Almost a year ago, a friend recommended that I pick up and read this book. I scanned the reviews and recommendations, but dragged my feet because I thought it's message might be outdated since it was published in 1991. How incredibly wrong I was. Psychotherapist, Sonya Friedman, has focused a high beam on several critical issues for women and relationships in this wonderful piece of nonfiction.
With amazing clarity, Dr. Freidman articulates her main message and calls it simply the "feminine mistake" -- the cultural and long-held family truth that women can somehow find happiness and answers from outside themselves. The more we serve others, the better we should feel. And naturally with this message comes the much more destructive reverse side of the coin. If we are not happy, working harder at what we are currently doing will somehow solve everything.
Dr. Freidman then reconstucts a new reality with her nine facts of real life. Each fact counters a covert message or "myth" that we have received from infancy from parents, loved ones, friends, the media or our culture at large. My personal favorite is myth #2 - you can always find a way to please everyone, including yourself.
Focusing on change and solutions, Dr. Freidman then sets the ground work for lasting improvement and ways for everyone to hold on to their identity and self, even in the closest of relationships. I highly recommend this smart, helpful and amazing book.
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