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ARE YOU A HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON?
Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you noted for your empathy? Your conscientiousness? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a highly sensitive person (HSP) and Dr. Elaine Aron’s The Highly Sensitive Person is the life-changing guide you’ll want in your toolbox.
Over twenty percent of people have this amazing, innate trait. Maybe you are one of them. A similar percentage is found in over 100 species, because high sensitivity is a survival strategy. It is also a way of life for HSPs.
In this 25th anniversary edition of the groundbreaking classic, Dr. Elaine Aron, a research and clinical psychologist as well as an HSP herself, helps you grasp the reality of your wonderful trait, understand your past in the light of it, and make the most of it in your future. Drawing on her many years of study and face-to-face time spent with thousands of HSPs, she explains the changes you will need to make in order to lead a fuller, richer life.
Along with a new Author’s Note, the latest scientific research, and a fresh discussion of anti-depressants, this edition of The Highly Sensitive Person is more essential than ever for creating the sense of self-worth and empowerment every HSP deserves and our planet needs.
“Elaine Aron has not only validated and scientifically corroborated high sensitivity as a trait—she has given a level of empowerment and understanding to a large group of the planet’s population. I thank Dr. Aron every day for her having brought this awareness to the world.”
—Alanis Morissette, artist, activist, teacher
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherCitadel Press
- Publication dateDecember 1, 2013
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THE HIGHLY SENSITIVE PERSON
“Elaine Aron’s perceptive analysis of this fundamental dimension of human nature is must reading. Her balanced presentation suggests new paths for making sensitivity a blessing, not a handicap.”
—Philip G. Zimbardo,author of Shyness
“Enlightening and empowering, this book is a wonderful gift to us all.”
—Riane Ensler, author of Nurturing Our Humanity
“Shy people fear being judged or rejected, whereas highly sensitive people have a keen awareness of their environment, frequently becoming overstimulated by it.”
—Self
“If you are easily overwhelmed by noise, chaos, and emotions; perform poorly when being observed; and require time alone each day, there is no need to worry; recent research shows your heightened sensitivity can do you more good than harm.”
—Counseling Today
“The first book that helps readers to identify their highly sensitive trait and to make the most of it.”
—Counseling and Human Development
“Aron combines self-tests with useful, unclichéd advice on stress control and provocative descriptions of research.”
—Fitness
“At book signings, people have come up to her [Elaine Aron] and said, ‘You've saved my life.’”
—San Francisco Chronicle
“Aron's book is not a fly-by-night, self-help tome, but instead a serious effort to explore a subject on which little has been done.”
—Portland Oregonian
“This book is a valuable resource for the HSP, as well as those who are trying to understand the HSP.”
—The New Times
“This innovative psychologist has figured out that the extreme reactivity of a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) can be a good thing. This comes as a relief to people like me—and probably you, too.”
—Pathways
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--John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus
"Elaine Aron's perceptive analysis of this fundamental dimension of human nature is must reading. Her balanced presentation suggests new paths for making sensitivity a blessing, not a handicap."
--Philip G. Zimbardo, Ph.D., author of Shyness: What It Is, What to Do About It
"Enlightening and empowering, this book is a wonderful gift to us all."
--Riane Eisler, author of The Chalice and the Blade
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Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you "too shy" or "too sensitive" according to others? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while, but for the Highly Sensitive Person, it's a way of life. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Elaine Aron, a psychotherapist, workshop leader and highly sensitive person herself, shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations. Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews, she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller, richer life.
In The Highly Sensitive Person , you will discover:
* Self-assessment tests to help you identify your particular sensitivities
* Ways to reframe your past experiences in a positive light and gain greater self-esteem in the process
* Insight into how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships
* Tips on how to deal with overarousal
* Informations on medications and when to seek help
* Techniques to enrich the soul and spirit
From the Back Cover
Do you have a keen imagination and vivid dreams? Is time alone each day as essential to you as food and water? Are you "too shy" or "too sensitive" according to others? Do noise and confusion quickly overwhelm you? If your answers are yes, you may be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP).
Most of us feel overstimulated every once in a while, but for the Highly Sensitive Person, it's a way of life. In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Elaine Aron, a psychotherapist, workshop leader and highly sensitive person herself, shows you how to identify this trait in yourself and make the most of it in everyday situations. Drawing on her many years of research and hundreds of interviews, she shows how you can better understand yourself and your trait to create a fuller, richer life.
In "The Highly Sensitive Person, you will discover:
* Self-assessment tests to help you identify your particular sensitivities
* Ways to reframe your past experiences in a positive light and gain greater self-esteem in the process
* Insight into how high sensitivity affects both work and personal relationships
* Tips on how to deal with overarousal
* Informations on medications and when to seek help
* Techniques to enrich the soul and spirit
About the Author
Elaine N. Aron is the bestselling author of The Highly Sensitive Person and its companion books, The Highly Sensitive Persons Workbook, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, and The Highly Sensitive Child. Dr. Aron graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of California, Berkeley. She earned her MA at York University in Toronto and her PhD at Pacifica Graduate Institute, Santa Monica. Dr. Aron has also been published widely in academic journals and online publications, including the Huffington Post and WebMD. She divides her time between New York and San Francisco, where she maintains a psychotherapy practice.
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"Scaredy-cat!"
"Don't be a spoilsport!"
Echoes from the past? And how about this well-meaning warning: "You're just too sensitive for your own good."
If you were like me, you heard a lot of that, and it made you feel there must be something very different about you. I was convinced that I had a fatal flaw that I had to hide and that doomed me to a second-rate life. I thought there was something wrong with me.
In fact, there is something very right with you and me. If you answer true to fourteen or more of the questions on the self-test at the end of this preface, or if the detailed description in chapter 1 seems to fit you (really the best test), then you are a very special type of human being, a highly sensitive person--which hereafter we'll call an HSP. And this book is just for you.
Having a sensitive nervous system is normal, a basically neutral trait. You probably inherited it. It occurs in about 15-20 percent of the population. It means you are aware of subtleties in your surroundings, a great advantage in many situations. It also means you are more easily overwhelmed when you have been out in a highly stimulating environment for too long, bombarded by sights and sounds until you are exhausted in a nervous-system sort of way. Thus, being sensitive has both advantages and disadvantages.
In our culture, however, possessing this trait is not considered ideal and that fact probably has had a major impact on you. Well-meaning parents and teachers probably tried to help you "overcome" it, as if it were a defect. Other children were not always as nice about it. As an adult, it has probably been harder to find the right career and relationships and generally to feel self-worth and self-confidence.
What This Book Offers You
This book provides basic, detailed information you need about your trait, data that exist nowhere else. It is the product of five years of research, in-depth interviews, clinical experience, courses and individual consultations with hundreds of HSPs, and careful reading between the lines of what psychology has already learned about the trait but does not realize it knows. In the first three chapters you will learn all the basic facts about your trait and how to handle overstimulation and overarousal of your nervous system.
Next, this book considers the impact of your sensitivity on your personal history, career, relationships, and inner life. It focuses on the advantages you may not have thought of, plus it gives advice about typical problems some HSPs face, such as shyness or difficulty finding the right sort of work.
It is quite a journey we'll take. Most of the HSPs I've helped with the information that is in this book have told me that it has dramatically changed their lives--and they've told me to tell you that.
What You'll Need
I have found that HSPs benefit from a fourfold approach, which the chapters in this book will follow.
1. Self-knowledge. You have to understand what it means to be an HSP. Thoroughly. And how it fits with your other traits and how your society's negative attitude has affected you. Then you need to know your sensitive body very well. No more ignoring your body because it seems too uncooperative or weak.
2. Reframing. You must actively reframe much of your past in the light of knowing you came into the world highly sensitive. So many of your "failures" were inevitable because neither you nor your parents and teachers, friends and colleagues, understood you. Reframing how you experienced your past can lead to solid self-esteem, and self-esteem is especially important for HSPs, for it decreases our overarousal in new (and therefore highly stimulating) situations.
Reframing is not automatic, however. That is why I include "activities" at the end of each chapter that often involve it.
3. Healing. If you have not yet done so, you must begin to heal the deeper wounds. You were very sensitive as a child; family and school problems, childhood illnesses, and the like all affected you more than others. Furthermore, you were different from other kids and almost surely suffered for that.
HSPs especially, sensing the intense feelings that must arise, may hold back from the inner work necessary to heal the wounds from the past. Caution and slowness are justified. But you will cheat yourself if you delay.
4. Help With Feeling Okay When Out in the World and Learning When to Be Less Out. You can be, should be, and need to be involved in the world. It truly needs you. But you have to be skilled at avoiding overdoing or underdoing it. This book, free of the confusing messages from a less sensitive culture, is about discovering that way.
I will also teach you about your trait's effect on your close relationships. And I'll discuss psychotherapy and HSPs--which HSPs should be in therapy and why, what kind, with whom, and especially how therapy differs for HSPs. Then I'll consider HSPs and medical care, including plenty of information on medications like Prozac, often taken by HSPs. At the end of this book we will savor our rich inner life.
The Research Behind This Book
As knowledge about my trait changed my life, I decided to read more about it, but there was almost nothing available. I thought the closest topic might be introversion. The psychiatrist Carl Jung wrote very wisely on the subject, calling it a tendency to turn inward. The work of Jung, himself an HSP, has been a major help to me, but the more scientific work on introversion was focused on introverts not being sociable, and it was that idea which made me wonder if introversion and sensitivity were being wrongly equated.
With so little information to go on, I decided to put a notice in a newsletter that went to the staff of the university where I was teaching at the time. I asked to interview anyone who felt they were highly sensitive to stimulation, introverted, or quick to react emotionally. Soon I had more volunteers than I needed.
Next, the local paper did a story on the research. Even though there was nothing said in the article about how to reach me, over a hundred people phoned and wrote me, thanking me, wanting help, or just wanting to say, "Me, too." Two years later, people were still contacting me. (HSPs sometimes think things over for a while before making their move!)
Based on the interviews (forty for two to three hours each), I designed a questionnaire that I have distributed to thousands all over North America. And I directed a random-dialing telephone survey of three hundred people as well. The point that matters for you is that everything in this book is based on solid research, my own or that of others. Or I am speaking from my repeated observations of HSPs, from my courses, conversations, individual consultations, and psychotherapy with them. These opportunities to explore the personal lives of HSPs have numbered in the thousands. Even so, I will say "probably" and "maybe" more than you are used to in books for the general reader, but I think HSPs appreciate that.
Deciding to do all of this research, writing, and teaching has made me a kind of pioneer. But that, too, is part of being an HSP. We are often the first ones to see what needs to be done. As our confidence in our virtues grows, perhaps more and more of us will speak up--in our sensitive way.
Instructions to the Reader
1. Again, I address the reader as an HSP, but this book is written equally for someone seeking to understand HSPs, whether as a friend, relative, advisor, employer, educator, or health professional.
2. This book involves seeing yourself as having a trait common to many. That is, it labels you. The advantages are that you can feel normal and benefit from the experience and research of others. But any label misses your uniqueness. HSPs are each utterly different, even with their common trait. Please remind yourself of that as you proceed.
3. While you are reading this book, you will probably see everything in your life in light of being highly sensitive. That is to be expected. In fact, it is exactly the idea. Total immersion helps with learning any new language, including a new way of talking about yourself. If others feel a little concerned, left out, or annoyed, ask for their patience. There will come a day when the concept will settle in and you'll be talking about it less.
4. This book includes some activities which I have found useful for HSPs. But I'm not going to say that you must do them if you want to gain anything from this book. Trust your HSP intuition and do what feels right.
5. Any of the activities could bring up strong feelings. If that happens, I do urge you to seek professional help. If you are now in therapy, this book should fit well with your work there. The ideas here might even shorten the time you will need therapy as you envision a new ideal self--not the culture's ideal but your own, someone you can be and maybe already are. But remember that this book does not substitute for a good therapist when things get intense or confusing.
This is an exciting moment for me as I imagine you turning the page and entering into this new world of mine, of yours, of ours. After thinking for so long that you might be the only one, it is nice to have company, isn't it?
Are You Highly Sensitive? A Self-Test
Answer each question according to the way you feel. Answer true if it is at least somewhat true for you. Answer false if it is not very true or not at all true for you.
I seem to be aware of subtleties in my environment.
Other people's moods affect me.
I tend to be very sensitive to pain.
I find myself needing to withdraw during busy days, into bed or into a darkened room or any place where I can have some privacy and relief from stimulation.
I am particularly sensitive to the effects of caffeine.
I am easily overwhelmed by things like bright lights, strong smells, coarse fabrics, or sirens close by.
I have a rich, complex inner life.
I am made uncomfortable by loud noises.
I am deeply moved by the arts or music.
I am conscientious.
I startle easily.
I get rattled when I have a lot to do in a short amount of time.
When people are uncomfortable in a physical environment I tend to know what needs to be done to make it more comfortable (like changing the lighting or the seating).
I am annoyed when people try to get me to do too many things at once.
I try hard to avoid making mistakes or forgetting things.
I make it a point to avoid violent movies and TV shows.
I become unpleasantly aroused when a lot is going on around me.
Being very hungry creates a strong reaction in me, disrupting my concentration or mood.
Changes in my life shake me up.
I notice and enjoy delicate or fine scents, tastes, sounds, works of art.
I make it a high priority to arrange my life to avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations.
When I must compete or be observed while performing a task, I become so nervous or shaky that I do much worse than I would otherwise.
When I was a child, my parents or teachers seemed to see me as sensitive or shy.
SCORING YOURSELF
If you answered true to twelve or more of the questions, you're probably highly sensitive.
But frankly, no psychological test is so accurate that you should base your life on it. If only one or two questions are true of you but they are extremely true, you might also be justified in calling yourself highly sensitive. The rest of this book will help you understand yourself better and learn to thrive in today's not-so-sensitive world.
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- Publisher : Citadel Press (December 1, 2013)
- Publication date : December 1, 2013
- Language : English
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About the author
Elaine Aron, Ph.D., is recognized internationally as one of the leading scientists studying the psychology of love and close relationships. Dr. Aron’s research on love, conducted with her husband, Dr. Art Aron, has been featured in the New York Times, Time, and National Geographic. She is the author of The Highly Sensitive Person, The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, and The Highly Sensitive Child. She has lived in many places all over North America, from a geodesic dome on Cortes Island to an aging southern mansion on Peachtree Street in Atlanta, and now divides her time between New York and San Francisco.
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Customers find the book insightful and helpful. It helps them understand themselves better and makes some points. The psychological research provides credibility and substantiates the author's premise. Overall, the tone of acceptance and empowerment is appreciated.
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Customers find the book helpful for recognizing and accepting their sensitivity. It offers explanations and illustrations of the spectrum of sensitivity, which includes physical, psychological, and spiritual awareness. The book helps readers understand and appreciate their sensitivity as an asset in daily life.
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Customers appreciate the book's insight into the personality trait. They find it helpful in defining and explaining it. The book offers an alternative perspective on differences and how they are valuable. It provides useful information for both the public and professionals. The author's tone is gentle and kind, and being an HSP is seen as a noble calling.
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- Reviewed in the United States on April 9, 2017This may be the best book I have read in years. Maybe a decade. I was a year and a half into a very stressful job with a bully boss when I found this book -- I'd heard about it for years but thought the title sounded girlie and wimpy so I hesitated to read it. I don't like gooey, emotional, sappy stuff. Well guess what... no sap here. Or at least so little sap that a person who doesn't like sappy didn't really notice. Instead I found a smart, astute, science-based book which explained to me why I was slowly dying at my job, why I could not sleep at night, and why I was so stressed at work that I literally could not stomach my sandwich at lunch but would almost throw it up every day (but I could eat at home) -- I was operating at a level of physical stress which was impossible for a highly sensitive person to sustain, and yet I was somehow sustaining it. (I am very stubborn.) Once I actually looked at myself, looked at my actual situation, stopped blaming myself for being "weak" and "broken" and "not tough enough" and stopped trying to be what I am not, I saw clearly that I was ignoring my physical body's symptoms of extreme stress and hurting myself bad. Reading this was a wake up call at a time in my life when I really needed it, and gave me enough confidence to finally stand up to my impossible to please, bullying, manipulative boss and just quit. I am going back to school and retraining to become a software developer so that I can work in an environment that won't kill me. Not everyone is the same; everyone has different physical tolerances. If you find yourself "too sensitive" etc, give yourself a break. You are not a clone of the extrovert next to you. Pay attention to your body and read this book. IF YOU ARE AN EXTROVERT, PLEASE READ THIS BOOK. If you are NOT highly sensitive, please read this book!!! I wish to God every human being would read this book so people could finally start understanding each other, and society in general would stop hurting those among them who are not built with the same nervous system that the 80% majority of humanity has!!!! This has nothing to do with race boundaries, religion, nationality... this is all about pure genetics and how our species (in fact how over 100 species on this planet) function. It's ground breaking work.
- Reviewed in the United States on August 7, 2015Reading this book felt like coming home.
It explained why I cry so easily (especially even during happy moments), why I crave nature and quiet, why I'm the type to "go with my gut" (and am usually right), why I cannot watch stressful, violent or disturbing shows or movies, why music moves me so powerfully, why I feel like I constantly have to take time for myself, why I feel like I live at a much slower pace than everyone else around me, why I have always had digestive issues, and so much more.
Elaine is also an HSP so she writes not only from professional experience, but personal as well. She takes on a tone of acceptance and empowerment throughout the book, which is radically different than what most of us are used to hearing as an HSP.
I wish I would have known about this personality trait and read this book as an adolescent. It would have saved me from so much grief and struggling to try and be something I was not. My husband has read it too and it has made a night and day difference almost in our marriage. He suddenly gets things that I have struggled for the past ten years to put into words. And he's also discovered that while he may not be an HSP, he is still at least moderately sensitive, so the book has helped him a lot too.
To quote Frida Kahlo (who was probably an HSP too): “I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it's true I'm here, and I'm just as strange as you.”
If you even suspect you are an empath or highly sensitive person, or you think a loved one might be --- please, please, please read this book. It is not a difficult read and it is not a long book. It will give you so much insight into this amazing personality trait. Empaths/HSPs are not weird, they're not "wrong" or broken. They just have a different set of needs because of how they are made.
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CeliaReviewed in Mexico on November 24, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Buen libro para quien le interesa el tema
Buen libro para quien le interesa el tema
- Amazon CustomerReviewed in Canada on September 6, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Very informative for all
Great read for HSP’s or not. Better understanding one another is always a positive :)
- A. B.Reviewed in Brazil on January 11, 2022
5.0 out of 5 stars Very helpful book
If you really are an HSP+ you will find this book extremely helpful, it carries lots of interesting info that can actually support you in reframing your perception of yourself and the world around you. The book is worth every penny.
- Xhao MarisReviewed in India on August 23, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars Very Insightful
The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N. Aron enabled me to embrace my sensitivity and gave me some valuable insights on how to navigate life. Highly recommended to anyone who feels things deeply.
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angelikaReviewed in Germany on March 24, 2024
5.0 out of 5 stars standardwerk
Gründlich recherchiertes und fundiertes Standardwerk aus den Neunziger Jahren von Elaine N. Aron, die selbst HSP ist.
Einige Fakten schockieren mich, z.B.:
In den Neunziger Jahren wurden in den USA fast die Hälfte der Kinder von "nicht adäquaten" Eltern aufgezogen. (Ich weiß nicht, ob diese Zahlen auf Europa/ Deutschland übertragbar sind bzw. ob es hier ähnliche Erhebungen gibt?) Eine mögliche Folge ist, dass diese Kinder kein Urvertrauen bilden können und bindungsgestört sind.