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Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion Kindle Edition

by Gabrielle Stanley Blair (Author) Format: Kindle Edition
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THE NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

In Ejaculate Responsibly, Gabrielle Blair offers a provocative reframing of the abortion issue in post-Roe America.

In a series of 28 brief arguments, Blair deftly makes the case for moving the abortion debate away from controlling and legislating women’s bodies and instead directs the focus on men’s lack of accountability in preventing unwanted pregnancies.

Highly readable, accessible, funny, and unflinching, Blair builds her argument by walking readers through the basics of fertility (men are 50 times more fertile than women), the unfair burden placed on women when it comes to preventing pregnancy (90% of the birth control market is for women), the wrongheaded stigmas around birth control for men (condoms make sex less pleasurable, vasectomies are scary and emasculating), and the counterintuitive reality that men, who are fertile 100% of the time, take little to no responsibility for preventing pregnancy. 

The result is a compelling and convincing case for placing the responsibility—and burden—of preventing unwanted pregnancies away from women and onto men.

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Ejaculate Responsibly A Post-Roe world requires a new way to think about abortion
Refocus Abortion is a men's issue
The burden of pregnancy has been wrongly placed on those who are fertile 24 hours a month vs 24/7
Change the behavior Sperm are dangerous. No more irresponsible ejaculations.
Take Action Women's lives are on the line. Ejaculate Responsibly

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"Blair’s fresh reframe should be required reading for any person who has sex, wants to have sex or is raising someone who might have sex in the future. This slender book has what it takes to be the foundation for a movement."―Washington Post

"Flashes of acerbic humor and eye-opening statistics bolster Blair’s common-sense case. This polemic has the power to change minds."―Publishers Weekly

"Any reader of this gorgeous manifesto, men especially, would be hard-pressed to walk away from it without being reminded (*mind blown emoji*) that putting the entire very heavy burden on women to not get pregnant, or to be unable to terminate because of all that’s gone on to make abortion illegal or inaccessible, makes a lot less sense than just not getting them pregnant in the first place."―Oprah Daily

"Slim but mighty tome"―Booklist --This text refers to the paperback edition.

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ABORTION IS A MEN’S ISSUE  
By making the case that men are responsible for all unintended pregnancies, Ejaculate Responsibly turns the usual unproductive and polarizing abortion debate on its head. In 28 brief arguments Gabrielle Blair gets us out of the destructive loop centered on controlling and legislating women’s bodies, focuses on men’s accountability, and presents a powerful, fair, and effective way out of the abortion impasse.

 

--This text refers to the paperback edition.

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  • ASIN ‏ : ‎ B0B5HWBKNC
  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Workman Publishing Company (October 18, 2022)
  • Publication date ‏ : ‎ October 18, 2022
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • File size ‏ : ‎ 3286 KB
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Gabrielle Stanley Blair

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Gabrielle Blair is the founder of DesignMom.com. Started in 2006, it has been named a Parenting Website of the Year by Time Magazine. Both of her books, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, and Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion, are New York Times Bestsellers. Gabrielle is also a founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster annual conference for content creators and creative entrepreneurs, founded in 2009.

As a thought leader for over 16 years, Gabrielle has written and moderated hundreds of discussions on difficult topics, and interviewed some of the most influential people in the world. Her writing is quoted and shared across the globe daily. Gabrielle and her husband, Ben Blair, have six children — Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, and Flora June. After six years in Oakland, they moved to a small town in Normandy, France where they are renovating a house from the 1600s. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @designmom.

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This little book packs a big punch. It should be required reading for every person on the planet above age 14, and every religious, conservative politician or Supreme Court Justice should be required to read it twice. Gabrielle knows of what she speaks. With 28 different arguments she tells us how unwanted pregnancies can be massively reduced when men inform themselves and prepare themselves to step up and support their wives, girlfriends, partners, FWBs, one night stands etc in avoiding the very avoidable circumstance of an unwanted or unintended pregnancy. Blair adds just enough humor to this very serious subject to make it fun to read and easy to absorb. I can’t recommend this book enough. After you finish it, give it to someone else, there’s so much great information and startling statistics, it is absolutely worth sharing with anyone you know.
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One day at a time
5.0 out of 5 stars A must read.
Reviewed in the United States on May 1, 2024
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I read in about an hour. Plain talk and worth every minute! Sending to my young adult son ASAP. What struck me is how you don’t even realize how much we’ve internalized that unwanted pregnancies are a woman’s problem instead of holding men accountable. Even if you are a feminist.
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Jr Ranger
5.0 out of 5 stars Every young man and woman should read this
Reviewed in the United States on April 2, 2024
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My first review was censored. No idea why. My language here will be more circumspect. I suspect that even repeating the title will trigger a censor-bot, sigh.
The book deserves 5 stars for accuracy and clarity about a subject which rhymes with flex, connects, & complex effects.
The author speaks frankly about little things that come out of men and fertilize things in women to create little people. It talks about taking responsibility for keeping things apart so little people aren't created. It's a short, approachable, non-inflammatory book, appropriate for use in highschool and college health and human (rhymes with ejects) classes. It discussed life choices (can I say that word, choice? Or will that trigger another notification that I've violated community guidelines?)
Written by a married parent of 6, belonging to a well established church, it will be acceptable to all communities, regardless of their stance various social and economic issues.
Get it, read it and pass it along to your favorite fertile man and woman.
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Reviewed in the United States on December 31, 2023
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This little book packs a big punch. It should be required reading for every person on the planet above age 14, and every religious, conservative politician or Supreme Court Justice should be required to read it twice. Gabrielle knows of what she speaks. With 28 different arguments she tells us how unwanted pregnancies can be massively reduced when men inform themselves and prepare themselves to step up and support their wives, girlfriends, partners, FWBs, one night stands etc in avoiding the very avoidable circumstance of an unwanted or unintended pregnancy. Blair adds just enough humor to this very serious subject to make it fun to read and easy to absorb. I can’t recommend this book enough. After you finish it, give it to someone else, there’s so much great information and startling statistics, it is absolutely worth sharing with anyone you know.
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This little book packs a big punch. It should be required reading for every person on the planet above age 14, and every religious, conservative politician or Supreme Court Justice should be required to read it twice. Gabrielle knows of what she speaks. With 28 different arguments she tells us how unwanted pregnancies can be massively reduced when men inform themselves and prepare themselves to step up and support their wives, girlfriends, partners, FWBs, one night stands etc in avoiding the very avoidable circumstance of an unwanted or unintended pregnancy. Blair adds just enough humor to this very serious subject to make it fun to read and easy to absorb. I can’t recommend this book enough. After you finish it, give it to someone else, there’s so much great information and startling statistics, it is absolutely worth sharing with anyone you know.
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EDJ
5.0 out of 5 stars Absolutely Brilliant - should be compulsory sex education in high schools
Reviewed in the United States on December 1, 2023
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This book should be part of sex education in every High School possibly around the globe but especially in the western world.

People with penises are more fertile than people with vaginas. They should use condoms or vasectomies during all penetrative sexual encounters unless they are trying (as a couple) to conceive a baby. This would lower the abortion rate. This would lower the spread of STIs. People with penises can, in fact, find brands of condoms that make little or no difference to their personal experience of pleasure.

I kept laughing as I read this book because it packs a brutal punch. Why haven’t people with penises taken as much responsibility for contraception and STI protection as people with vaginas? Why aren’t they boasting about the amazing brands of condoms that offer them protection from both unwanted pregnancy and STIs, and with barely an impact on pleasure? Why aren’t they boasting about their vasectomies and how they recovered within a few days, were back at work and now able to have sex without concern that they might conceive?

People with vaginas have paid a high price using hormonal contraceptives that often do decrease their pleasure and wreak havoc on their bodies and hormones. People with penises need to step up. Everyone wants to see the abortion rate decrease and the most effective way to do that is to educate people with penises how to ejaculate responsibly! It’s actually a no brainer! People with penises actually should be held accountable as much as people with vaginas have been in the past. Gabrielle argues they should be even more accountable because they are statistically, on average, 50 times more fertile.

If I had kids with penises I would teach them this. I will be encouraging family and friends to read it. I think it should be taught in high schools.

I loved this book!
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SueT
5.0 out of 5 stars Bought 2, one for my 18 year old grandson, one for me. to share.
Reviewed in the United States on February 14, 2024
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I feel this is a must read for all teenagers and especially in today's environment. It is spot on truth and medically correct. Our society can start thinking about pregnancy issues as not just a female issue, instead a male created issue.
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Eric Wrightson
5.0 out of 5 stars Required Reading
Reviewed in the United States on February 25, 2024
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This should be required reading for everyone. It is straightforward, devastating, and utterly true. People need to start holding men responsible. Period. That is all.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Conversational tone makes for approachable, even fun reading
Reviewed in the United States on October 18, 2023
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I loved the simple message, presented simply. This is a quick and easy read--but one with profound implications. The idea is simply this: every unplanned pregnancy originates with ejaculate, that is, sperm. The book we've all been waiting for. I have bought and given away 5 copies. Next up, I am buying several more to send to my reps in Congress. We CAN fix this problem, folks, and it's not going to be as difficult as you might think. A bit of education for our darling hubbies, sons, and brothers. Some help from the medical and research communities. It CAN be done!
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Laura
5.0 out of 5 stars Mind blown!
Reviewed in Canada on October 19, 2023
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Everyone should read this book - women and men. The information is straightforward and factually correct and well-laid out in an easy to read and understand manner. It really is a whole new way to think about abortion.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Interesting way to discuss an old theme
Reviewed in Brazil on November 8, 2022
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It's a quick (I read it in an afternoon) and refreshing way to discuss the abortion theme, and so obviously logic that it’s a mystery why it has not been done before (not really, the answer is misogyny, as explained in the book). Gabrielle Blair writes in a very clear, easy and pacient way, I believe it's a perfect book to gift tenagers and young adults.
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lalla
5.0 out of 5 stars Everybody shoul read it, from puberty onward
Reviewed in Italy on January 8, 2024
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I'm suggesting this little essay to all my friends, as it's a super powerful explanation on how to make feel women free from the stigma of responsibility of unwanted pregnancies and on the other hand it clarifies what are the real fundamental men's responsibilities behind every abortion.
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Carol El Hawary
5.0 out of 5 stars Best book I've ever read on preventing abortion
Reviewed in the United Kingdom on December 6, 2023
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This is an outstanding book. Using facts, evidence and research (all provided), the author makes an entirely compelling case on the best way to prevent unwanted pregnancies and resulting abortions. Short, easy to read and perfectly uncompromising on where responsibility should truly lie. A masterpiece.

In fact, this book should be required reading for children when they reach puberty. For the boys so that as adult men they can make the choice to ejaculate responsibly, and for the girls so they understand that the enormous burden of preventing unwanted pregnancies does not fall completely to them, as it largely does now. I wish I'd had it when I was that age. I'd have made very different decisions.
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ariane
5.0 out of 5 stars Génial !
Reviewed in Belgium on October 20, 2023
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Ce livre propose un point de vue tellement surprenant et rafraîchissant ! Une fois qu’on l’a lu, on se demande comment on a pu être aveugle pendant aussi longtemps !!! J’ai hâte que la version française arrive pour pouvoir le distribuer autour de moi !!! Un message important et qui fait et fera la différence ! Il y a un avant et un après! Je le recommande vivement ! Il se lit super vite en plus 😉
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