As a stay-at-home mom practicing yoga in the 80s, I set an intention to begin my college education when my youngest started kindergarten. Eventually, I earned a Masters Degree in Social Science. The world was not connected then like it is today, and I saw a need for a book to link Western Psychology with Eastern Philosophy, because each looked at the Body/Mind from different perspectives. It evolved to include Spiritual and Emotional aspects as a path to healthy relationships.

Intimacy doesn’t just happen in the bedroom, but in the kitchen as well as at work, and with friends and family. All of our relationships contribute to Whole Person Health.

My memoir, Loving More Than One, is my personal journey from a strict Roman Catholic to a more free-thinking polyamorous bisexual. It begins after high school in the 60s, when I first acknowledged my desire to love both men and women. I did not speak about this to anyone. I followed the rules – to a point, married and had three children before I was 26. My sexual journey is framed by my study of alternative therapies, 12 Step programs, and various religious beliefs, including living and loving in a clothing optional community. It records differences in: family dynamics, women’s upbringing; childbirth practices; divorce laws; and how Lesbians and Bisexuals were viewed. Many things have changed over the decades for many people, but for some – not so much.

Many people still think having more than one partner is a sin. Others adopt Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) as a way of life – even though it is still not “lawful.” No matter where you are on this spectrum, reading about other peoples’ lives allows us to create our own story. We have choices not previously available. This is not a book about Open Marriage, as it was first called, but about the depths of love on many levels.

Deborah Taj Anapol, Ph.D. attended Barnard College, graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of California at Berkeley in 1975 and received her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Washington in 1981.

Dr. Anapol is the author of Polyamory in the 21st Century (2010), Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits (1997) and The Seven Natural Laws of Love (2005) and cofounder of Loving More Magazine, and producer of the video, Pelvic Heart Integration. Dr. Anapol has worked with groups, partners, and individuals who are exploring conscious relationships and sexual healing for over three decades, leads workshops internationally, and is an inspiring and dynamic speaker.

She is currently offering training and consultation for professionals working with polyamorous clients and is available for relationship coaching in person or by telephone, private retreats, seminars, and public speaking engagements. Dr. Anapol has two daughters and two granddaughters and currently divides her time between her permaculture style farm in Hawaii and the San Francisco Bay Area.