf C. Carriere, former UN development professional and UNICEF
Representative in five Asian countries
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RUNNING ON AUTOMATIC
Why would a beautiful, intelligent woman keep picking the wrong men, and then when they try to break up with her, throw herself on the floor clutching their legs, begging them not to leave?
Ben is a successful businessman. Why is he hit with anxiety whenever he has to make a presentation?
Stacey has been trying one therapist after another for years to discover why she has an almost constant feeling of dread, fears of abandonment and an eating disorder. Strangest of all, she has repeated images of the color red and a candle. It makes no sense to her, but it has been going on for as long as she can remember.
Interestingly, there is a simple explanation for their problems that involves how the brain itself functions. In this book, we will explore both the reasons for suffering and what we can do about it.
WHY WE SUFFER
The truth is we all suffer at one time or another. Situations arise all the time that affect us negatively. But when we continue to have pain long after the experience itself has passed, it is because the hardwiring of our brains influences our minds. Let's try the following experiment so you can see for yourself. I'll give a single sentence and you just notice the first thing that pops into your mind:
Roses are red
The odds are that the first thing to come up was: Violets are blue. For people born in the United States, it's basically the equivalent of a knee- jerk response. This is an important concept, since mental responses are based on physical reactions. Your brain is programmed to respond in the same way as the rest of your body. Regardless of age or gender, when your knee is hit in a certain way your leg will jerk. Similarly, regardless of intention, your mind also reacts automatically. For instance, when is the last time you heard that rhyme? You probably learned it in childhood. So, if you don't live with young children, it was likely many, many years ago. But it came up automatically nonetheless. These types of automatic responses can be wonderful and useful, and show the power of our minds, but they don't always serve us.
Take a look at the sentences themselves. Your response to "Roses are red" wasn't a critical evaluation of its meaning. Your mind just moved along with a response as if it was true. But roses aren't always red. They are also yellow, pink, purple and most any color you can think of. However, that unexamined sentence looks just fine at first glance. And how about the second one: Violets are blue. Are they really? No, actually they are purple. But the line will come up whether it's true or not. Now, probably the sentence didn't cause you any kind of distress. But that same type of automatic response also causes a wide range of problems that disrupt happiness, families and communities. The same mind/brain processes that allow us to recognize a rhyme, or sing along with a tune we haven't heard in 20 years, are the ones that can also drown us in the misery of anxiety, depression, heartache and at times physical pain.
The nursery rhyme has even more to offer. Remember the line that comes after "Violets are blue"? "Sugar is sweet and so are you." Lovely sentiment, and it also comes to mind automatically. But as we all know, while sugar is surely sweet, people are lots more complicated. Everyone is a mixture of sweet, sour and every flavor and variation under the sun. At some point, everyone is angry, sad, jealous, bitter, hurt, insecure, happy or sweet. And when we are, we act accordingly. One moment we cherish the one we are with and cover them with kisses. A day later we may explode and yell at them in frustration. So, basically, some of what we've learned growing up is true, but just as with all the other experiences we've had through childhood, other things are not. Often as youngsters we can't tell the difference, and what we take to be real--such as believing we are inferior because we are bullied or rejected, or thinking we are responsible for our parents' divorce--are really just misperceptions. Nevertheless, these experiences can have effects that come up automatically throughout the rest of our lives, outside our conscious control.
Every experience we've had in our lives has become a building block in our inner world, governing our reactions to everything and every person we encounter. When we "learn" something, the experience is physically stored within networks of brain cells called "neurons." These networks actually form our unconscious mind, determining how our brain interprets the world around us and governing how we feel from moment to moment. These memories include experiences that took place years ago, and our conscious mind is often unaware that they have any impact on us at all. But since the memories are physically stored in the brain, they can pop up outside our control in response to "Roses are red," just as they color our view of every new situation we encounter. They can cause us to feel unattractive when we're not. Depressed when everyone else around us is happy. And they can leave us feeling heartsick if someone leaves us--even if we know consciously that the person is terrible for us and continuing the relationship would be a big mistake. Basically, many of the feelings and actions that undermine our happiness are symptoms that stem from this memory system that forms the unconscious.
Let's take the first case from page 1:
Why would a beautiful, intelligent woman keep picking the wrong men, and then when they try to break up with her, throw herself on the floor clutching their legs, begging them not to leave?
Justine has no problems getting boyfriends. Her problem is keeping them. Now 25 years old, she generally picks men with an "edge" who are emotionally unavailable. Then every time she gets into a relationship, she begins acting clingy and her boyfriend eventually breaks up with her. When this happens, she begins to cry hysterically, falling to her knees and putting her arms around the man's legs, pleading with him not to leave her. In therapy, the cause of this was tracked back to something that happened on a Sunday evening when she was 6 years old. Justine was living with her parents in a two-story house. On that night there was a severe thunderstorm, causing her to become very frightened. Upstairs in her bedroom, she began crying and yelling for her mommy and daddy to come to her. However, they were in the kitchen on the first floor. The storm drowned out her screams, and they didn't hear her. They never came to her rescue and she eventually cried herself to sleep.
How could something as common as this be responsible for her problems? All of us have experienced loud storms sometime in childhood, but only some of us will remain negatively affected by it. We'll go into the detailed reasons for this in later chapters. For now, it's sufficient to know that when negative reactions and behaviors in the present can be tracked directly back to an earlier memory, we define those memories as "unprocessed"--meaning that they are stored in the brain in a way that still holds the emotions, physical sensations and beliefs that were experienced earlier in life. That stormy night Justine was intensely frightened as a child, and had the belief that she was in danger. Her parents didn't come when she cried for them, which also gave her the feeling that she would be abandoned if she really needed them. This memory, stored in her brain with the intense fear she experienced at 6 years old, is stimulated whenever a boyfriend breaks up with her. At this point, she no longer functions as a mature and successful 25-yearold, but instead as a frightened little girl left alone in the dark. We can see the connection, given that the storm and a breakup are both associated with aloneness and abandonment. As such, she unconsciously experiences the breakup as "being in danger."
We experience these types of connections all the time. It's generally the reason for all of the characteristics we love or hate in ourselves and the people around us. It's simply part of the way the brain functions in order to make sense of the world. But identifying the memory connections is just the first step in changing how we think, act or feel. It's not just understanding where something comes from, but also knowing what to do about it that's important. In the course of this book we will be exploring how to identify the memories that underlie personal and relationship problems; what we can do to help manage them on our own; and how to recognize when further professional help would be useful.
We'll also explore the workings of the mind--the intricate connections that form our consciousness--through stories contributed by some of the more than 70,000 clinicians worldwide who practice a form of therapy known as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). Millions of people have been helped by the therapy over the past 20 years, and many of them are giving detailed reports in this book in order to help "demystify" the change process. As research has shown, major changes can take place within even one EMDR reprocessing session. The clients' reports allow us a "window into the brain," since the connections they made answer so many questions about why we react to the world in different ways.
EMDR therapy targets the unprocessed memories that contain the negative emotions, sensations and beliefs. By activating the brain's information processing system (which will be explained in Chapter 2), the old memories can then be "digested." Meaning what is useful is learned, what's useless is discarded, and the memory is now stored in a way that is no longer damaging. For instance, Justine's clinician focused on the thunderstorm along with the feeling she had of being alone and in danger. Once the memory of the thunderstorm was processed, the childhood sensations of terror disappeared and were replaced by the feeling of safety, and the belief that as an adult she could take care of herself. Along with that, the boyfriend problem resolved as her new sense of self resulted in her making different romantic choices. Of course there would be more memories that might have to be dealt with if Justine's parents had been generally abusive or neglectful. But regardless of the number of memories involved, basically we are entering into the person's "unconscious" mind with this form of therapy, in a way that can allow insights, connections and change to occur rapidly within the reprocessing sessions.
WHAT IS THE UNCONSCIOUS MIND?
When most people think of the unconscious, they think of psychoanalysis and movies that involve a Freudian view of psychic conflicts, and symbolic dreams and gestures. From the psychoanalytic perspective it generally takes years of talk therapy and "working through" to gain insight and mastery over forces that are hidden from view. This form of therapy can have great value. But Freud published first in 1900, and many things have changed since then. In the past century there have been new advances in neurobiological technologies that have expanded our understanding of what these "forces" actually are. The examination of the unconscious we are dealing with in this book is one that is based on the workings of the brain itself. Through an understanding of how experiences lay the physical groundwork for our emotional and physical reactions, we can determine how our "stuck" points and knee-jerk mental responses came about and what to do about them.
For instance, let's take the second case:
Ben is a successful businessman. Why is he hit with anxiety whenever he has to make a presentation? Here's how he described it:
"As long as I can remember, I've had anxiety about doing any performance in front of a group of people. My palms sweat, my voice becomes unpredictable, my heart beats fast and I have thoughts like, 'I'm an idiot. I can't do this. Everyone will hate me.' It sometimes felt as though my life was at risk. Sounds ridiculous, but it was so true. As I went through school, there were many times in the normal course of events when I had to make public presentations. In my professional career the same thing happened. I always made it through these events, but not happily. In fact, I suffered before and after every event, and tediously went over every detail with my loved ones, which, as you might imagine, did not delight them. No matter what I tried, nothing seemed to fix this problem. I tried many types of therapy. Sometimes it seemed a little better, but it always came roaring back."
Ben entered into EMDR therapy and used a variety of procedures that we'll learn in this book to identify the source of his problem and change his reactions. Here's what he discovered: "It turns out the cause was something that happened to me when I was no more than 3 1/2 years old. I was walking with my grandfather on his farm in western North Carolina. My memory here is as if I was looking up, like a very small child. I don't remember chattering away to my grandfather, but if family stories can be trusted, I probably was. We met a strange man on the road. He was old, bent, angry looking, with very hairy nostrils. He said to my grandfather in his mountain drawl, 'Well, howdy, if I had a youngun' talked as much as that un, I'd drown him in the creek.' I slipped behind my grandfather's denim-covered leg, peered up the man's nostrils and shut up. I knew that unwanted kittens were in fact 'drowned in the creek.' It did not seem safe to chatter in front of strangers."
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- Language : English
- Paperback : 352 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1609619951
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- Dimensions : 5.41 x 0.9 x 8.43 inches
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About the author
Francine Shapiro, PhD, is an American psychologist who is the originator and developer of EMDR (acronym for 'Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing'), a form of psychotherapy that was developed to resolve symptoms resulting from traumatic and other disturbing life experiences. Based on the positive results of many rigorous scientific studies, EMDR therapy is now recommended as an effective treatment for trauma in numerous international practice guidelines, including those of the American Psychiatric Association and the Department of Defense.
Dr. Shapiro is a recipient of the International Sigmund Freud Award for distinguished contribution to psychotherapy presented by the City of Vienna in conjunction with with the World Council for Psychotherapy, the American Psychological Association Division of Trauma Psychology Award for Outstanding Contributions to Practice in Trauma Psychology, and the Distinguished Scientific Achievement in Psychology Award presented by the California Psychological Association.
Dr. Shapiro is a Senior Research Fellow at the Mental Research Institute, Palo Alto, California, Executive Director of the EMDR Institute, Watsonville, CA, and founder and President Emeritus of the EMDR Humanitarian Assistance Programs, a non-profit organization that coordinates disaster response and pro bono trainings worldwide. This organization is a recipient of the 2011 International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies Sarah Haley Memorial Award for Clinical Excellence.
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Customers find the book informative and helpful, providing a way for conceptualizing problems and empowering coping tools. They describe it as clear, user-friendly, and a must-read for everyone. Readers praise the effective and beneficial EMDR therapy described in the book. The stories and case examples are inspiring and offer hope for change. However, some customers feel the content lacks depth and is repetitive.
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- Reviewed in the United States on August 23, 2012This is a wonderful book. There are no ifs ands or buts about that. And EMDR is a powerful tool. I'm a Therapist, and if EMDR was say, a pair of pliers, I'd have worn it out years ago.
However, in my opinion, that is missing the main point. This is a book that brings an understanding of how negative life experiences in the past can live on and shape what is going on in the 'now' to a broad audience. It is the 'broad audience' part that really makes this book valuable. It is more than just the quite common theme, 'My "tool" works better than your favorite tool for healing' type of book. Or my theory is better than your theory.
Many books on healing and growth focus most of their energy on either the 'why' or the 'how'. One of the keys to healing and growth is having a good balance: an understanding of the 'why', along with some strong tools for transformation. A good understanding of the why, with no tools, weak tools or the wrong tools leaves one strongly self aware, but stuck in the mess. Having great tools is wonderful, but without some understanding of the how, why and when you should use them, you may be figuratively using a jack hammer in an attempt to build a birdhouse. The why gives you a roadmap, the how gives you tools to get down the road. Francine does a solid job of helping one discern their own personal map and a wide array of tools one may select from in her book.
The word personal is key as well. It's not handing one a map, it is helping one build their own map. It is not saying 'These are the tools.' It is providing a wide selection of tools one may choose, or not choose to apply. Tools that you can decide if they might fit for you and if so, how they work for you. One of the things with EMDR that is so notable is that as a Therapist you are not 'doing' EMDR to someone. You help your Client build a map, identify and strengthen tools. Then you help them activate their own built in healing process and stay 'out of the way' other than helping them get unstuck if necessary. I often say when I'm working 'your brain knows what it needs to do to heal'. And it does!
In interest of full disclosure, I am a Therapist who uses EMDR extensively. I as well volunteer for the humanitarian organization EMDR HAP as a Facilitator: ie.e. someone who does the hands on application of skills training for Therapists who work with underserved populations.
EMDR has been a powerful tool for me, both as a Therapist and on the other side of the 'couch' receiving EMDR myself. EMDR is very robust. It appears that when one experiences overwhelming events it is 'stored' in the brain in a different form of memory than 'normal' memory. Often that memory stays in that form and links to other memories stored in a similar fashion. When that memory is evoked it is experienced like it is happening now, often with the power of many other past events 'plugged' in to it. EMDR seems to tap into a natural self healing mechanism so that once an event is processed to resolution, the 'energy' is out of it.
It is difficult to convey the power of EMDR I have witnessed in my Client's lives, my own life and watching as Trainees work on very strong material as part of their training. That is what Francine has done an excellent job of conveying in her book. Understanding how overwhelming events may influence our life, friends, families and others lives, and the world is important. And having the tools to begin healing, allows one to begin alleviating suffering. As well to bring forth the gifts we all possess, that seem to be 'frozen' in the bad stuff from the past that replays like a dollar night horror movie, really brings a boundless cascade of good stuff to our lives and the world.
What Francine does with this book is bring the good things that she has learned about healing over the years, in re both the map and the tools, to the reader. She is intentionally bringing the healing sparks in the dark into the life of all readers, not just those who are Therapists . That is her intent with this book, to make that healing more widely available in the world. We can choose to ignore those sparks, or light them in ourselves and thus bring them to the world. They are always there waiting for us when we are ready for the light.
- Reviewed in the United States on December 5, 2024I got this via interlibrary loan. It's very slow and dense reading for me but it is so packed with useful info and tips - EMDR therapy is body centered and addresses PTSD and old trauma memories so they are integrated and resolved. I have a therapist and this book is an adjunct - recommened by my therapist and written by the woman that 'discovered' the rapid eye movement techniques. I decided that I had to own the book because it will be useful for years to come. It came in great condition, shipped with care, and fast.
- Reviewed in the United States on August 2, 2023I've been working with a therapist on a few issues, and we've been working on incorporating EMDR into my treatment (my therapist is trained in this modality). Reading this book on loan made me realize I had to purchase my own, and I've discussed several passages with my therapist which we were then able to incorporate into my treatment.
The author is the creator of EMDR and this book gives some background for the layperson and discusses how to use techniques with and without a therapist. The author reminds the reader that if they're getting into topics or memories that are painful, complex, or overwhelming, that they should consult a counselor or other psychotheraputic professional. There are several writing exercises that could be used with or without a therapist, both as a way to examine your own thoughts and give a useful jumping-off point for sessions.
Part of the book that spoke most to me was the discussion of C-PTSD. C-PTSD is Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - when the trauma was on-going and less a discrete event. Because EMDR is known so well for its use in treating PTSD from individual incidents (eg, an attack, an accident, etc) I wasn't sure how well it would apply to a more long-term/chronic issue that resulted in C-PTSD. This book helped give my therapist and me a better angle to pursue and it worked very well.
I'd recommend actually doing the writing exercises when possible and making special note of standout incidents - whether you're in therapy or not. It may be worth talking to a therapist/counselor even if you feel like you have everything "dealt with", just in case there's a solution you haven't considered. All in all, excellent book and I'm so glad I read it.
Top reviews from other countries
- Lali GrifellReviewed in the United Kingdom on September 29, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the best books I've ever read
I recommend this book to people struggling with mental health issues, or worried about the mental health issues of a loved one. It includes great self-help tecniques, and a great insight into why mental health problems arise in the first plase. Great read!
- PaminaReviewed in Germany on May 18, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Helpful addition to my psychotherapy
I’ve learned about EMDR first via my therapist working on my complex PTSD. This intrigued me to find out more about Francine Shapiro‘s framework for trauma sensitive therapy. In this book you’ll find many information on the topic, illustrated by plenty of examples. Based on this theoretical framework Shapiro offers a program with exercises to detect unprocessed memories as well as trauma associated cognitions and emotions that still affect your behavior. As a next step you’ll find techniques to help your neuronal system to process these memories or step by step change your maladaptive cognitions, emotions and behavior. So, in addition to the work I do with my therapist, this helps a lot to stabilize myself and get more into depth. I can highly recommend the work of Francine Shapiro.
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Patricia Diaz MengottiReviewed in Spain on May 27, 2020
5.0 out of 5 stars Mindfulness interesante
En perfectas condiciones Para aprender sobre el mindfulness.
- Bashir SaidReviewed in India on December 7, 2019
5.0 out of 5 stars Let go your dreadful past and focus on building your important future.
This is very important book that I have looked for many years. Simply it tell us how to forgo your dreadful past experience and focus your most important future. Reading it joyful as it's well written books.
- AndyReviewed in Australia on June 3, 2021
5.0 out of 5 stars It's never too late to have good childhood?
Essential reading for all I believe, to understand how any level of trauma from childhood or adulthood can affect your every day behaviours and what can be done to unravel/ process them.